Sex compatibility
Sex therapists claim that the reason for the increase in the number of divorces over the past years is the sexual incompatibility of partners. Sooner or later, lovers, who initially focused more on the consistency of the second half, actions, character, are simply disappointed, since problems in bed also affect relationships. What is the reason? Does the well-being of the family really depend on the quality of sex? Let's talk about this in more detail.
How to check compatibility in sex
Sexual compatibility of partners directly depends on their type of temperaments. This characteristic of a person is laid down from birth. The level of sex hormones plays an important role in its formation. Accordingly, since the hormonal background practically does not change throughout life, sexual activity also remains unchanged.
There are 3 types of sexual temperaments:
- Strong. People with such a temperament develop faster than their early onset of sexual activity is explained. Sexual satisfaction is one of the main goals of their life, so many people think that these people are too active and think only about sex. Daily sexual pleasures are considered the norm for them. Most often, such people are short, self-confident, and there is a lot of hair on their body. This is due to high testosterone levels.
- Middle. People with this type of sexual temperament can differ significantly from each other. It's not about the amount of sex per week, but about their sexual preferences. This is the golden mean between representatives of a strong and weak type of temperament.
- Weak. Such people do not believe that the success of a relationship depends a lot on the quality of sex. They start sex much later than most of their peers. Such people create strong families, as they are monogamous. For them, conversations, a romantic atmosphere are much more important, and the number of sexual pleasures does not play a special role (it is enough to do it once a week, or even less often). Most women and men of thin stature have such a sexual temperament.
Sexologists argue that perfect compatibility is only observed when partners have the same sexual temperament.
How to improve compatibility in sex
Sooner or later, relationships that were built without regard to sexual compatibility begin to crumble. Claims, quarrels, scandals lead to a break in relations. But there are ways to solve this problem:
- Communication. Most couples don't talk about sex. But it is during conversations in a calm romantic atmosphere that you can talk about desires, preferences or hidden motives of behavior. For example, often one of the partners feels constrained due to negative experiences in the past. Only a loved one can help to cope with this. Massage, affection, psychological support can radically improve the situation.
- Lack of criticism. The easiest way to lower your partner's self-esteem is to start criticizing him during sexual pleasures. It is better to focus on pleasant moments, thereby stimulating the soul mate to new actions.
- Comparisons. You should never compare a partner with anyone else. Any emotional stress leads to the emergence of fears, which can negatively affect the relationship.
- Romantic setting... Beautiful linen, dim light, romantic dinner, etc., always create a special atmosphere. External attributes are very important. In addition, the partner understands that he was expected.
To improve sexual compatibility, you need to spend more time together, talking, watching movies and just walking. Only when both partners feel relaxed and are able to communicate on any topic, including sexual preferences, will intimate life also improve significantly.
