Ballast that pulls to the bottom: what prevents to live

There are so many beautiful, beautiful and amazing things in life that you simply cannot stop enjoying such a variety. But not everyone can boast of such an ability to enjoy life, especially in the modern world, where they come to the fore stress and other negative phenomena that most people get hung up on. What prevents us from living life to the fullest and experiencing all its taste to the fullest? How to get rid of psychological ballast and finally change for the better?

Things that get in the way of living life to the fullest

In fact, there are a lot of things that interfere with living fully, everyone has their own, and it is simply unrealistic to list absolutely everything. However, among everything, one can single out the basic problems that constantly put the steps on the path to happiness, so it is imperative to get rid of them first and foremost. So, here are a few particularly popular fears and problems:

• Dependence on someone else's opinion. The problem, perhaps, that worries every second person, if not the first. Each movement, action is compared not with what results it will lead to and how satisfactory it will be for the person himself, but with the opinion of society. Moreover, the circle of such "appraisers" often goes beyond the bounds of relatives, nevertheless, people do not care. Well, first of all, why would you think that someone cares about this? Now everyone has their own problems and there is simply no time to pay attention to others, do you yourself pay a lot of attention from this position to others? Secondly, remember that the consequences of the actions will have to be cleared up by you yourself, and not by someone outside, so make a decision and act according to your principles, and not for “Uncle” Fedya from a neighboring village. Do not try to correspond to other people's ideals and ideas - you are a person with your own core, and if someone does not like it, these are not your problems.
• Parasitic workaholism. Now, in the concept of many, success lies in finance and everything connected with it. This is how people plunge headlong into routine, and when burnout they see the world in gray colors, besides, they often begin to replenish their medical records with new sores from exhaustion. You can't earn all the money - but to ruin your health, to miss that happy moment of watching children grow up, to spend precious time and youth earning "pieces of paper" - yes. No, no one says at all that you need to drop everything and fall on the couch as a bum. You just need to be able to properly allocate your time, which, in addition to work, will include other things that are pleasant to your heart.
• Regular return to the past and constant fear for the future. Another favorite demon of our time, who gladly sucks the strength from his masters. Approach life with head and sanity, leave emotions for more appropriate situations. No matter how trite it may sound, the past cannot be changed, and the future is not yet known. The past is given to us so that lessons can be learned from the mistakes made, so as not to "dance" on one rake for an encore. Yes, perhaps, once a mistake was made, for which it is insulting to the depths of the soul, but then it was not yet clear that this would be a mistake, but when it became such, experience and lesson were deposited in my head. Wisdom comes precisely through such, sometimes bitter, experience. Worrying about the future - how is it? Why? Frightened by the unknown? Maybe. But after all, fear and anxiety cannot change anything, but you can shatter the nervous system. But to really influence the future, if right now, yes, right now, start doing what will lay the brick of your tomorrow. Building a base - confidence will replace fear.
• Trampling in one place. Einstein once said, crazy is doing the same thing and waiting for different results. This phrase is simply worth its weight in gold. If the same situations regularly happen to you, your day is similar to the previous one, the same nasty personalities meet on the way, the same problems recur regularly - maybe you should not blame fate and the environment for your misfortunes, but just take a review and really change something? Your life depends only on you and your decisions and on no one else, remember this.
• Acting as a piggy bank for negativity and bad emotions. Do not keep emotions inside yourself, be sure to give them a splash, do not be silent, if something does not suit you, if you want something - speak directly. Many are offended that others do not understand them and do everything the other way around, but in fact, these “others” simply may not understand what you want, you have to guess, but sooner or later everything gets bored. Speaking about everything directly and frankly, you do not have to hold a stone in your soul and life will become much easier.
• Fear of telling the truth. Fear of telling the truth, as a rule, comes from the fear of offending someone or showing oneself to be an uncivilized person, to be condemned for expressing his opinion “not like everyone else”. There can be many reasons for lying, but none of them justifies the action itself. Having lied, a feeling of guilt immediately arises in the soul, which may not be caught by the consciousness, but will not leave the subconscious. Having lied once, there will be more, over time, the lump of guilt will reach such proportions that it will put pressure on the soul. Speak the truth, no one has condemned for it yet, but for lies all the time.
• Self-pity. “Oh, what an unfortunate person I am…. Everyone around is lucky, but I am not ”- hence envy, anger at others and at the world as a whole, it seems that fate favors everyone, except for one thing, and the further such a thought process goes, the harder it is for the person himself. This is pure utopia! Others are lucky only because they acted for their own happiness and good, and did not wait for everything to come to them by itself. Someone will say that girls marry rich people, do nothing and have everything. Not wow, "do nothing." To attract the attention of a rich man, you need to try very hard, watch yourself for a day, and then, after marriage, watch even harder so that the competition does not push. Everyone, absolutely everyone who has achieved something and is able to do something, moved and did it.

These are not all points that should be crossed out and forgotten forever, but some of the most striking. Problems of a psychological nature - they probably have no end: excessive self-criticism; desire to please and please everyone; search for constant excuses and reasons for doing nothing; attempts to become perfect; excessive touchiness; the desire to control everything and do it alone; shyness; to endure what does not suit - all this and a hundred more things, oh, how it spoils life and leads to a depressive state. Reconsider your views, your attitude, your thoughts and plans, everyone will definitely have something to correct. And remember the main thing, if you want to change the world - start with yourself!

How to get rid of complexes

Complexes are another element that interferes with a normal life and spoils the whole mood. As a rule, the complex does not exist in a single copy, but lives in flocks in each person. What are they all about, complexes? Only by understanding this, you can build an effective strategy for squeezing them out. It will seem to many that it is very difficult and even impossible to get rid of complexes, as they sit so strongly in the subconscious. But in reality, nothing is easier. Don't believe me? Judge for yourself. Just before that, leave your emotions and look at the situation as if from the outside, with a cold mind.

Complexes are a distorted understanding and contrived flaws about oneself. Each person comes up with for himself, it is not clear, however, why, some imaginary ideal, which he simply must comply with. This can relate to appearance, character traits, behavior, and anything else. In women, there is often a complex about the size of the breasts; in men, the reason for this is the size of the causal place. Where does it come from? Now, for example, it is "fashionable" to have large breasts, because it is supposedly a guarantee of sympathy on the part of men, but for some reason, actresses and pop stars with very small breasts become often recognized sex symbols. In men, it is believed that the longer "he" the better, but for some reason women pay attention to completely different qualities of the stronger sex and manage to fall in love even before they see this mighty, or maybe not very, dignity. The conclusion is that the matter is not at all about the size, so where do these ideals come from? It's simple - from plastic surgeons who benefit from such universal paranoia. Until people understand this, crooked noses - straight noses, big eyes - small eyes, flat butt - bulging butt, implants will be inserted and removed, and the plastic surgery industry will flourish. And if this is not the whole point, then why complex?

The same applies to other shapes and volumes of body parts - there is no ideal and cannot be. Each of us is what nature created. It is simply unrealistic to adapt to all tastes, because they are different for everyone and to correspond to them is sheer absurdity. Human inflamed brain generates some stupid criteria that just need to be thrown out of the head. The mere realization of such a picture allows you to rethink a lot and learn to accept yourself as real. Any features of behavior, unique outlook on life and difference in appearance are a highlight that distinguishes each from the general mass, makes a person unique and inimitable, how can you be ashamed of that? Agree, if you had a very beautiful and expensive car / stone and, in general, any object and only you had it, in a single copy, would you be proud of your uniqueness? Then why is it wrong with the other? It's the same thing.

Look at the situation differently, separate yourself from stereotyped populism - you are a personality with a capital letter, be proud of it and do not try to be shy.

How to be happy

As they say, everyone has their own happiness. For some, these are children, the more of whom the better, for some money, for others world renown. Therefore, the very understanding of what this word means to you can be called the primary happiness. You need to think very well about this so that the answer comes from the very depths of the soul, and is not built on the opinion of society. However, if you do not touch on the material sphere, then the concept of happiness in the modern world, where it is customary to meet some criteria, then this is probably an opportunity to be yourself and not be afraid of it. The ability to go towards your goal, firmly believe in success, in spite of pessimistic statements from the outside, to do what you want, in spite of what they say. Happiness cannot lie in one thing, it is a complex concept that everyone builds for himself.

Only you yourself know how to become happy, because only you know what exactly will make you that way. There are no step-by-step instructions to guarantee success. Feel yourself, your heart and desires, do not be afraid to move towards your dream, achieve it - this will make you happy.