When there is inner conflict inside

The conflict within a person always seems to be the most difficult, and often frightening. Nevertheless, intrapersonal conflict is a normal state of a person, which makes him develop, move on. The main thing is to detect the presence of an internal conflict in time, find its causes and optimal ways of resolving it.

Causes of internal conflict

Intrapersonal conflict can be characterized as a struggle in the human psyche of two tendencies: negative and positive. The resolution of the conflict within a person primarily depends on himself. He must learn to live in harmony with himself and with the world around him.

The conflict within the personality can be caused by a variety of reasons:

• Conflicting desires. For example, let's say you decide to get up early. But fulfilling this desire is not easy, because you really want to sleep a little longer.
• Life dissatisfaction. A person may think that he is not interesting to anyone. He begins to doubt his abilities, internal contradictions appear.
• The problem of choice (for example, which of the two men to prefer).
• Self-realization difficulties. Each person has opportunities to realize himself, but not all of them are equal. One is hindered by internal reasons, the other by external circumstances. As a result, it becomes difficult to prioritize and it becomes difficult for a person to make a decision.

The causes of conflict can be both internal and external, but in everyday life it is quite difficult to distinguish between them. For example, an employee who, by occupation, must make a decision, is forced to choose between a sense of duty and the order of the boss. Factors such as financial and housing problems, threats, bribes and much more can also influence its decision.

Why internal conflict is dangerous

Internal conflict is a rather dangerous phenomenon. Often it interferes with a person to open up, to show their abilities, makes it difficult to communicate with others, leads to burnout... A person torn apart by internal contradictions begins to suffer. There is a feeling of emptiness and abandonment, a feeling that all efforts are in vain.

As a result, everything can end in a nervous breakdown and the development of serious diseases. To prevent these consequences, it is necessary to find ways to resolve the contradictions that have arisen as soon as possible.

How to resolve an internal conflict

Psychologists recommend several ways with which you can resolve internal conflict:

• Awareness of your benefits. Everyone has strengths, but many tend to belittle their successes and achievements, focusing on shortcomings. This should not be allowed. It is necessary to learn self-respect, to evaluate oneself as a person, otherwise how will others do it? A fair assessment of your merits will help not only resolve internal conflict, but also improve your life.

• Achieving a compromise. Agreeing with yourself is much easier than with other people. You need to find useful traits in yourself and start developing them. Gradually, the conflict with oneself will come to naught.
• Detailed analysis of your mistakes. It is important not only to find your merits, but also to think about what hinders implementation and in general in life. It can be laziness, obsession with little things, lack of self-confidence.
• You need to learn how to clearly formulate your goals, only then you will be able to achieve them.

The most difficult thing for a person who has recognized the existence of an internal conflict is to give up one of his desires. He needs to make a choice, despite the fact that he may be wrong.

In the conflict, the prospects for the personal growth of a person are always laid. It is very important to take timely measures and make efforts to overcome internal contradictions. Overcoming internal conflict helps a person become freer and start moving forward.