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How to find common ground

by Oksana Gromakova - Feb 6, 2017

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Understanding has an important role in the communication of people. Understanding the desires and goals of others, a person reacts in time to a particular situation. This helps to quickly adapt and make the right decision.

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How to understand people
How to find common language with people
How to find a common language with a child

How to understand people

It has long been known that a person's feelings and emotions can be recognized through facial expressions, movements and manner of speech.

First of all, a person pays attention to the face. It can be sad, funny, thoughtful. But it is rather difficult to determine the emotional state only with its help. After all, people are able to hide their emotions by controlling facial expressions. It is enough to make a "stone" face and no one will guess about the real intentions.

Movement and posture can tell you more about the other person. Each person has their own specific gait. It is easy to recognize emotional experiences from it. A person experiencing anger has a heavy gait. And people with long strides are filled with a sense of pride and importance. When worried, a person almost does not wave his hands while walking. Feeling happiness and joy, the gait becomes light. But it is not always possible to analyze emotions in the body. If the interlocutor is sitting, then his gait is not known.

Words convey more than face and body. But here, too, not everything is simple. After all, people do not always tell the truth. You can hide something, explain it ambiguously, or simply not find the right words to express your thoughts.

To understand another person, you need to imagine yourself in his place. Look at the state of affairs from his point of view. It's pretty straightforward. But in most cases, other people's problems rarely bother anyone. People do not want to hear and see what they are trying to show and tell. They are worried about personal problems. And in return they receive the indifference of others.

Sometimes it is difficult to put yourself in the shoes of another. And the desire to do this is not always present. Explain to yourself that this is not in vain, and as a result, all efforts will pay off. If you learn to understand others, then they will listen and understand you.

How to find common language with people

There are several ways to find common ground with other people:

Before you start communicating, think over the text of the phrase. Speak calmly and slowly. Don't say too much lest you say too much.
Sometimes, after promising something, people forget to keep what they promised. And others, without waiting, stop them trust... Therefore, you must either keep your promises or not promise anything.
Compliment, praise, and thank people more often. So you get the person's favor.
No need to impose your communication. Someone does not want to communicate with you, so he so wants. This is his right. If they want to tell you something intimate, listen to the person. This will help you get closer and gain the trust of the other person. If you do not want to listen to other people's problems, explain this to the person in a gentle way. You won't be able to please everyone, but they will respect you.
A positive attitude attracts people. Share your joyful mood. Everyone has problems in life. Strive to treat everything more easily, and earn the sympathy of people.
It is advisable not to argue if you are not sure that you are right. Agreeing is better than arguing in the end. Those who argue a lot are not particularly favored.
Don't spread gossip or listen to it. Gossipers are disliked almost everywhere.
Take criticism calmly. It does not always mean that they want to offend you. Perhaps they want to tell you what to look for. This is a chance for further development.
Feel free to ask others what is still new to you. This means that you are ready to learn, improve.
Be honest.

How to find a common language with a child

Children need love and care. Very often they lack this. Then they begin to be rude, stop obeying. All this is done just to be sure of your love. If you come up and hug your child, then he will feel your calmness, calm down and begin to hear you. By accepting a child regardless of his behavior, you will help him understand that bad behavior is not necessary.

To find a common language with your child, try these tips:

Allow him to show emotions. Let him feel understood. Try to compromise in different situations.
As soon as it turns into a thorn, pet it. Hug, kiss, joke with him. He will receive extra attention from you and gain self-confidence.
Don't scold your child. After all, an upset mom is already a punishment. Just don't pretend to be upset. This is already a deception and manipulation.
Try to resolve more. Indeed, sometimes parents forbid something, because they are too lazy to break away from other things.
Share the affection. Children learn to express emotions by studying their effects on their parents. They are very sensitive at a young age, especially boys. Add more affection and love.
Allow mistakes. If the child is willing to help you, let him try. Explain to him how to do it right. When he succeeds, it will rise self-esteem... He will be proud of himself. And a happy child is a happy parent.