How to stop swearing

Obscene language has long ceased to be something surprising and unusual in our life, and, despite the fact that obscenities are still a sign of bad upbringing, we less and less often attach importance to this phenomenon. Obscene speech is considered an integral part of history and culture, however, you should not pour it on the right and left to express admiration, indignation or insert a strong word to simplify the argumentation of opinion. If you are determined to get rid of parasitic words in your speech, try our advice in practice.

Why you can't swear

Researchers have long recognized obscene language as one of the types of speech aggression and a way to throw out negativity on the interlocutor, because any word spoken by a person carries energy. Sometimes the use of swearing becomes so commonplace that we do not even notice how often we raise our voice and express our point of view through abuse.

Profanity, used with and without reason, significantly reduces the general vocabulary, makes speech poor and vulgar. In addition, swearing causes a painful and unpleasant impression on a well-mannered and cultured interlocutor, leads to thoughts about the mental and psychological state of a person (as you know, people with complexes, suffering from low self-esteem and other problems, often swear).

Swearing is so firmly embedded in our vocabulary that sometimes, even after realizing the problem, it can be difficult to get rid of it, because it requires a lot of self-control and self-control, and the first step is to identify the reasons for the frequent use of curses.

Three types of behavior and three main motives:

• One of the most common reasons for the violent "flowering" of swearing can be called the difficulties of puberty, when young people and girls try to show their "I" in this way, rebel against the system, or simply imitate older comrades, heroes of films and computer games. The growing up of a child in itself is one continuous stress and a great emotional load, it seems to a teenager that he is brave and impudent, but wise parents understand that this is just a desire to hide fears and inner complexes. It is very important to convey the correct understanding of the situation to a boy or girl, to show what their behavior looks like in the eyes of society.
• For most adults, foul language is a way to vent aggression and tension without using physical force. In other words, when there is no more strength to hold back, the so-called "three-story" checkmate is used. Remember that this is not a way to get rid of nervous stress, in any case, you demonstrate an aggressive model of behavior and the opponent, upon hearing insults, may well start a fight first, and especially legally savvy citizens decide the issue through the courts. Try to blow off steam in other ways, such as sports.
• Such a phenomenon is also widespread - a part of society is so accustomed to the use of taboo vocabulary that it does not just insert it into its speech, but literally expresses itself with obscenities, that is, swearing becomes a lifestyle. What to do in this case? Take a look at yourself from the outside and think about what people might think of you in a decent society, where it is not customary to use such words, at least you will make a negative impression.

How to stop swearing

First of all, realize that mate is not the root cause and main problem in your life, but just a by-product of stress and psychological discomfort that is felt for a long time. Initially, a negative outlook, anger, a critical perception of oneself is formed, which is why it is so important to engage in introspection if you really want to solve a number of problems, including stopping using foul language. Take a piece of paper and write down the answers to a few questions:

• Remember, in what situations do you use abuse most often, what people, events are a provoking factor?
• How does taboo vocabulary help you and how does it interfere with communicating with people?
• Imagine that you were able to cope with the problem and no longer swear. Are there any pluses in your life? Or, on the contrary, now there is no way to pour out aggression?
• Are these words really necessary, are they so important to you?

After answering a number of questions to yourself, analyze them and make a plan to get rid of parasitic words from speech using the following tips:

• Having understood the motives for using obscene language, you will either change your attitude towards the situation, or completely eliminate the possibility of its occurrence. For example, car drivers often sin with foul language, they are annoyed by other road users, fatigue, stress and fear affect them. But what will you decide if you swear at pedestrians and other drivers? Most likely, they will not even hear you, but the concentration of attention while driving will significantly decrease, so exhale, pull yourself together and get to your destination in a good mood.
• An important step towards getting rid of any bad habit, including mata, the ability to relax and relieve stress through sports, hobbies, walks, pleasant communication in nature. Having learned to control not the most kind impulses, you will be able to restrain obscene words that are about to fly off your tongue.
• Build self-confidence and self-confidence. A strong person will never assert himself at the expense of others. Set new goals, educate yourself, never stand still.

Practical recommendations:

• Agree with the friend or relative you spend the most time with to reprimand you whenever you scold or fail to contain your anger.
• At first, avoid provoking factors - driving trips, long queues, conflicts with unpleasant people, listening to obscene songs, etc.
• In a team, it is very effective to deal with obscene language with the help of a piggy bank, in which you need to put a certain amount for each spoken obscene word.
• Try to change the style of speech - start replacing any curse words with decent words, thinking over each phrase and saying to yourself.

If a child swears - what to do

If you suddenly find that your baby can speak obscenely like a real shoemaker, it's time to reconsider your parenting methods, because, most likely, the child's behavior is the result of parental indifference. When mom and dad are busy with something of their own and do not pay attention to their baby, why not attract attention with an abusive word, ideally when this happens in a public place and a large audience becomes witnesses. Spanking, exhortations, and strict lectures will not have any positive effect, and may lead to even worse consequences.

Before starting the fight against childish obscenities, it is necessary to find out what are the motives of the "crime", they depend, first of all, on the age of the child:

• Kids who have just learned to express their thoughts can also surprise their parents with a harsh word, but such behavior is not yet conscious, children under 5 years old tend to imitate adults, so look for a problem in yourself and do not make mistakes in the presence of a child.
• But in the period from 5 to 7 years old, children are already well aware of how to act, but as impossible in any case, therefore, the mate is a kind of expression of rejection of the rules, a riot.
• School life, expanding the circle of acquaintances and friends affect children in different ways, from 8 to 12 years old they, of course, understand that abuse is prohibited in a decent society, but they strive to assert themselves in the eyes of more relaxed peers or imitate high school students.
• During puberty, adolescents more than ever feel the hostility of the world around them, and the mate is considered a kind of defense against it, a way to hide fear, insecurity and complexes. Psychologists note that every child aged 12-15 must go through this stage and throw out the accumulated aggression with the help of forbidden vocabulary, otherwise there is a threat of serious mental disorders. From the silent ones grow family tyrants and dictators.

The eradication of obscenities from a child's speech should not be accompanied by the same swear words, otherwise the prohibition will not be effective. When prohibiting something, be sure to support the monologue with arguments and your own example. Do not shame your child in public or use a slap on the lips as punishment.

Other tips and tricks:

• From the very moment the crumbs are born, make sure that relatives around him do not use taboo vocabulary.
• If the swear word still flew from the baby's lips, for the first time pretend that you did not notice it and follow his reaction. If the child expects a response from you, it means that he understands well the meaning of the forbidden word and is simply provoking the parents. Perhaps, without waiting for punishment, he will lose interest in the word and forget about it.
• When an incident occurs in a public place, do not boil over and do not scold your offspring. Apologize, pretend that nothing criminal has happened and continue the conversation. And at home, having calmed down, express your opinion about the child's behavior.
• Often children themselves are asked to explain the meaning of a particular word. Try to convey to the baby that this word is abusive, it is pronounced only when they want to offend the interlocutor.
• If the checkmate still appeared in children's speech, ask your son or daughter to tell what this or that word means to him, whether they know its meaning. Try to replace it with a close, but more respectable phrase.