Peace, friendship, chewing gum - How to make peace with a man
In the relationship between a man and a woman, things are not always smooth. As for men, the stereotype that they are strong and independent has long been destroyed. According to statistics, representatives of the stronger sex are offended twice as often as women. But a quarrel should not be a reason for parting, so you should know what men are most often offended and how best to make peace with your beloved.
What can offend a man
Complicating the situation is the fact that a man can carry a grudge in himself for a long time. However, the beloved will always feel his bad mood.
Here's what men take offense at first:
- Treason. This is what hurts the most, and also insults a man. Despite attempts at reconciliation, in most such cases, the relationship ends in a breakup.
- Mistrust. Men are offended if the other half doubts his words and considers them insincere.
- Comments on him in the presence of others. Often women criticize loved ones in someone's presence without any malicious intent. Men, on the other hand, perceive such attacks not as constructive criticism, but as an insult. Therefore, it is better to point out to a guy his mistakes in private, unless, of course, you have set yourself a goal to part with him.
- Lack of praise. Even the most independent man needs the approval and support of his beloved. This is important for his self-esteem, and therefore for your relationship.
- Disrespect for his family and friends. Even if they do not make you sympathetic, for the sake of a loved one you will have to show restraint.
- Comparison of a loved one with other men. This is another painful blow to his pride. Even we are not talking about sexual relations, but about a hammered nail, you should not compare it with others.
- Lack of interest in his hobbies. Often, guys are offended even by the unwillingness to share their interests with them, so you need to try to show attention to your beloved.
If he is still offended, do not let the situation take its course. It is better to discuss everything at once or even write a letter to your man, clearly stating your point of view.
What to write to an offended man
This is not about SMS, but about a letter written in an even, beautiful handwriting. In addition, it is often possible to express on paper that which cannot be said in any way. Such a letter must necessarily be sincere, without reproaches and tedious clarification of the relationship.
It is not worth pointing out the guilt of a loved one, even if it is. It is better to write about how your relationship is dear to you and how hard you endure the quarrel. In the letter, you should use affectionate expressions, words of love, and at the end you can draw a beautiful heart or put a lip imprint. You can also attach one of your favorite photos where you two are.
Poems will be very appropriate, but taking ready-made ones from the Internet is not the most suitable option. It's much better to compose them yourself. Let the attempt be not very skillful, the main thing is from the heart. Believe me, he will definitely appreciate it. Another good option is to quote famous classics who were masters of love lyrics.
How to make peace with a man
Skill put up Is a whole art. There is nothing to say about such gentle creatures as men. Psychologists believe that this should not be done right away: it should take a little time for both you and him to calm down. Here are some tips to help you rebuild your relationship:
- Don't attract supporters. Your loved ones, unwittingly, can hinder reconciliation. Remembering all the mistakes of your loved one, they set you up even more, and the very fact of reconciliation may be called into question. The relationship between a man and a woman does not concern anyone except them.
- Take advantage of the relationship break and consider the situation. Remember all the good things that you had, sort out your feelings. This will allow you to understand whether you are ready for the future with this person to put up with his shortcomings.
- You should not manipulate a man and try to blackmail him. Even if at the very beginning of the relationship it bears fruit, over time, such an attitude will begin to tire any person.
- Admit your guilt. Even if it is not that great, it is important to take the first step. And do not expect that a man will immediately rush to your feet with an armful of flowers. It is possible that he will sulk for some time, but in his heart he will already forgive you.
- Forgive your man. Don't be tempted to torture him longer. Resentment is not a constructive thing, but if it still remains, it is worth honestly saying that you are trying to forget everything, but you are still offended.
- Don't be afraid to be sincere. For some reason, many are ashamed to tell how they suffered and worried during a quarrel, although this, on the contrary, contributes to rapprochement. If a person loves, he does not use candor to your detriment.
In any quarrel, two are always to blame. But if a person is dear to you, do not cherish a grudge. Sincerity and mutual feelings will help to make up, moreover, a quarrel is an occasion to improve yourself and work on mistakes in your relationship.






