Child's whims and how to deal with them

Probably, everyone has seen how whims manifest in children. And poor parents have to endure it regularly. Indeed, in this form, kids show their dissatisfaction, try to achieve something or explain. But it is impossible to follow the lead of children, as tantrums and whims will be repeated more and more often. So what is the reason for children's whims and how to deal with them?

The whims of a child per year

It often happens that a child who is flexible from birth begins to be capricious. Usually this period falls on the time when the baby is one year old. Parents are looking for reasons, but they do not always understand what worries their child so much. And everything is quite simple!

Since children during the first year of life spend more time in the arena, crib, stroller, etc., their world is limited, so they only study it. As soon as the baby has learned to crawl and walk, he is attracted by many objects that he wants to taste by touch. Of course, not everything the child can get on his own, some things parents forbid to touch. It is at this moment that the baby begins to protest, which manifests itself in the form of whims. He can scream, stomp his feet, or even lie on the floor and be hysterical.

What to do? To begin with, remove in advance all the things that cannot be taken by the child. It is desirable that they be out of sight. At this age, the crumbs love to play with boxes, pans, rattle them, fold something and lay out. There is nothing wrong. If the child wants, he should be allowed to do so by offering the option that is acceptable to the parents.

It is equally important to take into account the fact that a child in a year cannot yet say everything he wants. Therefore, we must not fight whims, but first of all, look for their cause. For example, if the baby does not want to swim, cries and screams, it may not be whims, but a way to tell parents that the water is too hot or cold.

How to deal with the whims of a child

It is unlikely that parents like it when their child is capricious about and without him. But do not shout and immediately punish the baby. It must be explained that his actions will lead nowhere. That is, if the crumb wanted candy, then by whims he will not achieve anything. It is enough just to say about your desires.

Parents should not be led by their children. You need to understand the reasons for this behavior, talk to the child, explain why you can't behave badly. Of course, many adults lack nerves, but emotions should be restrained, as the baby will repeat after them. The whims of children are meant for the audience. If there is no reaction, this behavior will rarely be observed after several attempts.

What to do if the child does not obey

Every child, sooner or later, begins a period when he learns the essence of the word "no" and begins to use it at every opportunity. Most children start protesting from the age of 2-3, when their vocabulary allows them to say everything they are not happy with. Similar situations are observed in two cases:

• The child wants to get what he is not allowed;
• He doesn't like what he is forced to do.

This period of protest cannot be avoided, but the manifestations of the baby's whims can be minimized. If the parents respond correctly to the attacks of their child, sooner or later the tantrums will stop. To begin with, you should define a clear framework for behavior that the child should not violate. For example, this is sleep, nutrition, walks, hygiene procedures, etc. The welcoming environment at home helps to calm down. The child's psyche is unstable, so parents should tell the baby that they love him, they miss him. You cannot give in to your own rules, since children see this immediately and do not understand why before, for example, it was possible to eat with your hands, but the next day it is no longer possible.

Overdoing it with control is also not worth it. The child must have his own space, independently explore the world, etc. Parents should be helpers, not supervisors.

Almost all children, before getting sick, begin to be harmful and stop obeying their parents. They cannot understand why they feel bad, they become more irritable. In such cases, the support of relatives will help.

Child's whims: advice from psychologists

To wean a child from being capricious, you must follow several rules:

1. Avoid giving your child too many toys at the same time. Enough 2-4 pieces. Otherwise, an overabundance of impressions will quickly tire the baby, and he will be mischievous.
2. It is necessary to try to switch the baby's attention to different activities in time. For example, you can play with dolls or cars, and then play games that develop fine motor skills. If the child lacks impressions, by such actions the parents will be able to minimize their lack.
3. All children should be active. Therefore, you should give complete freedom of action, for example, in the stadium, playing with a ball. At home, the baby will behave more calmly, as it will get tired, and there will be no strength to be capricious either.
4. The child must get used to being alone. This does not mean at all that he must be left alone at home. It is enough to turn on a children's song or a fairy tale so that the child can watch it without parents. But it is categorically impossible to be allowed to watch TV at a too early age, since some programs and even advertisements irritate the child's psyche.

Every child wants to be loved! Parents should not humiliate the child, but understand the reason for the wrong behavior of their child. Only by finding out them, you can overcome disobedience and whims.