Family conflicts

Now family quarrels and conflicts occur in every family. Scandals and debriefings lead to new experiences and grief, followed by a depressed state, depression and new breakdowns. It seems that this vicious circle will never be broken. What to do in the event of a conflict in the family?

Causes of family conflicts

Any conflict that arises within the family has a reason for this. In this case, you need to be able to distinguish the real reason from the reason. Anything can act as the latter, even some insignificant circumstance.

But the possible reasons can be grouped into three groups:

• Desire to have any information. But not all information will bring the desired peace. Therefore, you should think carefully about whether you really need this information in order to quarrel over it with loved ones.
• Desire to change the current situation. Especially often you want to change something in the behavior of someone from your family.
• The desire to establish their own order in the family, that is, simply identifying the leader, the owner of the house.

It should be borne in mind that in any case, conflicts will not help solve the problem, but will only aggravate it.

Conflicts with parents

It is the responsibility of parents to protect and safeguard their child. They love their baby, take care of his health and development. Parents are the first to rush to help with any problem. But over the years, children are less and less likely to seek help from their parents. They grow up and begin to think that they themselves know and understand everything perfectly. The problem of the relationship between parents and children is especially acute in adolescence. The desire to stand out among peers, by all means to defend their point of view leads to violent conflicts with parents.

Parents have the right to set their own rules and requirements for their child. Indeed, despite the fact that the child has become older and more independent, he is still under parental care. Parents also take care of him, provide financial support and take the main part in the further development of him as a person.
Sometimes parents try to drive their child into too rigid framework. Then a conflict flares up in the family.

How to avoid conflict

What tactics should be used by a teenager to avoid conflict? How to behave so that parents see in their child a responsible person who has the right to their own opinion?

Here are some tips:

• Be respectful of your parents' decision. This does not mean that you need to silently comply with all their requirements. You can have your point of view and express it, but with due respect.
• Do not be shy about your mistakes and mistakes. We are all human beings and we have the right to make mistakes. Don't be afraid to admit them.
• Communicate with your parents as much as possible. If your parents have complete information about your friends and interests, there will be more trust on their part and less inhibitions.
• If a conflict arises, imagine yourself in the place of your parents, then you may understand their position. Invite your parents to do the same. Then you can negotiate.

Conflict with a child

If you cannot find a compromise in communicating with your own child, do not try to shift all the blame onto him, explaining his behavior to a transitional age. In any problem, both parties are to blame. Therefore, you should not include dictatorship in every quarrel. Try to solve the problem together.

First, decide what the fight is about. In fact, you and your child may have completely different visions of the situation. Share your view of the problem out loud and ask your child for his or her opinion.

After finding out the cause of mutual dissatisfaction, try to find ways to solve the problem. Don't take all the initiative. Have the child suggest possible options. Then state your methods of getting out of the situation. To make it easier to do this, write everything down on paper.

Now consider each option from all sides and objectively assess all its advantages and disadvantages. Be fair in your assessment. The option that most satisfies both you and the child should be taken into action.

Now detail the selected option taking into account all possible circumstances. Both you and the child must clearly understand what actions you need to take in order for the conflict situation to be safely resolved.

Now the planned actions need to be performed. After everything is done, check with your child to see if the conflict has been resolved. Maybe something else needs to be done.

Relationship conflicts: how to resolve

Quarrels arise even in loving couples from time to time. For permission conflict adhere to a few simple rules that will allow you to painlessly get out of a quarrel.

Listen carefully to your partner's opinion. If necessary, be sure to clarify and ask again. Now, respectfully and without offense, express your opinion on this situation. Do not skip to another topic in the discussion. Only after fully discussing and resolving one issue, you can switch to another. Otherwise, the conflict will flare up with renewed vigor.

Lead the conversation calmly, without raising your voice or trying to anger your partner. At the same time, in order to reduce the aggression of your partner, emphasize his importance, letting him know that his opinion is important to you.

After both of you have spoken, suggest possible solutions to the problem. Discuss each option and choose the most suitable one. Now you only need to carry out a general decision and the conflict will be settled.