Where is male happiness hiding
"We don't know anything about them" © How to Train Your Dragon. I wanted to start the article with this very phrase. Because before getting to work, I decided to conduct a small survey of my acquaintances. And, contrary to my expectations, the answers shocked me, encouraged and made me very happy. Intrigued? Then read this article further.
Male happiness - what is it 
Many women believe that the secret of male happiness lies in the basic needs of the human body, which is fundamentally wrong. I will not presume to say that absolutely all men are far from banal thoughts, but the fact that this is more the exception than the rule is very encouraging.
Of course, this is not a scientific in-depth study, but even at this level, the answers of a dozen diverse men from 23 to 27 years old showed the ambiguity of their train of thought. The question was one for everyone, “What is happiness for you?”, But the answers are rather variegated and sometimes not predictable at first glance. Namely:
- Movement as an opportunity for self-realization and a means for obtaining new emotions. Big children simply “fade out” if they are left without the opportunity to make personal discoveries. New cities, hobbies, bands and more.
- Stimulus. Yes, it is also important for men to know what they are fighting for, why they wake up in the morning and go to work. These can be children, a beloved girl. Oddly enough, the chance to walk around the city at night with your favorite music in headphones is also an incentive. As an opportunity to be alone with yourself, to analyze and find yourself the answers to exciting questions.
- To be alive, to experience emotions, to receive sensations. No, this is not a carbon copy of 2 points. This is a more basic concept. Perhaps similar to self-esteem. I live, so I can do anything. In fact, quite commendable, such a man is not looking for reasons why not. He sees only opportunities and prospects.
- Stability is not the most popular answer. Nevertheless, the stronger sex cannot imagine its life without it. Yes, they need something new. But something must be indestructible, inviolable. For example, a family.
- To be needed by someone. It is good if this is an object of sympathy, of the opposite sex. For many men, this concept is fully satisfied in children.
What men dream about 
It's no secret that men are primarily materialists. To improve their self-esteem and comfort in the area of personal expectations, men use things. This moment is described in sufficient detail in the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." That is why the stronger sex strives to buy expensive respectable cars, they get themselves beautiful women. In this way, men reinforce their self-esteem. The presence of a thing says "look, you could, you achieved me."
However, today's mini-study has shown that modern men relate to the material easier. Money, as well as things that can be bought for this money, come and go. And to put them on the pedestal of your life, as its essence, is somewhat silly. Progressive men are increasingly interested in receiving self-satisfaction in other, not trivial ways. This is good news. It is much more pleasant to look at a man who is happy with a diving certificate, which is a representative of the past psychology, the owner of an expensive car and a collection of weapons.
Modern men are worried about emotions. But people or things are their source, this is individual.
In short, the strong half of humanity wants to simply live, be a man, be a man. Needed, loved, a little tired, waiting and expected, happy.
How to make a man happy 
Probably the main way a woman can make her man happy is to understand him. It's not easy to remember how to iron shirts and how many spoons of sugar to put in his coffee. And it is really good to learn, to be able to understand his mood, thoughts. To share his life, hobbies, dreams. This method is suitable for absolutely any member of the stronger sex. Regardless of any conditions, in the form of age, way of thinking and religion.
An equally valuable way to make your partner happy is to give a child. And it doesn't matter at all whether it will be a son, or a daughter. A morally grown man will be glad to any continuation of himself, the personification of your feelings. And if the partner is not yet mature enough, then, yes, a new life, responsibility for it will only scare him.
Good luck in getting to know your halves, be happy!
