Why low self-esteem is dangerous

How well people live with normal self-esteem- they always succeed, they do not suffer from complexes and never doubt their decisions. But healthy self-esteem is not a gift from nature, but the fruits of the labors of both parents and the individual himself. If you want to become a self-confident person and have good self-esteem - then you are here!

Signs of low self-esteem

You can understand that you have a clearly low self-esteem by the following signs:

• It's hard for you to say no to people. More precisely, it is not difficult, but at all you cannot. Even if you do not want to do something that the other asks, you still answer “yes” and do it against your will. Such fear speaks of the desire to be "good" for everyone at once, to please everyone, and even if it goes against your own interests and desires, it is easier for you to step on your throat. A good way out in this case will be the realization that you need to become a good person first of all for yourself, and not for someone else. Ask yourself regularly what you want!
• You are constantly jealous of someone. Yes, envy is the lot of those whose self-esteem is low. After all, envy can only be born to someone who, in the opinion of a person, is more successful and more successful in something, and automatically there is a belittling of his own merits. This is followed by dissatisfaction with yourself, because you did not have time or could not achieve something. To overcome this quality, you need to forget how to compare yourself with outsiders and learn to measure your achievements only in relation to yourself, but, for example, a year or two earlier - this is the only true measure.
• You are afraid to talk about your desires. This fear by its nature is very close to the first sign, when it is difficult and impossible to say “no” to others. Fear of standing out from the crowd and declaring that you want something of your own. Something like the herd method. The only way to defeat him is to understand that you are a person who, like others, has the right to your desires, and then learn to talk about them.
• There is a constant desire in your head to lose weight. And not only to lose weight, but also to change something in your appearance - to enlarge your breasts / lips / ass, change your eye color, etc. This suggests that you do not consider yourself harmonious, do not recognize your external data as satisfactory, but think that something or someone is more beautiful. Accept yourself for who you are and do not try to go to imaginary perfection, it still does not exist. This, of course, does not mean that you need to give a damn about your body, because a slender body, in which there is no excess of fat deposits, is, first of all, not even beauty, but health.
• You find it difficult to make decisions on your own, so you constantly ask outsiders for advice. It is not good to constantly ask for advice, especially if there are completely outsiders among the advisors who are not in any way interested in making you feel good. Just imagine yourself, you trust your life to a completely stranger who bears absolutely no responsibility for what your action will turn out to be, and you will have to accept all the consequences and bear responsibility too.

These are not all signs of low self-esteem; in fact, there are many more of them. But it is precisely these that stand out clearly and are striking. It is not typical for an individual with low self-esteem to take risks, of course, we are not talking about a stupid risk, but he will not open a business, for example, because he is not sure of himself and that his idea will be useful to someone. Such people constantly feel guilt, even if in fact they have nothing to do with the situation, they will still find a reason to blame themselves. Already on such a small list, a person with low self-esteem will clearly define himself.

Why low self-esteem is dangerous

Almost no one thinks that low self-esteem can be dangerous, but it really is. To begin with, every person, and especially those with problematic self-esteem, wants to be realized and succeed. But due to lack of self-confidence, he cannot do this. This generates a lot of psychological problems. Due to the fact that he cannot express his opinion, declare his desires, and even more so say what he really thinks, outbursts of anger regularly occur in his soul, which remain inside and do not find a way out. All this together creates a very negative foundation for physical and psychological health.

On the psychic plane, such an individual develops a chronic stress and depression, and they are known to have serious consequences and can even lead to suicide. On the physical plane, first of all, the heart and circulatory system, as well as the organs of the digestive tract, suffer, an ulcer develops and persistent heartburn suffers, the liver surrenders and all immunity weakens. Of course, the clinical picture develops gradually and does not appear after a month or a year. But there is no doubt that over time health problems will appear.

Insecure people choose life partners who often lead an immoral lifestyle, or who feel superior and take advantage of it. And the worst thing is that an insecure person holds on to such a "beloved" with his hands and feet, believing that he is not worthy of the best. This explains the fact that women live with tyrants, alcoholics and drug addicts, endure their beatings and do not claim where they should be.

An insecure person is doomed to envy and secretly hate others, looking at how they achieve success. Their whole life is played out according to someone else's scenario, and by the end of their life a severe and prolonged depression sets in.

But what is even worse is that such a person spoils life not only for himself, but also for his children. The fact is that problematic self-esteem is inherited by children, and all this is understandable. It is so laid down by nature that from the very birth, the child adopts the style of behavior of the parents, he thinks like them, because until a certain moment he is simply not able to teach information from other sources. And when that moment comes - late - the worldview has already taken root and it will be very difficult to change it.

The danger of low self-esteem is difficult to overestimate, and the consequences can be enumerated for a very long time. But even these facts are already enough to start working out the inner qualities and develop a healthy attitude towards oneself.

How to improve self-esteem

Get ready for the fact that building self-esteem is not a quick process, and certainly not an easy one. Do not expect results in a month and in a day or a week. Although, in general, it all depends on your efforts and on how much you want to change your attitude towards life and yourself.

To date, a huge number of various exercises have been compiled, an uncountable amount of literature has been written, millions of trainings have been organized on the topic of increasing self-esteem, which is not even clear where else these problems can come from. Do they really not work and this is all fiction? Or maybe low self-esteem is a chronic disease that does not respond to treatment? Not at all, you can be cured, but only under the main condition - a strong desire to do it! If it is not there, then no one and nothing will help you. Therefore, everything depends on you and only on you.

And these tips will help you start moving in the right direction towards a life where you will believe in yourself:

• The first thing to do is rethink your social circle. Who is around you? People dissatisfied with life, constantly whining and whining at the injustice of life? Those who see life only in gray? But it is very contagious, just like the other way around. To become a different person, you need to communicate with those who already are. Try to be in the company of positive people, be where confident people communicate, maintain useful contacts. This will undoubtedly insist on the right wave, and with those who, with their attitude to life, pull you to the bottom, say goodbye forever and without regret.
• Don't evaluate yourself, evaluate the results. When you have done something and it has led to something, evaluate the fruits of your labors, not yourself. Evaluate how well everything worked out or maybe something needed to be done differently. This way you will avoid "self-eating" and will not reproach yourself. In general, try to look at the situation from a third-person perspective.
• If someone praises you, in no case be silent and do not say “nothing at all” or embarrassed “come on”. Once you have thanked, praised or made a compliment, it means there is something for. Therefore, the correct answer to this is "thank you" and "please".
• Get up in the morning in front of the mirror daily and do the affirmation sessions. You can compile them yourself or find a large list on the Internet. Just never use the particle "not", otherwise the affirmation will give the opposite effect to the desired one, since the subconscious mind does not perceive the "not". For example:
  • “I'm not scary” is wrong; “I’m beautiful” is correct.
  • “I'm not fat” is wrong; "I'm slim" - right.
  • “I’m not a failure” is wrong; “I am successful and lucky” is correct, and so on.
• Act, do not think for a long time, and after you have thought of everything, just do it and do not even think about whether the idea will work out or not. Remember, only the one who does nothing is not wrong!
• In the near future, plan to read books on the topic of increasing self-esteem. It is books, not articles. In such literature, a detailed assessment of things and situations is given, they are written by professionals in their field, they give practical advice and describe exercises that can really help.

And finally, it should be said that a good psychologist will become the main assistant in this matter, especially if the situation is critical. It is a good one, with extensive experience, knowledge base, relevant qualifications and a large number of satisfied clients. You will have to look for such a thing, but otherwise there will be no sense in turning. Yes, the services of a specialist are not cheap, but you cannot save on the quality of your life, otherwise you risk missing out on the most pleasant and happy moments of your life, as well as not knowing what success and self-realization are. The choice is yours!