The strong are also afraid or what men are afraid of

The stereotype of a knight without fear or reproach is firmly entrenched in the heads of many girls. He completely repressed the idea that a man is, first of all, a human being. He has his own feelings, experiences and sensations. He just hates to show them. Today we’ll talk about men’s fears, their nature and objects.

Men's fears

Having sifted through a mountain of literature, we can come to the conclusion that we scare the bulk of men, women. All their main fears are related to the loss of their significance in the eyes of the lady of their heart. Namely:

• Fear of "losing"  in bed. Well, there’s nothing surprising here, losing masculine power, stopping feeling like a male, is really scary. Girls, praise your partner more often after sex, even if he was not “on horseback” at all.
• Fear of not living up to your girlfriend’s expectations. It doesn’t really matter whether it’s bed or just a life situation. He should always be for you the best. The most bright orgasm, the most reliable driver, the most cheerful conversationalist. Dot.
• Show weakness. Relationships, affection, expression of emotions - all this is perceived by a man as his own vulnerability. But he doesn’t like it, he’s a strong and self-confident leader, what the hell is weakness? Therefore, many prefer loneliness and freedom, as a symbol of their own indestructibility.
• Become unnecessary. A fine line between freedom and a sense of self-worth. Ideally, you should be able to do literally nothing without him, but not interfere with his business and private life. Not to be confused with personal, personal is you.
• Many men are afraid to take responsibility for another. No, they are not afraid of the role of the head of the family and so on. They are rational by nature. Therefore, after weighing their possibilities, they simply come to the conclusion that they may not be able to cope. Too stressed out at work to be a good, attentive father or husband. Plus, he won’t be able to afford to once again relax with friends with a bottle of beer. And men value the opportunity for relaxation so much.
• Treason. “If you cheated, it means you stopped loving,” men think. Any man is afraid to realize that he is no longer the main thing in a girl’s life. This means there is something wrong with him. All men consider themselves a priori ideal. All these thoughts about underdeveloped muscles and lack of a beard are imposed by modern marketing.
• Don't get it recognition. Remember that he is always perfect? So, it is important for a man that his loved ones, family, and friends think the same. Therefore, many men are extremely worried about the conflict between their spouse and their parents or friends. They made a choice, but do not receive recognition for its correctness.
• Refusal. Yes, yes, men are afraid of being rejected. Some more, some just a little. But absolutely everything. It is for this reason that they try to avoid beautiful, confident partners. And choose calm and meek, although not beautiful. The train of thought here is “yes, she has few fans, so she won’t dare refuse me.”
• Women's victories. Males do not perceive ladies as worthy rivals. Despite the attempt at gender equality, which has been actively promoted in recent years, in the psychology of men we are weak. And therefore, to discover one day that a woman has passed you by is a blow to your self-esteem.

What are men afraid of?

The following is a list of male phobias. The basis again lies in fears of the opposite sex.

• Men subconsciously avoid strong, powerful women. On the one hand, natural laziness whispers to them that such a woman will solve her problems herself and give him more time to relax. But male nature screams “run!” A woman who can do everything herself is a bad woman. She does not feed his self-esteem, does not admire his achievements. No man can survive this. Advice to such girls - in his presence you cannot do anything. You are a girl, small, fragile and loved. Turn on your steely character at work or where he can’t see you.
• As we found out above, a man does not like to be weak. Therefore, he experiences every trouble within himself. He is not afraid to realize failure. A man is afraid to admit that he is temporarily weak, could not cope, and has become vulnerable. When he comes up with a solution to the problem, he will definitely share it with you. He needs to “show off.”
• Nobody wants to be ridiculed. Don’t think about it, males like to be the life of the party and hear laughter. But it should be good humor. They do not tolerate, even temporarily, being the object of ridicule. After all, this is a sign of his weakness.
• The strong half of humanity does not like to get sick. Even if your spouse behaves like a complete hypochondriac, barely seeing the thermometer creep up to 37, this does not mean that he likes this state of affairs. To be sick is to be weak, temporarily unable to do usual things. That's why they demand our attention so much. Here the childhood memory kicks in: “Mom, kiss where it hurts and I’ll run off and play with the boys.”
• Losing hair is another of the main men's fears. Increased hair growth on the head and body is a sign of the male hormone. No hair - problems with masculinity.

Why are men afraid of women?

The main reason why men avoid meeting girls, getting to know them, and starting relationships is the fear of discovering their weakness. That is why it is easier for them to reduce relationships to sex without commitment. Satisfied natural needs - goodbye. Although you can’t tell at first glance, men are much more emotional than us. They calculate the situation in advance and understand that closer acquaintance will arouse feelings in them.

We girls don’t even realize how much power we have. It's about sexuality. Few of us have thought about how a man feels when looking at a beautiful girl. And he feels a lot. It is these emotions that allow us to control a man. That is, the ladies have in their hands the levers to control his weakness. And sooner or later, the stronger sex understands this. That's why he sometimes hides without explanation - he realized that he is completely in your power.

The world of men does not understand our feminine tricks, like “changed my mind”, “no means yes, and yes means no” and so on. Their Universe is structured much simpler, so these female “cockroaches” of ours plunge them into shock. Any man is afraid of getting into trouble. How can you be confident in your decision if a woman can always accuse him of harassment if he did not understand the refusal. Or make fun of indecision if the word “no” was interpreted as a red light.

In conclusion, I would like to say that men must constantly prove something. Such is the world of males. So let him be himself with you. Don't turn your relationship into a battle. The fact that he does not agree to join the “battle” is, on the contrary, good. He values ​​you as a woman. There is no need to become his rival, show his dependence and he himself " will turn on» your strength.

Nobody's perfect, it's necessary study find compromises and turn your disadvantages into advantages. Be loved and “weak”!