“He won’t go anywhere - he’ll fall in love and get married”: how to get a man to marry

We all meet, fall in love and also all want to get married. Family, common interests, loved one man nearby. But not all male representatives are going to get married and bind themselves in chains for life. Many girls believe: “if he doesn’t ask you to marry, it means he doesn’t love you!”, oh, how wrong this opinion is. In fact, there are many reasons why men are not going to get married.

Men who don't marry

Psychologists say that every third man– intimate phobe (men who are afraid not of intimacy, but of emotional intimacy with a woman). Such people, as soon as they hear about family, children and a shared dog, grab their things and run headlong away from this woman. There are also other reasons for not starting a family.

• Activists - well, or an active search, such young people consider themselves “the king of all Rus'”, and the women who are around him are simply unworthy of him! Usually this behavior begins in adolescence, but lasts quite a long time, almost until old age.
• Mama's boy - such individuals usually sit under "mother's skirt" and wait for her to find a suitable wife for her child (naturally, so that she likes her). Most often these men- bachelors for life, because the other half should be like his mother, but at the same time they (mother and future wife) must become friends, which is extremely difficult.
• “Forever young, forever drunk” - in fact, we are not talking about physical age, but about a state of mind. There are people who, even at 60 years old, believe that they are still 18 - for such people, marriage means hanging a yoke around their neck and dragging it all their lives, but he is still young! Therefore, getting married is not for them.
• Sufferers - such male representatives are not uncommon. Once they had a bad relationship with a girl, there was a negative experience and a sad breakup. They don’t trust new passions, because old wounds are still bleeding, hence the question “what kind of wedding, if I don’t trust you?”
• Well, perhaps the most common - womanizers. These characters only want sex from girls, and it’s best not to take his promises to “get married and live with you for the rest of his life” seriously. There are so many free and ready girls around men that they just can’t decide what they need. Of course, such people can get married, but... they will always look in the direction of other people’s women, and there will be no happiness with them.
• By the way, there is another example of men, but their percentage is tiny (which is especially pleasing). These are male representatives who experience hostility towards the female sex. Such “monsters” can’t let alone live with a woman, but she doesn’t even attract them for sex (even if she’s a super-duper model)! For such people, the words “woman” and “monster”, oddly enough, are synonymous. Usually such men live alone. Yes, they can be nice good girls in public, but these qualities are not for women.

Why don't men get married?

Here, to be honest, there are also clinical options, but people are different, and you can’t get away from them. Some men are afraid of sex. Most often this is the result of childhood trauma and moral teachings that “ sex“It’s dirty, shameful and sinful.” Such thoughts are instilled in the child by loving mothers and grannies, so that their child does not start promiscuous (or any) relationships. And so, when a little boy turns into an adult man, all these fears do not go away, and life is very difficult for him. Also, this complex can develop due to childhood suggestions (by himself or friends, classmates) that he is scary, thin, fat, that he is not what he should be and that in general he has nothing to gain in life with such an appearance. Morning runaway syndrome - if a man finally decides and has sex with a woman, then the next morning he will be very tormented by his conscience and internal self-flagellation. Such young people are cowards who want one-time pleasure, but without consequences. Or there are men for whom everything is fine with sex, but they cannot bear oral sex, or a negative attitude towards touching his dignity. Such people easily become nervous and angry, and can stop intimacy for good.

Or men perceive the female gender as a threat to their personal space. You can have a wonderful relationship, both moral and physical, but if you decide to leave even your toothbrush in their house, then that’s the end of everything! Such men religiously guard their territory, and as soon as you decide to invade it, you will immediately be driven out of your bed and life.

Young people who painfully experienced parental divorce in childhood. Such people do not want to expose themselves to such danger, since they are very afraid that they themselves may be abandoned. They most often find themselves unsuitable candidates for the role of wife, and after some time they themselves abandon them in order to convince themselves that love does not exist.

There is still a type of man who thinks that all women are with them only because of their wallet. Moreover, the wallet can be so plump and full. But usually wealthy young people who are afraid of losing everything suffer from this. Therefore, it will be difficult to prove that you need him and not his money. Also, men who do not want or cannot have children never marry, men who have already been married, divorced and know very well that they will not get into this bondage again. Misogynists or young people who are terrified of any rituals - such people will come up with anything (an allergy to champagne or to their mother-in-law) rather than get married.

How to marry your man

In order to marry the man you love, it is best to follow a few small rules of what you can and cannot do. For example, it is best not to live together until the registry office, since this is the longest path to the wedding, because you already live together, have a common life - so why do you need a stamp in your passport? If, after all, you live together, then do not nag your significant other with the question “when will we get married?” this can have a negative effect. It will be better if you don’t blackmail him, saying that if “there’s no stamp in your passport, then you won’t have sex.” Also, in conversations about the wedding, do not focus on the ceremony, because it has been observed that men are more afraid of the wedding itself than the stamp. Of course, you shouldn’t let your parents interfere in your life; your significant other should be sure that they will live with you, and not with your parents. Give him a little more freedom, never remember how good it was for me with my ex-boyfriend Kostya.

Be his one and only and irreplaceable. Treat his family with respect, welcome his friends hospitably (their opinion may influence the attitude of your significant other towards you). It is better to talk about family, family values, and not about registration. Praise your loved one more often, say nice words, be in love and flirt.

How to marry a man to yourself

Well, if you really want something, then it’s worth doing it. Do you want to get married? Tell him this directly. Talk, discuss and resolve this issue. Or, if you have an excellent relationship with his mother, then turn to her for help - tell her about your feelings, thoughts, dreams. About how you dream of living with her son in marriage, it is likely that she will be imbued with it and will take your side, and then “hold on son”! The two of you can persuade him to decide to get married. If it doesn’t help, then intimidate him a little by telling him that you are still young, beautiful, and many would give everything to be with you. But you are with him, so let him think about what he might lose. In the worst case scenario, you can make a demand on him, or he proposes, and you get married, or you leave him. He only needs to give an answer - whether he agrees or against. But here you need to be honest, sincere, show that you have already decided everything for yourself, and continue or put an end to it - here he must decide for himself.