"Will not go anywhere - fall in love and marry": how to get a man to marry

We all meet, fall in love and also all want to get married. Family, common interests, loved one Man nearby. But only now, not all males are going to get married and bind themselves in fetters for life. Many girls think: “if she doesn’t call you to marry, then she doesn’t love you!” Oh, how wrong this opinion is. In fact, there are many reasons why men are not going to get married.

Men who don't marry

Psychologists say that every third Man- an intimophobe (men who are afraid not of intimacy, but of emotional closeness with a woman). Such, as soon as they hear about family, children and a common dog, grab their things and run headlong from this woman. There are also other reasons for not starting a family.

• Activists - well, or an active search, such young people consider themselves "the king of all Russia", and the women around him are simply unworthy of him! Usually, this behavior begins in adolescence, but it lasts quite a long time, almost to old age.
• Mom's little son - such individuals usually sit under the "mother's skirt" and wait for her to find a suitable wife for her child (of course, so that she likes her). Most often such men- bachelors for life, because the second half should be like his mother, but at the same time they (mother and future wife) must make friends, which is extremely difficult.
• "Forever young, forever drunk" - in fact, we are not talking about the physical age, but about the state of mind. There are people who, even at 60 years old, think that they are all 18 - for such people, getting married means hanging a yoke around their necks and dragging it all their lives, but he is still so young! Therefore, getting married is not for them.
• Suffering - such males are not uncommon. Once upon a time they did not have a relationship with a girl, there was a negative experience and a sad break in relations. They do not trust new passions, because old wounds are still bleeding, hence the question “what wedding if I don't trust you? "
• Well, perhaps the most common - womanizers... These characters need only sex from girls, and his promises to "marry and live with you the rest of their lives" are better not to be taken seriously. Around men there is a huge number of free and ready-to-do girls, that they just can't decide what they need. Of course, such people can marry, but ... they will always look in the direction of other people's women, and there will be no happiness with them.
• By the way, there is another example of men, but their percentage is tiny (which is especially pleasing). These are males who are hostile to females. Such "monsters" cannot not only live with a woman, but she does not attract them even for sex (even if she is a super-duper model)! Such words “woman” and “monster”, oddly enough, are synonymous. Usually such men live alone. Yes, they can be cute goodies in public, but these qualities are not for women.

Why Men Don't Get Married

Here, to be honest, there are also clinical options, but people are different, and you can't get away from them. Some men are afraid of sex. Most often this is the result of childhood trauma and moral teachings that “ sex- it's dirty, shameful and sinful. " Such thoughts inspire the child with loving mothers and grandmothers so that their child does not start a messy (or even any) relationship. And now, when a little boy turns into a grown man, all these fears do not go away, and life is very difficult for him. Also, this complex can develop due to children's suggestions (himself or his friends, classmates) that he is scary, thin, fat, that he does not have what it should be and that in general he has nothing to catch in life with such an appearance. Syndrome of morning runaways - if a man nevertheless decided and had sex with a woman, then in the morning he would be very tormented by his conscience and internal self-flagellation. Such young people are cowards who want a one-time pleasure, but without consequences. Or there are men who are fine with sex, but they cannot bear oral sex, or a negative attitude towards touching his dignity. Such people easily become nervous and angry, and can end the intimacy for good.

Or men perceive the female gender as a threat to their personal space. You can have a great relationship, both moral and physical, but if you decide to leave at least your toothbrush in their house, then this is the end of everything! Such men sacredly guard their territory, and as soon as you decide to invade it, you will be immediately expelled from your bed and life.

Young people who have painfully experienced parental divorce in childhood. Such people do not want to expose themselves to such danger, because they are very afraid that they themselves may be abandoned. They most often find themselves inappropriate candidates for the role of wife, and after a while they leave them in order to convince themselves that love does not exist.

There is also a kind of men who think that all women are with them only because of their wallet. Moreover, the wallet can be so plump and full. But usually wealthy young people who are afraid of losing everything suffer from this. Therefore, it will be difficult to prove that you need him, and not his money. Also, men who do not want or cannot have children never marry, men who have already been married, divorced and know very well that they will not fit into this bondage again. Misogynists or young people who are terrified of all sorts of rituals - such will come up with anything (allergic to champagne or mother-in-law), just not to marry.

How to marry your man

In order to marry your beloved man, it is best to follow a few small rules of what you can and cannot do. For example, it is best not to live together before the registry office, since this is the longest way to the wedding, because you already live, a common life - so why is there a stamp in your passport? If, after all, you live together, then do not nag your soul mate with the question "when will we get married", this threatens with a negative effect. It will be better if you do not begin to blackmail him, that if "there is no stamp in the passport, then you will not have sex either." Also, in conversations about the wedding, do not create an emphasis on the ceremony, because it has been noticed that men are more afraid of the wedding itself than of the stamp. Of course, you should not let your parents interfere in your life, the other half must be sure that they will live with you, and not with your parents. Give him a little more freedom, never remember how good it was with my ex-boyfriend Kostya.

Be his one and only and irreplaceable. Treat his family with respect, meet friends hospitably (their opinion can affect the attitude of your soulmate towards you). It is better to talk about family, family values, and not about registration. Praise your loved one more often, say nice words, be in love and flirt.

How to marry a man to yourself

Well, if you really want something, then you should do it. Do you want to get married? Tell him about it directly. Talk, discuss and resolve this issue. Or, if you have a great relationship with his mother, then turn to her for help - tell us about your feelings, thoughts, dreams. About how you dream of living with her son in marriage, it is likely that she will be imbued with, and will take your side, and then "hold on, son"! The two of you can persuade him to decide to marry. If it doesn't help, then scare him a little by telling him that you are still young, beautiful, and many would give everything to be with you. But you are with him, so let him think about what he can lose. In the most extreme case, you can put him a demand or he makes an offer and you get married, or you leave him. He only needs to give an answer - whether he agrees or against. But here you need to be honest, sincere, show that you have already decided everything for yourself, and continue or put an end to it - here he must decide for himself.