How to ask a guy to date

In the classic life scenario, men take the initiative into their own hands. They are the first to come to meet you, begin to show signs of attention and offer to be together. But what if a man does nothing, but you want a relationship with him? Is it normal for a lady to make the first move and propose to a man? 

Is it normal to ask a guy out?

In fact, answering this question is definitely not so simple, since it is influenced by many factors: the time of acquaintance, who exactly he is (just an acquaintance, a colleague, a neighbor, etc.), how he behaves towards the person in love, etc. One thing is for sure - such an initiative on the part of a girl is not welcome, but in some cases this can be mitigated.

For example, a situation: he is an old friend whom she knows well, they have a trusting relationship, warmth is felt between them, but he does not dare, and then the girl can carefully step first, making it clear that she agrees to a closer relationship. Then, even if the guy refuses, he will probably treat his girlfriend’s feelings with respect and will not change his opinion about her in a negative way. And it’s completely different when the desire to propose a meeting extends to a person acquaintance with whom happened relatively recently. There are no clear rules that would allow or prohibit women from trying to start a relationship first; this is a personal matter, so each one must decide for herself. 

But before you rush headlong into a love pool, you should turn on your cool head and think about the question: why doesn’t he himself make such an offer? There are 2 options here:

1. He just doesn't want to start a relationship.
2. He is afraid of rejection, so he does not dare.

The first option is very easy to identify - in this case, he does not show signs of attention at all. Even if a guy is in love, but doesn’t want to show it, he will still strive to touch the object of his adoration, to be close to him more. All this happens even if he tries hard to hide his feelings. Therefore, if the guy doesn’t do this, he knows he doesn’t experience any feelings, so there’s no point in trying.

As for the second option, in order to push him to take active action, you just need to show him that there is no point in being afraid, since there will be no refusal. This is easy to do - with unambiguous hints, let him know that the other side will not refuse if he makes an offer. Having felt this, he will take a step himself and then there will be no need to do anything on his part. 

If the desire to be close to your loved one, or at least try your luck in trying to do this, is stronger, then we bring to your attention several valuable recommendations that can help in this matter.

How to ask a guy to date

Let's start with some useful tips:

• Before taking such a step, you should think everything over carefully, since once you start, there will be no turning back. Is he really worth going against the established rules of society or is it just a love without deep feelings that can be experienced.
• You need to think carefully about where exactly to give your speech. It is better to do this in a quiet and deserted place, when both are left alone. In this case, it will be much easier to decide.
• The fact that the guy will refuse is unlikely, but what intentions will be associated with a positive answer is the second question. Let's face it - no guy has ever turned down free sex, and that's exactly what relationships mean. Therefore, you should prepare for the fact that he just wants to take advantage of the opportunity, because there is no need to woo anyone.
• When making an offer to move to a new level, you should avoid even the slightest hint of restricting his freedom and marriage in the future. 

As an option, for shy people and those who don’t like to find themselves in awkward situations, there may be a social network. In correspondence, you can come from afar and offer to meet, and if suddenly there is a refusal, you can immediately cry into your pillow then you can either turn everything into a joke, or gradually change the subject, and when meeting, pretend that nothing happened. This method is very convenient from all sides, but is more suitable for teenagers.

For adults who are really serious about relationships, there is only one possible option - a conversation in person. You can agree to meet in a cafe when there are few people in the establishment. And there, over a pleasant dinner and a glass of good wine, gradually bring the conversation to the desired topic. Who knows, maybe he himself will decide to propose...

The main thing is that if you still receive a refusal, you should under no circumstances be disappointed in yourself. On the contrary, such a man should be thanked for his frankness, because he, respecting the feelings of another person, did not deceive him and use him in his own interests, although he could have done this without hindrance.