"First time": deflowering

Every young girl who hasn't had sex, wonders what age is best to lose your virginity. Some look for an answer on the Internet, others run to the gynecologist, and still others look at their girlfriends or classmates. So, in this article we will talk about when, how and whether it hurts for the first time.

When can you lose your virginity?

In fact, no one will give an exact answer to the question “when is it better to lose the hymen.” Because this is a purely individual matter. If you turn to the Internet or experts with this question, some will say that the ideal age is from 15 to 19 years old (however, this does not mean that you need to jump into bed before the age of 20 in order to   stay within these limits), other doctors will answer that the longer you endure and wait, the better for you. Therefore, you must decide this matter for yourself. Many girls try to get rid of the “virgin” stigma as soon as possible, thinking that they are becoming more mature, smarter and better, and lose it at a very early age from 14 to 16 years. Others, on the contrary, are waiting for that same thing: the one and only, for whom they are saving their virginity; such people can wait up to 25 years. There are also others, whom scary or is not attracted to sexual contact, such people may lose their virginity at the age of 30, or even more. When thinking about when is the best time to do this, you should adhere to certain aspects.

• The decision should be yours alone! There is no need to do this for someone, if you are not ready, and your partner insists, it is better to refuse, so as not to regret it later. It is you who should want this, and not someone else.
• The most important thing in this matter, between you and your significant other, is trust. If you trust your young man, then this is a huge plus in your relationship.
• There is no need to get hung up on this issue. This is more of a psychological aspect rather than a physiological one. Everything will happen much faster than you think about it.
• You should not imitate your friends or classmates (classmates) who are no longer virgins. It was their decision, and you can wait, and you will understand perfectly well when your moment comes.

How to lose your virginity

If you still think that it’s time, then you should think about how to get everything done. After all, for many, the first time is a rather serious step and a big event in life. First, you should discuss everything with your significant other; you need to inform him that he is your first sexual partner. If he knows that you are still innocent, he will be fixated on you, on your feelings, and try to do everything very carefully and slowly, so as not to hurt you and not leave bad memories about this day and about sex in general. It's best if your first sexual contact will happen at home, on the bed. It is advisable that no one is at home at this moment, so as not to distract attention, and so that you do not expect that someone could break into your room at any moment and ruin everything. You should relax don't be nervous, don't be tense, and don't be shy - then everything will go with a bang. Initially, it will be better to start with petting, then the excitement will be great enough not to think about pain or anything else. If suddenly something goes wrong, then you shouldn’t despair and try to do everything as quickly as possible, no matter what. You can just try again later or the next day. By the way, there are such girls who are afraid (embarrassed) to tell a young man that they are virgins, or who they are embarrassed that the guy will see blood for the first time. They want people to think of them that the girl already knows how to do everything and can do it, that she has not been a virgin for a long time. For such people there is an option that they can lose their virginity themselves while having fun sex toys. But here you must definitely use lubricant, otherwise there will be pain.  It is also possible to remove the hymen surgically, using a special, fairly painless and quick operation.

Is it painful to lose your virginity?

This question is also quite relevant for innocent girls. Having read various horror stories, they think that losing the hymen is very painful, very bloody, and therefore they are in no hurry to part with it. They begin to think all sorts of thoughts, each more terrible than the other, they become nervous, tense, and in the end it turns out that the first sexual contact is torture for them.

But let's look at the situation from the other side. In fact, the answer to this question is very ambiguous. All people's bodies are structured differently, so some girls feel a little pain during the first sex, while others are not bothered by pain. What does this depend on? Well, for example, it may depend on your genitals young man- if his penis is large, and yours is narrow, then naturally losing your virginity will be a little painful. In general, in girls who play sports or use tampons during menstruation, the hymen is already partially torn. In this case, pain is very unlikely. Also, the pain during the first time is influenced by your body’s reaction to pain during injuries, cuts; if pain does not bother you during injuries, then most likely it will not bother you during the first sexual contact.

In order for the deprivation of virginity to take place painlessly, it is necessary to caress each other thoroughly before direct contact in order to strongly get excited, and that a sufficient amount of lubricant is released. After all, the more lubrication, the easier it is for a man to penetrate you, and the less pain (or even none at all) will be felt at this moment. If the lubricant is not enough, you can use a special lubricant from the pharmacy, or condoms with lubricant.

Is it possible to get pregnant for the first time?

Quite a large number of people believe that it is impossible get pregnant during the first sexual experience. This is a fallacy! A girl can become pregnant from the moment she gets her period. And the first sexual contact is absolutely no different from subsequent ones. Therefore, to avoid   unplanned pregnancy, it is necessary to protect yourself. The best way to use condoms for the first time. But they should also be chosen wisely. If the girl is a virgin, then it is best to take condoms with lubricant for better and painless penetration. Previous article