The strong are also afraid or what men fear

The stereotype of a knight, without fear or reproach, is firmly embedded in the heads of many girls. He completely supplanted the idea that a man is, first of all, a man. He has his own feelings, experiences and sensations. He just disgusts showing them. Today we will talk about male fears, their nature and objects.

Male fears

Having shoveled a mountain of literature, we can come to the conclusion that we are intimidated by the bulk of men, women... All their main fears are associated with the loss of their importance in the eyes of the lady of the heart. Namely:

• Fear of "losing" in bed... Well, there is nothing surprising, to lose masculine strength, to stop feeling like a male, is really scary. Girls, more often praise your partner after sex, even if he was not "on horseback" at all.
• Fear of not living up to your girlfriend's hopes. It doesn't really matter if it's a bed or just a life situation. It should always be For you the best. Most bright orgasm, the most reliable driver, the most fun conversationalist. Point.
• Show weakness. Relationships, affection, manifestation of emotions - all this is perceived by a man as his own vulnerability. And he doesn't like it, he's a strong and confident leader, what the hell is weakness? Therefore, many prefer loneliness and freedom as a symbol of their own invincibility.
• Become unnecessary. A thin line between freedom and self-worth. Ideally, you should not be able to literally do anything without him, but not interfere with his business and private life. Not to be confused with personal, personal is you.
• Many men are afraid to take responsibility for another. No, they are not afraid of the role of the head of the family and so on. They are rational by nature. Therefore, after weighing their capabilities, they simply come to the conclusion that they may not be able to cope. Too wrapped up at work to be a good, considerate father or husband. Plus, she will not be able to afford to unwind once again with friends with a bottle of beer. And men value the opportunity to relax.
• Treason. “If you cheated, then you fell out of love,” men think. Any man is afraid to realize that he is no longer the main one in the girl's life. So something is wrong with him. All men consider themselves a priori ideal... All these thoughts about underdeveloped muscles and lack of a beard are imposed by modern marketing.
• Not get confession... Remember that he is always perfect? So, it is important for a man that his relatives, relatives, friends think the same way. Therefore, many men are extremely worried about the conflict of the half with their parents or friends. They made a choice, but do not receive recognition of its correctness.
• Refusal. Yes, men are afraid of being rejected. Someone more, someone quite a bit. But absolutely everything. It is for this reason that they try to avoid beautiful, confident partners. AND choose calm and meek, though not beauties. The train of thought here is "yes, she has few fans, so she will not dare to refuse me."
• Women's victories. Males do not perceive women as worthy rivals. Despite the attempt at gender equality, actively promoted in recent years, in the psychology of men we are weak... And therefore, to discover one fine day that a woman has passed you is a blow to self-esteem.

What are men afraid of

The following is a list of male phobias. Again, fears of the opposite sex are at the core.

• Men subconsciously avoid strong, powerful women. On the one hand, natural laziness whispers to them that such a woman will solve her problems herself and give him more time to relax. But the male nature screams "run!" A woman who can do everything herself is a bad woman. She does not fuel self-esteem, does not admire his achievements. No man can survive this. Advice to such girls - in his presence you can do nothing. You are a girl, small, fragile and beloved. Turn on the steel character at work or where he does not see you.
• As found above, a man does not like to be weak. Therefore, he experiences every trouble in himself. He is not afraid to realize failure. The man is afraid to admit that he is temporarily weak, could not cope, became vulnerable. When he comes up with a solution to the problem, then he will definitely share it with you. He also needs to "trump".
• No one wants to be ridiculed. Do not think, males like to be the soul of the company and hear laughter. But it should be good humor. They do not tolerate, even temporarily, becoming the object of ridicule. After all, this is a sign of his weakness.
• A strong half of humanity does not like to get sick. Even if your spouse behaves like a complete hypochondriac, barely seeing how the thermometer creeps up to 37, this does not mean that he likes this state of affairs. To be sick is to be weak, temporarily unable to do the usual things. That is why they demand our attention so much. Here the child's memory "mom, kiss where it hurts and I will run to play with the boys" comes on.
• Losing hair is another of the main male fears. Increased hair on the head and body is a sign of a male hormone. No hair - problems with masculinity.

Why are men afraid of women

The main reason why men avoid meeting girls, getting to know them, and starting relationships is the fear of discovering their weakness. That is why it is easier for them to reduce their relationship to sex without obligation... Satisfied natural needs - goodbye. You can't tell at first glance, but men are much more emotional than us. They calculate the situation in advance and understand that a closer acquaintance will make them feel.

We girls don't even realize how much power we have. This is about sexuality... Few of us thought about how a man feels when he looks at a beautiful girl. And he feels a lot. It is these emotions that allow us to control a man. That is, the ladies have in their hands the levers of control of his weakness. And sooner or later, the stronger sex understands this. Therefore, he sometimes hides without explanation - he realized that he is in your complete power.

The world of a man does not understand our feminine things, like “changed her mind”, “no means yes, and yes means no,” and so on. Their universe is much simpler, so these our female "cockroaches" plunge them into shock. Any man is afraid to get screwed up. And how can you be sure of your decision, if a woman can always accuse him of harassment, if he did not understand the refusal. Or ridicule indecision, if the word "no" was interpreted as a red light.

In conclusion, I would like to say that men must constantly prove something. This is the world of males. So let him be himself with you. Don't turn the relationship into a battle. The fact that he does not agree to join "the battle" is, on the contrary, good. He values ​​you as a woman. There is no need to become a rival to him, show the addiction and he himself " will turn on»Your strength.

Nobody is perfect, you need to study find compromises and turn your minuses into pluses. Be loved and "weak"!