"But this is you in vain ...": 5 things that cannot be forgiven

Forgiving is very important in life. Accumulated small and large grievances poison your life, spoil your mood and well-being. With such grievances, you need to part as soon as possible. However, not everything can and should be forgiven. Every woman has her own understanding of prohibitions. If for one husband's betrayal does not mean anything, then the other will not be able to continue to be with him. Good or bad, it is impossible to say for sure. But to be happy, stepping on the throat of one's own principles, concepts of honor and conscience, will definitely not work.

Betrayal

The most offensive and serious betrayals occur from close and dear people. After all, they know your weaknesses and the things that can hurt. But they still decide to betray. Sometimes it benefits them, sometimes they foolishly do it. The term betrayal can be understood as:

• physical or emotional betrayal of a beloved man;
• “Setting up” a colleague at work;
• best friend flirting with your man;
• disclosure of your personal secrets and secrets.

Of course, you can try to forgive the person who betrayed you, continue to communicate with him, but trust will be lost. Someone who betrayed you once can easily do it again. Communicating with him further, you will still remember his betrayal. Many women forgive the betrayal of loved ones because of material, moral benefits. They do not want to know and accept the bitter truth. But it is difficult to answer whether they will have peace and tranquility in their souls later. To sincerely forgive or finally break off relations - everyone decides for himself independently, listening to his inner voice.

Cruelty and assault

If you can inadvertently offend with words, then you can behave cruelly or beat you only deliberately. For most women, male cruelty towards children is absolutely unacceptable, although many of them will forgive being rude to themselves. But this position is wrong. You cannot forgive assault, rudeness, humiliation for many reasons:

• We all sometimes find ourselves in difficult situations, there are problems at work, financial difficulties. But the stronger sex, in any case, must be strong and not allow yourself to offend women, children, old people. If a man takes evil on them, it means that he is weak and cannot control his life.
• The father should not raise his hand against the children, be cruel to them. Despite fatigue, bad mood, you need to realize that they are children, with their games, screams. If the father regularly humiliates and offends children, they will grow up with serious psychological problems. A mother must protect her children, sometimes it requires sacrificing a relationship.
• During an argument, your man hit you, then apologized. But this situation can be the beginning of domestic violence. First, the woman receives a slap in the face, then serious injury. If a man has a tendency to inflict pain in bed, although you do not like it, then this also indicates his tendency to violence. By subduing you, he asserts himself, proves his own strength.
• If your partner insults and does not respect your parents or other close relatives, then he is showing disrespect to you. After all, it was your parents who gave you life. You shouldn't be around a man who doesn't respect you.

Why can't you forgive your loved one hitting you? A woman with the psychology of a victim is ready to endure beatings, but this cannot be called normal.

Cheating

You can cheat once and lose trust forever... In a relationship with a loved one or friendship, it is important to trust the person, to know that he will always be there. As a rule, it all starts with petty lies. A man is silent about his spending, entertainment and other things in order "not to upset you." But then it becomes a habit, all communication is entangled in a web of lies. You will no longer be able to trust him.

Deceiving you on a large scale will no longer be a problem. Husbands often take loans, lose all their savings on sweepstakes, sell valuables without the knowledge of the spouse. The property and money that you didn’t just get are spent on meaningless actions. Such deception is difficult to forgive. After all, a man demonstrates complete indifference to your needs, interests, desires. If you forgive deception, you will always be a victim of this attitude towards yourself.

Treason

The attitude towards infidelity depends on the upbringing, sexual liberation of the woman. For some, it means nothing. The wife avoids information about her husband's infidelities, pretends to be completely unaware. But for romantic natures related to sexual intercourse, not only from the physiological side, betrayal can become a real tragedy. It is difficult for such women to forgive her, because they will not be able to live with such and treat a man as before.

Psychologists do not recommend forgiving treason in the following cases:

• If this is not an isolated case, but a systematic violation of fidelity.
• Do you have love or the partner's feelings are gone. In this case, it makes no sense to continue the relationship.
• A man does not perceive treason as a betrayal, a bad act. He does not repent, does not regret what he did, but, on the contrary, seeks to make you feel guilty. Such a man will definitely change more.
• If a man is licentious, obsessed with sex, then he cannot be faithful. Why endure constant betrayal.
• To be able to resist temptations, you need to be strong. Learn to resist. If a man does not want to do this, then he will never change.

Cheating is not only a physical act, but also humiliation, deception, betrayal in relation to a partner. Even if you love your man very much, think many times before forgiving him. Is he worth the sacrifice? After all, a life with constant mistrust and doubt is unlikely to bring joy.

Indifference

Indifference and complete absence of quarrels is a signal that not everything is going smoothly in the relationship. Such situations lead to family crises and family breakdowns... Indifference to a woman often arises when a man does not respect her. After all, respect is the key to normal relations. When he is not there, the man is not interested in the woman's opinion, criticizes her, does not take her words and requests seriously. He may avoid communication at all, shy away from serious conversations, or just listen to you with an impassive air. Do not hope that your love will melt the ice, over time, his disrespect and indifference will only intensify, criticism will become tougher. As a result, your self-esteem will go down, complexes and self-doubt will appear.

To build a harmonious relationship, you need to make efforts from both sides. But in fact, it is the woman who makes sacrifices, adapts to the man. At the same time, a man can behave absolutely indifferently, does not try to give you anything in return. Keeping him in a relationship can be a moral, material, housing factor or other benefit. But if a woman appears on the horizon who can give more, then he will immediately leave. Therefore, indifference and indifference cannot be forgiven.

A man suffering from narcissism or a great egoist often becomes indifferent. He will be proud and take your sacrifices for granted. You will not see any gratitude or appreciation from him. As well as support in difficult situations, because he is indifferent to almost everything that happens to you.

Run away from such men. After all, life is given to enjoy it, to give birth and raise children, to feel happy. And forgiving everything that hates you, you will no longer be yourself and will cease to be a person.