“But you’re in vain...”: 5 things that cannot be forgiven

The ability to forgive is very important in life. Accumulated small and large grievances poison life, spoil your mood and well-being. You need to part with such grievances as soon as possible. However, not everything can and should be forgiven. Every woman has her own understanding of prohibitions. If for one her husband’s betrayal means nothing, then the other will not be able to continue being with him. Whether this is good or bad, we cannot say for sure. But you definitely won’t be able to be happy by stepping on your own principles, concepts of honor and conscience.

Betrayal

The most offensive and serious betrayals occur from close and dear people. After all, they know your weaknesses and those things that can hurt. But they still decide to betray. Sometimes it benefits them, sometimes they do it out of stupidity. The term betrayal can be understood as:

• physical or emotional betrayal of a beloved man;
• “setting up” a colleague at work;
• best friend flirting with your man;
• revealing your personal secrets and secrets.

Of course, you can try to forgive the person who betrayed you and continue to communicate with him, but trust will be lost. Someone who betrayed you once can easily do it again. As you communicate with him further, you will still remember his betrayal. Many women forgive the betrayal of loved ones because of material and moral gain. They do not want to know and accept the bitter truth.   But whether they will then have peace and tranquility in their souls is difficult to answer. Whether to sincerely forgive or completely break off a relationship is something everyone decides for themselves, listening to their inner voice.

Cruelty and assault

If you can seriously offend with words inadvertently, then you can only behave cruelly or beat someone deliberately. For most women, men's cruelty towards children is absolutely unacceptable, although many of them will forgive rude treatment of themselves. But this position is incorrect. We cannot forgive assault, rudeness, or humiliation for many reasons:

• We all sometimes find ourselves in difficult situations, there are problems at work, financial difficulties. But in any case, the stronger sex must be strong and not allow themselves to offend women, children, and the elderly. If a man takes it out on them, it means he is weak and cannot control his life.
• A father should not raise his hand against his children or be cruel to them. Despite the fatigue, bad mood, you need to realize that they are children, with their games and screams. If a father regularly humiliates and offends children, they will grow up with serious psychological problems. A mother must protect her children, sometimes this requires sacrificing relationships. 
• During an argument, your man hit you, then apologized. But such a situation can be the beginning of domestic violence. First, the woman receives slaps in the face, then serious injuries. If a man has a tendency to cause pain in bed, although you do not like it, then this also indicates his tendency to violence. By subjugating you, he asserts himself, proves to himself his own strength.
• If your partner insults and disrespects your parents and other close relatives, then he is disrespecting you. After all, it was your parents who gave you life. You shouldn't be around a man who doesn't respect you.

Why can’t you forgive when your loved one hit you? A woman with a victim mentality is ready to endure beatings, but this cannot be called normal.

Deception

You can cheat once and lose trust forever. In a relationship with a loved one or friendship, it is important to trust the person, to know that he will always be there. As a rule, it all starts with small lies. A man keeps silent about his spending, entertainment and other things so as not to “upset you.” But then it becomes a habit, all communication becomes entangled in a web of lies. You won't be able to trust him anymore.

It will no longer be a problem to deceive you on a big scale. Husbands often take out loans, lose all their savings on sweepstakes, and sell valuables without the knowledge of their spouses. Property and money that you did not get easily are spent on meaningless actions. It is difficult to forgive such deception. After all, a man demonstrates complete indifference to your needs, interests, desires. If you forgive deceptions, you will always be a victim of such an attitude towards yourself.

Treason

Attitudes towards cheating depend on a woman’s upbringing and sexual liberation. For some it means nothing. The wife avoids information about her husband’s infidelities and pretends to be completely uninformed. But for romantic natures, who relate to sexual intercourse not only from the physiological side, betrayal can become a real tragedy. It is difficult for such women to forgive her, because they will not be able to live with such a man and treat a man as before. 

Psychologists do not recommend forgiving betrayal in the following cases:

• If this is not an isolated case, but a systematic violation of fidelity.
• Is it your love or your partner's feelings are gone. In this case, there is no point in continuing the relationship.
• A man does not perceive betrayal as a betrayal or a bad deed. He does not repent, does not regret what he did, but, on the contrary, seeks to make you feel guilty. Such a man will definitely change again.
• If a man is promiscuous and obsessed with sex, then he cannot be faithful. Why endure constant betrayal.
• To be able to resist temptations you need to be strong. Learn to resist. If a man doesn't want to do this, then he will never change.

Cheating is not only a physical act, but also humiliation, deception, and betrayal of a partner. Even if you love your man very much, think many times before forgiving him. Is he worth such sacrifices? After all, life with constant mistrust and doubt is unlikely to bring joy.

Indifference

Indifference and a complete absence of quarrels is a signal that not everything is going smoothly in the relationship. Such situations lead to family crises and family breakdowns. Indifference to a woman often occurs when a man does not respect her. After all, respect is the key to normal relationships. When he is not there, the man is not interested in the woman’s opinion, criticizes her, and does not take her words and requests seriously. He may avoid communication altogether, avoid serious conversations, or simply listen to you with an indifferent look. You should not hope that your love will melt the ice; over time, his disrespect and indifference will only intensify, and criticism will become harsher. As a result, your self-esteem will decrease, complexes and self-doubt will appear.

To build a harmonious relationship you need to make efforts on both sides. But in fact, it is the woman who makes sacrifices and adapts to the man. At the same time, a man can behave absolutely indifferently and does not try to give you anything in response. A moral, material, housing factor or other benefit can keep him in a relationship. But if a woman appears on the horizon who can give more, he will immediately leave. Therefore, indifference and indifference cannot be forgiven. 

A man suffering from narcissism or a big egoist often becomes indifferent. He will be narcissistic and take your sacrifices for granted. You will not see gratitude or appreciation from him. As well as support in difficult situations, because he doesn’t care about almost everything that happens to you.

Run away from such men. After all, life is given to enjoy it, to give birth and raise children, to feel happy. And by forgiving everything that disgusts you, you will no longer be yourself and cease to be a person.