Selfish man

Selfishness is undoubtedly a useful quality, but only in a rational manifestation. It is important for a person to take care of their interests and love themselves, to achieve their goals. When a person is in a couple, it is necessary to sacrifice egoism, because you also need to think about the desires of the other half. Usually women do not show selfishness in a couple. And men often suffer from it.

Signs that a man is selfish

Recognize an egoist man is not difficult. You just need to look at him from the outside and soberly analyze his behavior in certain situations. Here are some of the characteristics of a selfish man:

• The egoist doesn't bother with apologies. Anyone should understand that he is not sinless, and sometimes he needs to apologize for his unseemly actions. If a guy, instead of apologizing, pretends that nothing special has happened, this indicates his excessive pride and selfishness. Perhaps he regrets the hurtful words, but does nothing to correct the situation.
• It's hard to rely on him. Such a person will always put their own requests first, while your requests will be regularly ignored. You need to draw conclusions from this. If a person does not understand that it is necessary to support and help a woman, then this can hardly be eliminated.

• An egoist will not openly express his feelings to you. It is not at all necessary to take vows of unlimited love every day, but it is necessary to show care and attention in the form of kisses and hugs, affectionate words and support. Feelings are just fueled by such simple actions.
• An egoist does not consider your opinion. This does not mean that Man trying to suppress you. It simply does not occur to him to ask your opinion, because for him it does not matter at all. For an egoist, only his opinion is important. But in a relationship, situations very often occur when it is necessary to make a decision together.
• The egoist loves to use emotional violence. Such a person will openly, tell you hurtful things to your face, not ask for forgiveness for this. You do not need to humbly endure humiliation and insults. If there is no respect for you in a relationship, then you should not fight for them and try to save.

If your companion meets most of the signs on this list, then it will be very difficult to build a relationship with him. First of all, it will not be easy for you. Therefore, think a hundred times if you really need them.

What to do if a man is selfish

According to psychologists, selfish people are not only incapable of be in love other people, but they don't treat themselves well either. With the help of selfishness, a person tries to adapt to life.

Usually women do not even realize that living together with a selfish man is so difficult. After all, an egoist needs to love, take care of him, regret, take care of him and fully adapt to him. At the same time, one can not even dream of reciprocity. Narcissism, pride and being too demanding on a woman make life with a selfish a man impossible. This makes the woman want to re-educate the egoist.

However, do not think that reeducation will take place quickly and without problems. This process is very lengthy, complex and not necessarily successful. Most likely, it will be easier for you to adapt to your partner than to re-educate him.

You can slightly simplify the task of re-educating an egoist with the help of blackmail and threats. This method should not be considered dirty and dishonest. An egoist can change only if he has a fear of losing something valuable to him.

How to build a relationship with an egoist man

If you are determined to re-educate your egoist, then you should be patient and turn on your feminine cunning. First, talk to your partner about the specifics of his behavior. It is highly likely that he does not even know about your dissatisfaction with his attitude towards you. If this conversation doesn't change anything, then try a different tactic.

Use the weaknesses of the egoist to your advantage. Such a man loves to be admired and set as an example. You need to convince him that everyone around him will simply die of envy if they find out what expensive gift he gave you, or took the whole family to an expensive resort, or ... and so on. The list is endless.

The lazy egoist can be fought with praise. Say words of admiration for a man's participation in any, even the smallest household chores. Do this more often with family and friends. This will help form the desire to take action.

It is very important for an egoist to be admired by others. An attempt can be made to deprive him of this admiration. Only exalt a man when he actually did a real thing. At the same time, do not miss the opportunity to set other people as an example for him, emphasizing their successes. It is very good if these people are relatives or friends.