How to wean a child
Many parents believe that the most effective way to calm a small child is to get it sick or just carry it in their arms. Oddly enough, it is those parents who most often use this reliable sedative for children who are interested in how to wean the little one from the constant desire to be in the arms of their parents. Let's talk about why children ask for their arms and how to minimize this tactile contact.
How to wean a child from motion sickness
Probably every parent has thought about why children calm down when they are taken on handles and wiggled a little. Everything is logical enough. After all, being in the womb, the baby very rarely lay motionless. Most of the time he tossed and turned, danced, turned from one side to the other. A small child remembers those swaying, the smell of mom, and on a subconscious level, in the presence of these factors, he calms down. 
There are many opinions as to why a child can be rocked or weaned off. For a small defenseless child, it is important to feel how the mother's heart beats, her smell and warmth. Psychologists say that children who are rocked sleep better, their nervous system is more stable.
But at the same time, pediatricians say that young children have not yet developed the vestibular apparatus, and light motion sickness can cause dizziness.
If the parents have made such an important decision, they should gradually replace the carrying on their hands with other methods of motion sickness. For example, you can use a pendulum bed, stroller, etc. But you need to take the child in your arms before he starts crying, otherwise he will understand that he can achieve what he wants with tears and will actively use this method of manipulation. 
To smooth out the transition a little, you can give the child a massage, pat the head so that he feels the parental warmth. Feeling it, the baby will fall asleep, and when the sleep becomes sound, you can put it in the crib.
Psychologists say that in most cases, the child needs the mother's presence, and not motion sickness in the arms. Lullabies are an excellent way to calm the little one, but it is important that one of the parents hums them.
How to wean a child
Every parent has to wean a child at some point. After all, little toddlers are probably ready to spend all the time in the arms of their relatives. And at the first attempts to discipline the baby, he begins to cry and be capricious... This is how children learn to manipulate adults from an early age.
Of course, children are defenseless creatures who simply need parental tenderness and care. But you need to distinguish when the baby is crying because something hurts him, and when he just shows his character. 
As practice shows, in half of the cases, babies cry for a serious reason. For example, a baby may be worried colic, hunger, discomfort due to an overflowing diaper, extraneous noise or light. Given that the nervous system of young children is very weak, they may cry due to normal fatigue.
Weaning children up to 6-8 months old is not recommended, as this, according to experts, can negatively affect the child's nervous system. Therefore, it is better to do this difficult task after the expiration of such an important period for crumbs. 
First, you need to teach your child to calm down without hands. For example, you can distract him with a toy, swing him in a cradle or on a swing, turn the baby over to another position. If these methods turned out to be ineffective, parents should touch their child, hug, but not pick up.
Psychologists emphasize that parents need to understand the importance of tactile contact, so even during weaning, do not forget about touching. For example, it can be stroking, hugging, kissing, and even massage. Thus, it will be possible to avoid the stressful state of the child, since he will think that his form and love have simply changed for his "hands", parental support is expressed in other tactile contacts.
