The ideal lover through the eyes of men
How many such families exist where, it would seem, everything is fine - a smart and beautiful wife manages the house well and raises children, and her husband and she live in perfect harmony. But still, something is wrong, the man lacks something, and he takes a mistress. Why does this happen and what pulls men “to the left”?
Why do men need a mistress?
We should not forget about the historical predisposition of the male population towards polygamy. In ancient times, this state of affairs was normal and justified. After all, sexual intercourse with several women gave a greater chance of getting strong offspring. Now this feature is preserved only in animals, and even then not in all.
If we talk about morality, then hardly anyone can answer this question unambiguously. Most of the male population is inclined to cheat under the influence of not only internal instincts or a craving for love victories.
Society standards and prevailing stereotypes are partly to blame for this. According to them, a man must be strong, responsible, a breadwinner, bring money into the house, etc. A man should not show emotions and other sentiments. The need for such behavior often leads to stress and illness, even with good family relationships.
Another factor is the reluctance of men to move from a free bachelor life to family concerns before the age of 30, when most marriages take place. Family obligations do not leave time to meet with friends; instead, one has to attend to household chores and make visits to his in-laws. So it turns out that only a mistress can prove her importance and strength.
By starting a relationship on the side, a middle-aged man has the opportunity to feel young again next to his young lover.
Another woman perceives a man with all his shortcomings and is always ready to listen and support. Besides, she never nags like her wife.
With his mistress, a man can experience new emotions and sensations that he has not received in marriage for a long time.
The opportunity to obtain sexual satisfaction, which has not been observed in a legal marriage for a long time. Over the years, sex fades into the background in a family, which, of course, does not suit the man.
Qualities of an ideal lover
According to men, the ideal woman, first of all, should be sensual and experience pleasure from sex. This allows a man to experience the pleasure of a sense of masculine consistency and confidence that he is able to fulfill his duties assigned to him by nature.
- You should not think that it is important for a man that his mistress behaves like a sexual machine. A good lover understands sex, knows how to give herself and her partner pleasure, but at the same time has moral principles.
- Another important quality of an ideal lover is the ability to carry on a conversation and be pleasant in communication. At the same time, a man should not feel stupid next to his mistress. Therefore, a good mistress will always hide her mind so as not to hurt a man’s pride.
- Still, men love with their eyes, so such a woman always looks good and takes care of herself. She may not shine with heavenly beauty, but she must be neat and clean. A mistress knows how to choose clothes and underwear in such a way as to highlight all her advantages; she is not ashamed to appear in society with her.
- Another important point is the lady’s light, unburdensome nature. A mistress is usually tender and affectionate, a little capricious, and never restricts a man’s freedom. She does not interfere with his work and does not meddle in family affairs.
Can a wife become an ideal lover?
Many women, suspecting their husband of treason, arrange surveillance, check the phone and pockets, or, even worse, create scandals and kick the unfaithful spouse out of the house. Although if you want to take your husband away from his mistress and save your marriage, you need to act differently. You just need to become the ideal lover for your spouse. Try to take care of yourself. Perhaps you haven’t visited a beauty salon for a long time or your slender figure is lost in numerous folds? Take time to solve this issue - buy a gym membership and get a new hairstyle.
You should reconsider your attitude towards sex. Perhaps he has long lost his passion and is more like serving his duty. Remember your past youth, probably yours before marriage sexual pleasures were much more relaxed and interesting. Remember the qualities of an ideal lover and follow them. Show your husband that you enjoy intimacy with him. It is not forbidden to even slightly embellish the passion experienced.
Try to talk to your husband about sex. Tell him what you like about the matter and find out about his preferences. These little things make up a happy sex life. Don't neglect oral sex. For many women, oral sex is a sore subject, but do not forget that men really love such contact. Therefore, if you want to become an ideal lover, you will have to love him. If oral sex brings pleasure to both of you, your husband will be completely delighted. You will become the most desirable woman in the world for him. And the spouse will no longer think about any mistress. In general, you should experiment more in bed, then you will not have the desire to nag and make claims.
