How to check a man

At the very beginning of a relationship, women tend not to notice the peculiarities of their man's habits, they do not go into the details of his character and see only positive qualities in their beloved. Indeed, men, and women too, tend to show only their positive qualities at the stage of the bouquet-coffee period. But as soon as the question arises of whether it is worth associating your life with a person, many doubts arise. To dispel them and make the right decision, you need to arrange a little test for your loved one.

How to check a man for feelings

To understand that a man really has warm and tender feelings, and not dull lust and sexual attraction, you need to arrange certain tests that he does not even know about. It is also necessary to observe his usual behavior in certain situations, which we will talk about a little later. Men are very good actors who, for the sake of what they want, are ready to play in such a way that even Stanislavsky could not catch them in a bad game. Nevertheless, there is a reign even for the most cunning, the main thing is to remain with a cold mind in order to give a correct assessment of its actions.

Let's start with the banal, but so common ... Many girls believe that real feelings can be expressed in words, so they are firmly convinced that the more a man talks about his love, the more he experiences it and vice versa. This is much more of a misconception that works in exactly the opposite direction. The more he says “I love”, “I can’t live without you,” the less such feelings he really has, and beautiful, gentle phrases and words are aimed at clouding the mind of the lady, so to speak to show off. This is how nature created men, that in their understanding, to confess in love means to confess their weakness. Therefore, it is easier for them to accomplish a mountain of feats and deeds for the sake of a lady of the heart than to utter three cherished words. Remember how often in films they show shots where a man rushing from corner to corner confuses words in places, goes crazy with excitement, repeating the same thing, imagining how he confesses his love to his woman? This is how a man who truly loves behaves. Therefore, if your loved one is scattering such phrases to the right and to the left - think about whether it makes sense to believe him?

A loving man wants to be together as often as possible and worries about his object of adoration. Therefore, you can check his sincerity in feelings simply by not calling him at the appointed time or deliberately being late for a meeting with him. If feelings have a place to be, then he will certainly call back himself and find out the reason. The call itself from his side and his reaction to the situation in general are important here. Since not only a loving man can call back, but also egoist how it deigned to ignore his majesty and jealous. If he calmly asks about the reason, he will be interested in "something happened?" - this is great, he just worries, so you are not indifferent to him. But this method cannot be abused, otherwise the man will consider you unnecessary and frivolous.

Another quality of a man who really has tender feelings is that he will introduce his chosen one to his close circle, relatives and friends. And he must do this himself, and not after a thousandth prayer or a hint from you.

When meeting, a loving man is always interested in the affairs of his beloved, looking for reasons to be useful to her, if necessary, support and protect. If his beloved is unwell, then his anxiety will manifest in full, he will bring medicines, call several times a day to inquire about his state of health. A loving man differs from an owner in that it is important for him that his beloved is also realized, so he will not limit her, forbid her to work and develop.

In no case should you test for jealousy by flirting with other men with him or talking about your previous relationships. A serious man is likely to have the idea that you are a frivolous and easy-going lady, with whom you should not start a serious relationship. Another wrong attempt at verification is expressed in artificial temptations. Quite often you can observe a picture when a girl deliberately introduces her beloved to her friend, or asks the latter to write / call him and play up. Firstly, a cultured man will never directly send other women while in a relationship, but this does not mean at all that he is ready to sleep with others, nevertheless, ladies regard this behavior of a man as almost a full-fledged betrayal. Secondly, men are not stupid enough not to feel the test and understand which side it is coming from. Relationships should be built on trust, and if there is none, then there can be no talk of any joint future.

It is necessary to organize a test of a man for feelings wisely and not go to extremes. So, for example, if a man holds a responsible position, runs his own business, then he may not call you back, not because he does not care, but simply because his head is full of business. Enter his position and treat with understanding, because he is trying to create a worthy future not only for himself, but also for his future family, which, with the right approach, he can build with you.

How to check a man for loyalty

Someone is interested in the feelings of a man, while others are worried about how much the beloved is faithful to his chosen one. Here, in principle, loyalty and feelings stand on the same field - i.e. if a man sincerely loves, then he will never commit treason, because this is the most that neither is betrayal. Therefore, if you checked your loved one for sincerity in love and he passed all the tests with dignity, then the test drive for fidelity can be missed. We warn you right away that if you are already desperate for such a test, then be extremely careful, because if a man suspects and sees through your technique, then the relationship can seriously go wrong. And if the test is successful, then never and never tell him that they once tested him, even after 25 years of marriage.

So, let's get started, methods that will help make sure a man is loyal:

• If you have access to his computer, see what sites he visits and what he is interested in. If there are no dating sites and other thematic resources on which you can make acquaintances with girls, then everything is fine.
• You can do the same with his mobile phone by checking SMS and call history. Noticing calls to "female names", even with postscripts like "... accountant" pay attention to the time of the call. If he was at night, it may indicate a connection that goes beyond financial matters.
• As we have already said, do not resort to the help of friends and acquaintances who could seduce a man. Firstly, such a service may turn out to be "bearish", and secondly, there is a high probability of disclosing the verification. Here either the man himself will understand, or the girlfriend will split on occasion in the future, when she wants to annoy you. And if you really want to try a similar technique, then it's better to do everything yourself. Register a fake account on a social network, but make it so that it does not look like it by filling out the entire profile with everything you need. Do not write to him in PM and do not knock on friends immediately, this will cause suspicion. It is necessary to make sure that the virtual meeting is completely random. Join the group in which he is also sitting, find his recent comment on some entry and, as if casually rate him and respond with a comment to him. It is likely that an easy, non-binding conversation will ensue. Just after that, you can go to his page, rate a couple of photos and knock on friends and write the first message in the LAN, starting with a simple "Hello :)". Do not persuade him to cheat immediately and do not ask him if he has a girlfriend, this is suspicious. The first questions of this nature can be started up somewhere in 3-4 weeks. You need to be careful with this method. It takes a relatively long time, so it is suitable for patient individuals.

You can't even imagine how many relationships broke down under the onslaught of jealousy and such checks. Therefore, once again think about whether it is necessary at all, such checks? Are they worth the fact that for the sake of their own suspicions from scratch to break off relations with a good person. Moreover, one can make sure of a man's loyalty by simple observation, without organizing special checks for this, namely:

• Intentionally forget your phone when going to a date with a man. And already on the spot "discover" that you have forgotten it and ask your soul mate to lend you a mobile phone for a call or SMS. If he has nothing to hide, then he will not hesitate to lend his mobile. And also, as for the phone, pay attention, does it hide it from you when you are together, or is the mobile phone often in the field of view with the screen facing up?
• Notice how he looks at the beauties passing by. Is his glance fleeting or interested? As a rule, even the most skillful womanizer and a man prone to betrayal, who perfectly plays to the audience with his “feelings” for the chosen one, cannot resist and not “undress” with a glance a leggy beauty who is in sight.
• Make calls when he does not expect them and check how often there are cases that he cannot talk or simply does not pick up the phone. But here take into account the fact that, for example, at work it may be forbidden to conduct constant conversations on personal matters.

These three methods may well serve as a harmless test that looks so natural that no man will even suspect that he is being tested and at the same time you can calm down on the topic of your loved one's fidelity.

How to check a man for honesty

Alas, as such, honesty checks have not yet been invented, so here you will have to rely either on your female intuition, or simply believe until the lie really comes out. You can try to ask a man a question, the answer to which you know for sure and see what he answers you. But here you need to know when to stop and have a cold mind. For example, you saw your beloved in a lingerie store or in a jewelry salon, you decided to call him casually and inadvertently ask where he is now, but he took it and lied, saying that he was at work. It is likely that he wants to make a surprise, which is why he hid the truth, so in principle this cannot be called a lie.

Pay attention to how often his words are at odds with his deeds. If he promised something and did not do it, and there is no serious excuse for this in the form of an urgent call to work, for example, this is bad. If this continues from time to time, then this man is clearly not serious and irresponsible, and it costs nothing to lie to him.

But be that as it may, the main flaws of a person come to light only after all romanticism disappears, and during this time people often manage to legitimize their relationship. Probably, this is precisely the reason for the terrible statistics, according to which 50% of all marriages, i.e. every second ends in divorce in the first years. In order not to get into this number, you need to evaluate a person in advance without embellishing the merits of a man and give an adequate assessment of his actions, followed by making competent decisions about the possibility of continuing the relationship, and not jumping out to get married just for the husband to be.