Male infidelity: reasons, how to recognize and what to do
Almost every person has changed himself or experienced betrayal at least once. But to change a person or not is everyone's decision. Someone cannot live peacefully, without betrayal, but someone absolutely does not need them, because he found what he was looking for - he appreciates and protects it.
Why do men cheat
Usually men excuse themselves by saying that "all men are polygamous, they need variety, everyone does it, etc." There are actually a huge number of reasons for treason, ranging from the banal "I was drunk, she is to blame, I have nothing to do with" and ending with dissatisfaction with their relationships or family life.
Why do men cheat on their women? One of the most common options is new love. This usually happens if the relationship was mutually beneficial, necessary, or forced. In second place - the wife is sick, pregnant, she does not have time for the second half, since she devotes it to the child, there is no desire have sex, she stopped taking care of herself because “he loves me like that too” (disheveled, unkempt, in filthy slippers and a dressing gown).
Are there many quarrels, scandals or reproaches in a relationship? Here it is - the reason for treason. Men do not withstand constant criticism and strive to go where they will be listened to, cared for and cherished. "The Forbidden fruit is sweet! I want new, thrill! " Living together, routine, monotony - in this case, betrayal for a man is like an escape from all this.
If a woman cheated on her soul mate, then this is a sure way to take revenge on her. To hurt her with it, or just to show that he is also worth something. And if a man has already changed, and a woman has forgiven, then 99% that it will happen again, because if it worked for the first time, why not try it the second and third. Men feel unpunished in such cases. 
Dream woman or sexual dissatisfaction. In family sex life, a man could not realize some sexual fantasies or something is missing, he found the one that, as it seems to him, can help him satisfy his desires and needs. The mistress will become a fountain of unusual emotions and sensations. And sometimes, the reason for the betrayal is quite commonplace - when another woman offers sex, then not every man able to resist temptation.
Signs of male infidelity
With great care, it is absolutely easy to identify cheating. But I must say - it is strongly visible when a man has a new relationship, but if the betrayal happened only once - drunk, in a club or on a business trip - then it will be more difficult to calculate. But someday he will still show himself. There are many signs, let's consider the most common ones.
A cell phone is nowhere without it in our century, so even the most disguised connection will show itself. They will often start calling from work at night or on weekends, or “Maxim” suddenly starts speaking in a woman’s voice, then messages from the cellular network operator will begin to arrive more often. A man always carries a phone with him, set a password, erases some calls or messages, talks on it away from you and gets angry when his other half takes his phone. 
The man began to carefully monitor his appearance and his appearance. He made a fashionable haircut, doused himself with eau de toilette before leaving the house, and his clothes and shoes were clean, ironed and polished. He updated his wardrobe, began to shave more often, and generally sparkles like a polished teapot. If this behavior does not apply to you and your actions, then it is worth considering for whom he is trying so hard. 
Frequent delays at work, works on weekends or frequent trips to the sauna or bar with friends, but without women, he is not interested in sex, is cold and detached, gives flowers for no reason, often turns off his mobile phone, traces of lipstick on his shirt, other people's hair on a suit, the smell of women's perfume, perhaps absent-mindedness or nervousness - all this means that the man has someone else.
How to survive a husband's betrayal
No one will protect themselves from the men’s campaign to the left - neither smart, nor beautiful, nor excellent hostesses, nor temperamental mistresses. Of course, the first reaction will be panic, misunderstanding and shock. In my head there are thoughts - how, why, why, for what and what did I do wrong, what am I to blame? The discovery of treason is followed by a lot of emotions - a mental wound, grief, disgust, a desire to strangle a man, and at the same time himself. But, despite this, life still did not end and at first you should calm down and throw aside the ax, rolling pin and a bunch of sleeping pills. After all, the trip to the left has already taken place, and in a calmer state it is worth sorting out your thoughts. 
The wife can almost always understand and forgive her husband. But treason will never be erased in thoughts, and you will not get away from spitting in your soul. Moving away from cheating on a woman who is not confident in herself is always more difficult. After all, women who are recognized by males always tolerate negative emotions and resentment more easily. 
To calm down and endure humiliation, you can use different methods. Walking with your beloved friend, changing your image, breaking the dishes or finding a new hobby or hobby - each person has his own methods. A new activity will take up all your free time, help you distract from loss and bad thoughts. Everything new and interesting can turn into something serious, which will make you get sincere pleasure.
How to forgive a husband's betrayal
How to forgive a man? Which one of you is to blame? It is not easy to excuse treason, no matter what the reasons were. Do I need to forgive her? All this can be understood only if the motives are understood. If you understand them, then it will be known - to execute or pardon. Many wives do not pay attention to infidelity - is there any happiness in this? The brave cheat in order to take revenge on a man - but this is not an option either, because a short feeling of triumph is often replaced by tremendous disappointment.
Everyone thinks that it is easier for adult women to endure and forgive infidelity than a young girl. In fact, the opposite is true. The young girl has everything ahead, so she will simply leave the man who cheated on her and start her personal life from scratch. Adult ladies who have spent many years with a man consider cheating as the end of life. The main thing is to be able to accept what has already happened. You should never feel sorry for yourself! It is worth convincing yourself that everything is still ahead and you are still attractive. 
So how do you forgive cheating? If a man decided to go to a truce - give him a chance, step forward. After all, perhaps all is not yet lost! Another way is sincere conversation. How you found out about the betrayal is not important, but it is worth discussing. How to deliver a conversation accurately? A woman must look a little angry, but strong (in no way hostile, you need to be able to restrain your emotions). After analyzing the situation, the man will feel guilty towards the woman. This feeling can be retaliation for him. You can't threaten your husband with treason, but you don't need to pardon immediately.
How to forgive a man when he is with you all the time? It is worth scattering for a while, leaving, leave some kind of reminder of yourself so that he does not relax. The most important purpose of spending is the chance to think things over and make the right decision. You cannot forgive your husband's betrayal, thinking about the kids and many years of family life. If it is impossible to forgive, then it is better not to forgive. A woman should not be afraid of loneliness, in some cases, betrayal can be perceived as a sign that the time has come to change something in her life.
Believe that husband loves you and appreciates, and you will feel happy, you always need to give a chance, because without giving it, you will not be able to draw conclusions about a man. If someone has not lived up to your expectations and trust, then this is not a reason to be disappointed in the whole universe, in yourself, your beloved and in men.
How to take revenge on a husband for treason
Revenge is a dish served cold. How can you effectively avenge your spouse for his betrayal so that he feels the same pain and resentment as you do? Most often, revenge in women is associated with the phrase "they knock out a wedge by a wedge", that is, take and cheat on your husband, just as he did to you. Of course it will bring some satisfaction, but not for long. There are two possible options - the husband will not know about it, and only your satisfaction will be (the woman can also change, why not, why we have to suffer from this), or your spouse will find out about it here, or your betrayal will worsen the situation and a divorce will follow, or the man will start to be jealous, nervous and, in the end, your family life will improve. 
Another option for revenge - you should not start scandals, sort things out - on the contrary, a woman should be calm and a little snide, you need to show by your appearance that the problem is not so important, and you have other interests. This will alert a man, he will begin to think about it constantly, because suddenly he has a rival, most often this option ends up - an abandoned mistress, talking about the family and the return of the prodigal husband. It will also be good if a woman stops doing what her husband is used to - cleaning, washing, cooking, washing dishes. Let him get used to independence, or let him run with his dirty laundry to his mistress.
You can change your interests - do your favorite hobby, sign up for a gym or dance section. Look better and more interesting - buy a couple of new things, dye your hair in a new color or to make a hairstyle - all this will force the man to take a closer look at his soul mate, because in your eyes will appear happiness and you will radiate energy, grooming and pleasure from life. 
Of course, revenge on a husband for treason is a case when you should leave all your fantasies behind. Pluck all the hair on your opponent's head? In no case, this is superfluous! A little creativity is a small step towards recovery. In such situations, you can ruin his car (pour paint or throw seeds on the hood of his car so that birds fly in and dirtiest his favorite car), deprive him of his wardrobe (as in Hollywood films), cutting it up with scissors, let it be better to go naked to his new passion than shirts you bought with love. To ruin his reputation, tell everyone what a slob he is, dirty and generally a bad type.
How to prevent cheating
There are several ways to avoid walking on other people's women, of course this is not a love spell for loyalty, but in many cases they will help prevent it.
So, a man and a woman must be friends. If this is not the case, you can safely forget about happiness in the family, this is at best, and at worst, this will cause a divorce. Consistent and high quality is also important. sex in marriage and, whatever one may say, a woman must be the most desirable and sexy, because this is the main thing in a relationship. After all, if a woman always remains the most interesting, desirable and sexy, then why does he need others? 
Naturally important are sensitivity, understanding. Spend a lot of time together, more often go out for the weekend somewhere (to the forest, cafe, theater, nature or to another city) or just walk in the evenings. More communication has not hurt anyone yet - after all, it is one of the main secrets of a happy family life. Share with your husband your thoughts, doubts, worries, tell him something exciting and interesting, ask the man's advice or opinions, ask about his affairs, work. Men need understanding in the family. 
Try to stay in good shape, watch yourself and try to excite each other. Make it so that it is not boring with you - you have common interests, you go to football, bowling or billiards together, if you live different lives - this, of course, is very convenient, but there is always someone who wants to share the interests of your man instead of you, therefore, so that he does not look for interests on the side, he should be interested with you.
Never, in any way, not "Train" your husband! Trust him more. He should be comfortable and calm with you. If a man, having come home from work, tired and worn out, receives a mountain of reproaches and scandals, the calmness of a family evening becomes doubtful. Respect your soul mate, and he will idolize you. Do not restrict his freedom (if it does not affect your relationship), do not tie to yourself tightly, because the smaller the leash, the faster it will break, show him your trust. And becoming a mother and looking after children always remain a loving wife for your husband, give him attention and affection.
