Henpecked: rules of operation
Relationships in couples are built in different ways. Historically, public opinion did not even admit other options that a man should dominate the family. However, in our time, when women work on an equal basis with men, and sometimes it is they who provide for the family and make most of the decisions, women are increasingly taking a leading position. Largely due to this, such a social phenomenon as a henpecked man arose in society.
Henpecked - how to recognize him
There is a misconception that a henpecked man is one who sits at home dependent on his wife, cooks soups and takes care of children. This is not true at all! A henpecked man may well be a very brutal wealthy man, a thunderstorm of subordinates and a favorite of the ladies. However, there are a few obvious signs to recognize a henpecked person:
- A man allows his woman to make comments in front of strangers.
- Accustomed to consult on any occasion.
- Usually he always asks for a meeting with friends.
- Avoids quarrels and any other conflict situations.
- In his wallet there is always only pocket money.
- Grants the wife or girlfriend the right to independently understand all family and household problems.
- Doesn't try to turn the tide.
How to make a henpecked?
And yet, why do some women try to make a husband or a loved one henpecked? The reasons are different. There are just very independent and active women, while others just want a man more often obeyed and did not create any particular problems.
Well, there are several simple psychological tricks that allow you to gradually turn your beloved man into a henpecked man:
- Less often call him by name, using affectionate nicknames: cat, pusik, bunny. Such treatment will discourage anyone.
- Buy things for your man yourself. So you will deprive him of the possibility of choice and independence. More often let him feel how irreplaceable you are.
- The golden rule of raising a henpecked: criticize often! Constantly and in detail explain what he is doing wrong, bother, educate. Who else, if not you, can make a man feel like nothing?
- Delve into all his affairs, of course, explaining this with good intentions. Ask him about everything in the smallest detail, of course, not forgetting to constantly interrupt.
Henpecked husband - what to do?
Let's say you still change your mind and don't want to see the henpecked in the house. In this case, you can try to re-educate him back into a man.
First, you need to give your husband more freedom. Encourage his initiative, independent actions, praise, encourage. Let the man more often choose what to do: fix something at home or go to the garage.
Consult with your husband about family and other matters. It is not so important what decision you make as a result, the main thing is that he will understand that you are not indifferent to his opinion.
At the same time, consider that a henpecked man is not so bad. Of course, sometimes a woman gets tired of having to carry on a relationship and decide everything. She wants to feel weak, protected, and this is normal, this order has existed for many centuries. And yet, in life with such a man there are advantages: you expect less unpleasant surprises from him, because constant control disciplines. Finally, since he took on such an unenviable role for himself in your relationship, it means that he really loves, and this is worth a lot.
Whether it is comfortable to live with a henpecked man is up to you. One thing is for sure: in any union there must be mutual respect, otherwise it is doomed.
In our family, I am under the thumb of my wife, and that suits us. My wife loves to be a leader, I'm a good performer. I will obey my wife in everything, I will consult, I will ask permission.