Top 5 popular fears: how to stop being afraid ... and start living
There are many interesting things in life: new acquaintances, extreme sports, opportunities for promotion at work. We only need to take a step forward or reach out, but fear stops us. We are afraid of strangers, darkness, heights and, in general, everything unknown. In order not to miss the opportunity, you need to learn to get rid of the fear of new things, emotions.
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How to stop being afraid of people
The reason for the fear of communicating with people is that you do not know what to expect from him. You are afraid to seem stupid or ridiculous, you will not be understood or ridiculed. The fear of communication is very difficult to live, because every day we have to meet with many people, at work or school, in the store and public transport.
Psychologists suggest performing simple exercises that will help overcome the fear of communication:
- On the way home in public transport, you ask the conductor about the route. You see this person for the first time, the question will not seem strange to him. You can clarify about transfers, intersections with other routes. A short conversation will be struck up, a positive experience of communication with a stranger will appear.
- Telephone communication training. Find the phone of any organization, for example, installing windows, repairing household appliances. Call and find out the conditions, work schedule, prices and discounts. If you cannot start a conversation, then hang up, no one will see you and will not judge you. The experience of telephone communication is gradually accumulating.
- Once you're more confident, visit a hardware store. Choose a product that you do not plan to purchase, get all the information about it from a consultant. As a result, you will learn how to get the necessary information, as well as refuse a purchase. Many people are embarrassed to bother sellers if they do not plan to make a purchase.
- Learn not to be embarrassed by your own needs. Come to the pharmacy and buy condoms, lubricant or other "immodest" goods, first ask about different models. Think that sex is a natural need of the body. As a result, you will learn how to ask any questions to strangers.
- Come up with a question on a topic that interests you and interview people on the street. It's difficult to approach strangers and pester them at first, but confidence will increase over time. The fear of communication will go away.
You can use other techniques to chat with strangers. After a month of vigorous practice, your fear will pass.
How to stop being afraid of the dark
Who among us in childhood was not afraid of the dark. Horror stories heard in the circle of friends, incomprehensible rustles and creaks caused fear of seeing the monster. As most people age, these fears go away. But they continue to pursue someone. So what exactly are we afraid of:
- We cannot see in the dark, so we cannot be sure that there is no danger nearby.
- Evil heroes that scared us as kids, or fictional villains from movies.
- Real-world criminals that we find in the media.
To stop being afraid of the dark in your own home, you need to convince yourself that household appliances are making noise, and the curtains are swaying from a draft. Windows and doors are closed and nothing threatens you, there are familiar household things around.
Next, think about how real witches, koschei and other evil spirits are. Even when accepting the existence of the other world, its inhabitants are unlikely to come to visit you.
If you are particularly impressionable, then avoid crime news and films. Do not listen to gossip about what is happening in your city, do not read the column about incidents in the local newspaper.
To increase the security of your home, put bars on the windows, install a second door with an electronic lock.
Get a large dog, she will meet all uninvited guests. Take self-defense courses or get a gun permit.
How to stop being afraid to fly
Climbing the plane, almost everyone experiences a slight fear of flight, because we leave the stable ground and rise to a height of thousands of meters. Aerophobia in its pure form is rare, more often it is combined with a fear of heights or the inability to control what is happening.
Some experience minor attacks of fear that do not prevent them from traveling, flying on international business trips. Others abandon air travel entirely, depriving themselves of many opportunities.
If you have strong and prolonged attacks of fear, you cannot cope with them, then you need to see a psychologist. There are special group classes for aerophobes, where pilots and stewards are invited. These people work with flying, they teach how to cope with anxiety. 
It is important to know that drinking alcohol is not recommended to improve your well-being on board. In flight, the effect of alcoholic beverages intensifies, intoxication comes quickly, can cause a breakdown or a quick hangover. Before the flight, it is not recommended to study the statistics of falling models of the aircraft on which the departure is planned. The plane is the safest travel option today. Thousands of flights are carried out daily, and disasters, fortunately, occur 1-2 times a year.
To combat your fear, read the information on the safety certification of Russian airlines. All planes are regularly checked, their cost is very high, so the company is not profitable from accidental breakdowns.
The safety margin of aviation equipment is more than 25 years, almost the entire fleet of Russian aircraft has been in operation for less than 15-20 years.
To calm down, on board, take your mind off what is happening outside the window, read a book, listen to music. Sweets or chocolate can help boost your mood. And if the panic is growing, then take a sedative pill, take a few deep breaths. Think about the place you are flying to, plan your free time and mentally make a list of gifts for your family. Travel time will fly by.
How to stop being afraid of heights
Fear of heights occurs as a result of negative experiences during childhood. You either fell yourself from a great height or saw similar incidents. Experienced negative emotions provoke a fear of heights.
It is necessary to distinguish between the normal instinct of self-preservation, when a person is scared on the roof of a high-rise building, and panic fear of even the smallest height.
In the presence of a phobia, a person experiences panic, breathing and heartbeat increase. It is impossible to get rid of the fear of heights quickly, you need to gradually get used to the height.
- Start working on yourself by realizing the problem. Understand that you can fall out of the blue, and trembling in your knees does not give stability.
- Start climbing to the height, starting from the level at which a mild phobia appears. Spend some time there convincing yourself to be safe. The next time you climb to a great height, keep a journal of your achievements.
- The psychological technique of visualization helps to overcome phobia in fantasies, then in reality. First you need to close your eyes and imagine yourself on the mountain, but you are not afraid to fall. After daily practice, the fear will go away.
If you feel an uncontrollable attack of fear, try to relax, breathe deeply and evenly.
How to stop being afraid of men
Fear of men has 2 sides: a victim complex and fear of rejection... The methods of getting rid of fear vary:
- Most women are afraid that a man will leave them.
Sometimes it comes down to paranoia. The cause of fear often lies in the family, when the daughter feels that her parents do not love her enough. Psychological work on oneself helps to get rid of fear: a woman does not die and does not get sick physically if she breaks up with a man. Realization helps to understand that even parting with a man can be experienced. The main thing is to remain interesting to yourself, in this case the new relationship will be more successful. Love your body and take care of it for yourself, not for men. Analyze your behavior with men, possible mistakes in order to avoid them in the future. - Female victims are almost always in a relationship, but do not enjoy it. A man oppresses them, suppresses them emotionally, controls their life.
The emergence of a victim complex is often associated with past violence. It is very difficult to get rid of the complex. First you need to try to regain control over your life, finances. Allow yourself to disagree with a man in everything... He will feel resistance and relieve pressure.
Love yourself and change your worldview. Enjoy every day and expand your social circle.
How to stop being afraid to live
Write down a list of the things that really scare you. Work through each item. Everyone has fears, many save you from negativity. Such fears must be used wisely, learn to control them.
The fears that prevent you from living life to the fullest need to be healed.
Work on emotional balance, attend trainings and courses. Try to do what you are afraid of several times. Get behind the wheel of a car or jump with a parachute. Over time, you will forget about your fears and enjoy life.
