Emotional addiction - how to get rid of it

Psychologists say that all problems come from childhood. Every person needs love, the opportunity for self-realization, security, friendships, and trust. If in childhood you do not receive this from the mother, from the family in which the child grows and is raised, then in the future he will have numerous problems.   Emotional dependence is characterized by a state in which all your thoughts, actions and desires are connected with some object or object. And any kind of addiction is an attempt to mask the problems inside.

Emotional dependence - how it arises

Emotional dependence usually manifests itself in such a way that a person is unable to find pleasant, kind, warm feelings within himself, he looks for them in the outside world. This means that a person seeks internal experiences from the world around him: from the actions of other people, some external events, and not from within himself.

Psychologists distinguish the following types of addiction:

• from various substances: food, alcohol, drugs;
• from receiving any feeling: love, approval, attention;
• from various activities: gambling or computer games, for example;
• from sex;
• from money as an indicator of value and success.

The main reason for this type of addiction is a lack of personal emotions. Life begins to come down to finding a person or activity that can fill the inner gaps.

Emotionally dependent people, most often, do not have a goal in life; they strive to live the life of another person, to experience the same feelings and emotions as him. Such people seek experiences outside of themselves. Emotionally dependent people tend to look for their “soul mate” in order to feel like one. However, attachment can result in the fact that a person who is emotionally dependent will expect that the object of his sympathy and love will constantly stimulate the ability to love. In other words, an emotionally dependent person believes that his ability to love depends on the actions of the object of his love.

How to get rid of emotional addiction

In order to free yourself from emotional all-consuming addiction, you need to:

1. Admit to yourself that you are addicted. One of the signs of addiction is denial of addiction.
2. One of the main tasks for you at this stage will be to understand your Self, namely your desires, needs, feelings. You have to learn to talk about your own desires and interests when communicating with people, learn to take care of yourself.
3. It is important to learn to withstand situations when you simultaneously experience opposite feelings. Many people at such moments displace one of them.
4. An equally important process will be taking responsibility for your life, and at the same time, refusing responsibility for the lives of other people. Thanks to this, you will learn to avoid conflicts, insult.
5. Working with childhood trauma that left its mark on adulthood. It is necessary to mourn and accept her.
6. Learn to build relationships with your partner. But to do this, you need to go through all the above stages, sharing responsibility and being prepared for difficulties.

Emotional dependence: psychological “prevention”

The most important thing you can do for yourself is to maintain your inner core, stay in balance and not lose yourself. Who knows us better than ourselves? Make friends with yourself, learn to see yourself with kind eyes, support yourself, approve, sympathize, love. Of course, we all want to be loved and love ourselves, but it is important to see the line when it turns into addiction.

In order for your child to grow up in a healthy microclimate and ensure a successful future, you need to:

1. have a trusting relationship, care for and love your child;
2. accept the baby as he is;
3. do not prevent the child from openly expressing emotions;
4. encourage new interests and give positive responses more often;
5. provide safety and security;
6. try not to judge and accept points of view, even if you disagree;
7. be interested in the desires and interests of the child;
8. determine what the child should not do and directly explain why this is so.