The ideal lover through the eyes of men
How many such families exist, where, it would seem, everything is fine - a clever and beautiful wife is perfectly managing the household and raising children, with her husband they live in perfect harmony. But all the same, something is wrong, the man lacks something, and he gets a mistress. Why is this happening and what pulls men "to the left"?
Why do men need a mistress
Do not forget about the historical predisposition of the male population to polygamy. In ancient times, this state of affairs was normal and justified. After all, sexual intercourse with several women made it more likely to get strong offspring. Now this feature is preserved only in animals, and even then not in all.
If we talk about morality, then hardly anyone can answer this question unequivocally. Most of the male population is inclined to cheat under the influence of not only internal instincts or craving for love victories.
This is partly to blame for the standards of society and the prevailing stereotypes. According to them, a man must necessarily be strong, responsible, a breadwinner, bring money into the house and so on. A man should not show emotions and other sentiments. The need for such behavior often leads to stress and illness, even if there is a good family relationship.
Another factor is the unwillingness of men to move from a free bachelor life to family concerns before the age of 30, when most marriages are concluded. Family commitments leave no time to meet with friends, instead having to do household chores and visit the wife's relatives. So it turns out that only a mistress can prove your importance and strength.
By starting a relationship on the side, a middle-aged man has the opportunity to feel young again next to a young lover.
Another woman perceives a man with all the flaws, is always ready to listen and support. Plus, she never saws like a wife.
With his mistress, a man can experience new emotions and sensations, which he has not received in marriage for a long time.
The opportunity to receive sexual satisfaction, which has not been observed in a legal marriage for a long time. Over the years, in the family, sex fades into the background, which, of course, does not suit the man.
The qualities of an ideal lover
According to men, the ideal woman, first of all, should be sensual and enjoy sex. This allows a man to experience the pleasure of a sense of masculine consistency, the confidence that he is able to fulfill his duties assigned to him by nature.
- Do not think that it is important for a man that his mistress behaves like a sexual machine. A good mistress understands sex, knows how to please herself and her partner, but at the same time she has moral principles.
- Another important quality of an ideal lover is the ability to maintain a conversation and be pleasant in communication. At the same time, a man should not feel stupid around his mistress. Therefore, a good lover will always hide her mind so as not to hurt a man's pride.
- Still, men love with their eyes, so such a woman always looks good, takes care of herself. She may not shine with heavenly beauty, but she must be neat and clean. The mistress knows how to choose clothes and underwear in such a way as to emphasize all her virtues, she is not ashamed to appear in society.
- Another important point is the light, unobtrusive nature of the lady. The mistress is usually gentle and affectionate, a little capricious, never hinders the freedom of a man. She does not interfere with his work and does not meddle in family affairs.
Can a wife be the perfect lover?
Many women, suspecting her husband of treason, arrange surveillance, check the phone and pockets, or, even worse, make scandals and kick the unfaithful spouse out of the house. Although if you want to take your husband away from his mistress and save your marriage, you need to act differently. You just need to become an ideal lover for your spouse. Try to look after yourself. Perhaps you have not visited a beauty salon for a long time or your slim figure is lost in numerous folds? Take some time to address this issue - buy a gym membership and get a new hairstyle.
You should reconsider your attitude towards sex... Perhaps he has long lost his passion and looks more like serving a duty. Remember your old youth, for sure before marriage yours sexual pleasures were much more relaxed and interesting. Remember the qualities of an ideal lover and follow them. Show your husband that you enjoy being intimate with him. It is not forbidden to even slightly embellish the experienced passion.
Try to talk to your husband about sex... Tell him what you like about this matter and find out about his preferences. These little things make up a happy sex life. Do not neglect oral sex. For many women, oral sex is a sore subject, but do not forget that men are very fond of such contact. Therefore, if you want to become the perfect lover, you will have to love him. If both of you enjoy oral sex, your husband will be delighted. You will become for him the most desirable woman in the world. And the spouse will no longer think about any mistress. In general, it is worth more experimenting in bed, then you will not have the desire to cut and make claims.
