Child aggression: what are the reasons and how to get rid of

To know how to cope with the manifestation of child aggression, you need to understand what it is. Aggression in children is a method by which they express their anger and discontent through a negative attitude towards everything around them. Adults often confuse bouts of aggression with whims... Let's talk about this in more detail.

Manifestations of child aggression

The manifestation of child aggression is quite common in many families. Children experience outbursts of negative activity, which are expressed by the child's terrible behavior. Breaking a toy, tearing up a book, biting another child or one of the parents are the most obvious signs of a child's aggression. Some, fearing a repetition of this behavior in a child, begin to isolate him, take him away from the playground. But is it right? This will only lead to the baby's isolation in himself, and outbursts of aggression may, on the contrary, become more frequent.

Almost every family with a child sooner or later faces such a problem, and they themselves can resolve the situation that has arisen. But in cases of aggression accompanied by nervousness, it is necessary to immediately consult a specialist so as not to lead to a deterioration in the situation.

Reasons for the appearance of aggression

In order to really help a child cope with aggression, it is necessary to understand the reasons that led to this behavior. Irregular behavior of parents, various diseases, social factors or age characteristics, the so-called crises, can provoke the manifestation of negative emotions in children.

There are several main reasons for the manifestation of aggression in children:

• the special temperament of the child and the state of the nervous system;
• Feelings of constant fear or frequent stress, which leads to self-doubt;
• not entirely correct upbringing on the part of adults, for example, if the child is left to himself;
• copying, i.e. by his behavior, the child reflects what he constantly observes in the surrounding space (in the kindergarten, at home, on the street);
• the child's desire to stand out, to be a leader.

Also, aggression can manifest itself in children with physical or psychological ailments as a result of ridicule from other children, the inability to do something like everyone else.

Aggressive child what to do

First of all, you need to be empathetic parents, and pay attention to even minor changes in the behavior of your child. Any problem is easier to solve when it is just starting to gain momentum, rather than to correct the bitter consequences. Therefore, in order not to initially provoke a child to show aggression, it is necessary to create a favorable environment around him, without quarrels and screams. Also, we must not forget about the action of the TV and the computer, negative flows from them in a continuous stream, therefore it is necessary to limit and control views.

A child should feel important and needed, he should feel loved always and everywhere, in any situation. Since children are a reflection of adults, you cannot scold a child for wrongdoing, humiliating him. In no case should a child be physically punished.

Children perceive information poorly the first time, but if you constantly say, giving specific examples, that biting, pinching, fighting is not good, then he will perceive such bad behavior as negative, and will not do that. And to consolidate the learned, it is necessary to show love, affection, care, mutual assistance by your personal example, and you should never discuss the child's bad behavior in front of him. It is necessary to suppress aggression at its source, and constantly, both in your child and in other people's children.

There are various playful activities that can help reduce aggressive behavior in children. For example, ask the baby to draw on the album sheet the reason for his aggressive behavior, and then offer to tear it up.

You need to be able to punish children correctly. As a result, they should have a desire to correct themselves, and not become even more embittered. You also need to give the child the opportunity to throw out his emotions through the game, or in some other alternative way. To get rid of negative emotions, a simple pillow, which must be given to the child in the form of a punching bag, can help.

How to make a child kind

It turns out that the child is not aggressive, parents need to follow several rules:

1. Create an atmosphere of love and care in the family.
2. No manifestation of adult aggression with a child, including directed at him.
3. Trust your child.
4. Do not demand unquestioning obedience from children, they are the same people, just small ones who also have their own opinions and desires.
5. Do not suppress the initiative, let the child open up, show himself.
6. No punishment in the form of angry shouts and remarks.

For parents whose child is already showing aggression, it is important to remember that one should not scold the child, but help him cope with a problem situation, for which, first of all, find out the cause of its occurrence, and then show possible ways out of the current situation. You need to be patient and start changing your child for the better, starting to change yourself. The most important thing is that the child should always be surrounded by love.