"Fight to the end": how to keep a family
It would be great if the spouses did not quarrel over trifles, did not have opposite views on serious issues. But this practically does not happen. Small quarrels often develop into weeks of silence, resentment and irritation appear in the soul. If you don't try to understand the other partner, don't talk about problems, the marriage can fall apart. But do not bring the situation to an undesirable outcome.
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Quarrels in the family: how to stop swearing
Married partners often have different temperaments, outlooks on life, parenting... Therefore, finding compromises is the only possible way to save the family and end constant quarrels. Usually, the woman is more inferior, as the keeper of the family hearth and peace. Let your husband have the last word in contention, this does not mean that your opinion is not taken into account. The wisdom of a woman lies in creating an environment where controversial issues are resolved taking into account the opinions of both spouses.
There are basic rules that will help reduce the number of fights in the house:
- When discussing a controversial point, express yourself directly, without hidden subtext. Men usually do not see him, so your desire may not be understood.
- Do not use the phrases “you don’t love me” or “you think me stupid”. The husband will not want to prove otherwise, and you will have additional grievances. All statements should relate directly to the problem.
- It is better to discuss the problem directly, without leading questions and caustic remarks. Otherwise, you can get a major scandal out of a small quarrel.
- When making a complaint or asking a question, be prepared to receive a truthful answer. If you are just in a bad mood, then you should not provoke your spouse.
- When feeling jealous, do not torment your spouse with vain suspicions. Otherwise, he will really start looking for peace and warmth on the side.
- If you are annoyed by your husband's habits, discuss them calmly with him. Explain the negative consequences of his actions, ask him to control his habits.
You cannot be silent and accumulate irritation, it will still cause a quarrel. When disagreements arise, you should discuss them in a timely and calm manner, showing how important your spouse's opinion is to you.
Save the husband in the family
Very often a woman destroys a marriage by her actions. In order for respect, trust and love to stay with you for many years, you need to take into account the recommendations.
- Do not provoke and do not push your spouse to cheat... Do not take your husband too often to women's companies, do not invite a young relative or girlfriend to visit. Often a man does not plan to cheat, everything happens under the influence of circumstances. You don't need to create them.
- Don't make fun of even your spouse's most unusual hobbies. Let him give them some free time and money. By doing what he loves, the spouse gets rid of the accumulated stress and will be grateful for your understanding.
- Do not nag your spouse over trifles. An unwashed plate is not a reason for a big fight. A spouse's bitchiness can only offend her husband, create a tense atmosphere at home.
- Learn to understand logic, husband's psychology... Men and women have different attitudes towards many things and you need to be aware of this. The better you understand each other, the less often you will swear.
- Don't give up sex without objective reasons. Do not use it as an argument or blackmail. Otherwise, the spouse will find him on the side.
Take time for your appearance, watch your weight. Keep childhood friends and personal passions. By staying interesting to yourself, you will constantly attract your spouse. This means that the desire to constantly be together will overcome any disagreements.
Cheating husband: how to maintain a relationship
Sometimes the worst suspicions become reality. You will learn about her husband's infidelity. The first impulses to leave, divorce, pick up the children and go to their mother are replaced by pain, despair, and disappointment. But do not rush and destroy the family. Betrayal can be experienced and forgiven. It will take time and the desire of both spouses to save the marriage.
If the man did not leave, then the betrayal was only of a physiological nature. The affair is fleeting, he does not plan to leave the family. This fact needs to be realized so that it is easier to understand the spouse and forgive him.
Do not share your misfortune with your sister, mom. Even if you choose to forgive the betrayal, they will remember. In general, the fewer people know about what happened, the better for both of you. May the husband's reputation remain unblemished.
You shouldn't hide your pain from your husband, but it's better to sort out the relationship quickly and emotionally. After the decision has been made to save the family, try not to remember the betrayal anymore. Discuss joint plans, upcoming vacation, the dialogue should be calm and constructive.
Sometimes the written method helps to cope with the problem. You need to put on paper all your emotions, grievances, pain, and send a letter to the traitor. A visit to a family psychologist will help when the spouses cannot cope with cheating on their own.
How to keep your relationship warm
80% of the atmosphere in the house depends on the woman. A long and happy family life is based on mutual respect. Try not to raise your voice to your spouse, even if there is a reason. And don't let him scream. Many problems are easier to solve if you speak in calm tones. During quarrels, do not call your spouse hurtful words, do not use his weak points. The fuse will pass, and the insult you inflicted will leave an unpleasant aftertaste.
A wise woman will not seek to remake her husband for herself. You fell in love with your husband as he was. You need to learn to put up and forgive each other's shortcomings. Better more often speak tender words to my husband, hugging and kissing.
Swearing in front of parents, children, friends is not worth it.
In this case, you question the authority of the man, you question his leadership. To raise low self-esteem, a man will go to work or to another lady. The family will not benefit from this.
Sexual life plays a big role. Satisfied man ready for a lot for his wife. Even if it's a hard day, you have a headache, you need to lie on your back and take a few deep breaths. The body will relax and tune in the right way. Share your dreams and fantasies with your partner, and bring them to life together.
How to build relationships
If a chill ran through the relationship, quarrels became more frequent, then perhaps the couple is going through another crisis... To build relationships, use the recommendations:
- If your spouse provokes a fight over a little thing, don't react. Count to yourself, take deep breaths to calm yourself. Perhaps in a few minutes the husband will let off steam and calm down.
- When conflict develops, try to clarify the real problem in a calm tone. Discuss solutions without getting personal.
- If the fight drags on, ask your spouse to pause and have coffee or tea. A pause may make you calm down and find a compromise.
- In case of prolonged conflict situations, do not be afraid to go first to reconciliation. Most likely, the partner also regrets, but pride does not allow starting communication. Show wisdom, because it is more important to win not the battle, but the whole battle.
- Try to delve into your spouse's problems. If you are aware of his affairs, you can understand the real reasons for his bad mood, and many conflicts simply will not arise.
Be tolerant and affectionate, because the harmony in the house is only in your hands.
If the husband wants a divorce
Despite their best efforts, some couples still break up. If the initiator of the divorce is the spouse, then do not make scandals, hysterics. They will only strengthen him in their decision. Better try to remind him of the happiest moments of your life together and give vent to tears. Let him feel guilty. But to keep the marriage when feelings have already died is pointless.
If divorce is imminent, then don't become a victim... Over the years, you also experienced a lot of pleasant things, learned new things, gave birth to children.
Don't feel used up or not attractive enough. Let go of the situation and learn to live in a new way. Perhaps you will meet a new love ahead of you, change your job to a more successful one, and devote more time to your friends and hobbies.
How to keep a family together - advice from psychologists
Psychologists advise to remain interesting and self-sufficient individuals in order to preserve the family. Then in the company of each other you will not get bored. Watch your mood and appearance, admire your man, be affectionate with him.
There are no universal recipes for family happiness. For some, a separate rest allows you to refresh your senses, miss your partner. Other couples are addicted to the same thing.
For example, joint fishing, where all the problems and troubles fade into the background. Look for your secrets of family happiness, and then your life together will be long and eventful.
