Like black and white. The difference between men and women

Mutual understanding and respect are the fundamental principles of any "healthy" relationship, it is sometimes difficult to achieve them, and all because a man and a woman look at the world in completely different ways, their views and points of view on things can differ significantly. This does not mean at all that someone's opinion is correct, and someone's is not, the secret lies in the peculiarities of psychology, which ones, let's try to figure it out in more detail.

Features of men

No one will argue that a person, regardless of gender, has a unique type of temperament and character, however, there are features inherent in most males, they largely depend on age. In total, experts distinguish 6 age groups:

• The period of adolescence, which conventionally lasts from 16 to 23 years old, is characterized by an active search for oneself, the formation of a man as a person, and the definition of professional activity. Young people of this age often treat girls as a sexual object, and not as a person with whom they would like to build a family; physiological characteristics, in particular, a hormonal surge, contribute to this behavior.
• The turbulent and emotional period of adolescence is followed by the time of maturity. Man already decided on life goals and means of achieving them. Parties and trophies in the form of another conquered beauty are no longer so attractive to them, the prospect of a family and having children becomes more formalized.
• From 30 to 38, the overwhelming majority of the stronger sex manage to take place in the profession, build a career and financially provide for the family. And all would be fine, but often successful men begin to be oppressed by family life. It is at this age that the chances are high that the spouse will want to find another passion, younger and more carefree. In order not to get bored, psychologists recommend constantly expanding your horizons, looking for new hobbies that will be of interest to the whole family.
• The midlife crisis is met with caution, because in the period from 39 to 45 years, a man sums up a preliminary result of what happened and what else needs to be achieved. The further success of the marriage depends on the conclusions. Feeling the approaching old age, the spouse may become deeply depressed or go in search of new experiences.
• After 45 years, a man is looking for peace and tranquility, he again feels the charm of family life and is waiting for support, warmth and care from the second half. Emotional closeness with family members comes to the fore. The sexual aspect of marriage takes on a twist.
• After overcoming the 55-year-old milestone, the relationship between spouses becomes more romantic, platonic. Intimate life is far from being as turbulent as it was at 30, but it is filled with sensuality. Men most of all value a cozy home, friendly gatherings and intimate conversations with their wife, children and grandchildren.

As for the attitude of young people to life and the opposite sex, then, of course, it is largely determined by the environment, upbringing and the specific psychotype of a person. But there are also common signs that characterize a mature, accomplished man.

First of all, it is independence and responsibility for their words and deeds, which is so lacking in many representatives of the stronger sex in the era of rampant infantilism. No matter how trite, but at all times the ladies were looking for a companion, radiating confidence and inner strength, loyalty to their principles and beliefs. The notorious wall behind which one would like to hide in moments of anxiety and despair is what a woman needs, because she is naturally weaker physically and psychologically. Caring for others makes a person more attractive and reliable as the head of the family.

Features of women

Of course, it is impossible to equate absolutely all people with a certain psychotype only because of their female or male sex. There are a lot of women with strong spirits, with a masculine mindset, and guys, sensitive and morally unstable, ready to be behind their wife's back all their lives, but the characteristic features inherent in guys and girls can still be distinguished.

Top 10 differences in female psychology:

• The mindset of men and women is vastly different. Representatives of the stronger sex are guided by logic and accuracy, thinking about a specific subject and excluding everything that does not concern it, and they also think large-scale and are well-oriented in space, while a woman listens more to internal sensations and intuition. In other words, a man is rationality, and a woman is emotionality. Because of these differences, misunderstandings and conflicts often arise both at work and in the family. But, if we consider these features as an opportunity to complement each other, then you can find many advantages, because it is a woman who sometimes prompts the right way out of a difficult situation, relying only on her own instinct and the ability to consider problems from all angles.
• In men, it is inherent in nature to strive for career development and making money, until a certain period their brain can be programmed only for this, while a woman, even at a fairly young age, thinks about family and procreation. In a relationship or marriage, conflicts often occur over this - the spouse is not ready to have children until he can adequately provide them, which is why he is accused of callousness.
• The gender difference can be seen even in the example of building relationships in a team, with colleagues or friends. The girl seeks to establish friendly communication with everyone, while the man wants to be a leader in everything.
• Ladies are more susceptible to the influence of public opinion, before committing an act, they play several times in their head the possible outcome of events. Guys are more decisive and act on their own conclusions, not particularly interested in what people think of them.
• The leading social role has always been assigned to the man, this is supported by physiological processes, hormonal features that allow "males" to become the successor of the genus, sexually they light up faster than women who are determined to find a permanent sexual partner.
• Of course, women are inclined to more open communication with people around them, it is easier for them to find a common language with strangers, in a difficult situation they cannot keep negativity in themselves and share with relatives and friends. Men, on the other hand, withdraw into themselves, preferring to solve problems alone.
• Male representatives are aimed at quickly achieving a goal, thinking in advance about a plan and strategy of behavior, but any force majeure is able to take them out of their working rut. Women do not attach much importance to a specific goal, but they know how to wait and adapt to circumstances.
• Psychologists say that men more often have an impulsive type of temperament, among them there are many choleric people, among women there are more sanguine and melancholic people.
• In extreme situations, men orient themselves better, focusing attention on important details and finding a way out of the impasse faster, while girls are lost.
• It's no secret that women are emotional, they can rarely restrain the emotions that overwhelm them, this is also explained by hormonal changes on different days of the menstrual cycle. The mentality of guys is more stable and stable.

How to find mutual understanding

As a rule, complete understanding the girl and the guy find only at the initial stage of the relationship, while the chemical processes in the body, strong emotions and falling in love do not allow them to see shortcomings in the partner. As soon as the feeling of novelty and mutual attraction weakens, mutual understanding also disappears, it is replaced by irritation, reproaches and claims.

According to statistics, about half of all marriages break up when partners become uninteresting to each other, many do not even understand why this is happening. And the reason, in fact, is banal - in the race for survival, spouses are no longer interested in the feelings and experiences of a loved one, because they need to feed their families, pay bills and provide children with everything they need. Falling in love and romance is out of the question, at best, there remains tolerance and affection, which have nothing to do with true love and are not the guarantors of stable relationships.

How family ties can be strengthened in practice and mutual understanding?

• Treat everything positively, life is already full of difficulties and problems, you should not aggravate the situation and concentrate on trifles, inflating them into a serious conflict. Allow yourself a little humor and pranks, sometimes it is better to put everything in a joke than to quarrel and swear for a long time and tediously.
• In conversations with your loved one, try to avoid sensitive issues, views on which you have significantly different. Each family has its own topic - politics, parents, friends, work moments, so if you want to keep peace and quiet, do not prove your case with foaming at the mouth, but discuss more pleasant topics.
• Spending time together is what is necessary to maintain the novelty and romance in a relationship. Put aside all chores, chores, and work at least once a week and do something together. You can go to a picnic, a movie, or just lie on the couch and watch a movie.
• Shared memories can keep two people close for a long time, more often discuss how you first met, your first dates, what emotions you experienced at the same time.
• In any conflict, learn to find a compromise and admit guilt. There is nothing shameful that you ask your loved one for forgiveness.
• Take good care of each other, even gentle stroking on your hand can give you a feeling of attention and protection.
• Communicate often, discussing not only everyday household issues, but also discuss new films, books, etc.
• Do not let the routine ruin your marriage, add variety to it in all available ways, and often arrange small home parties with gifts and surprises.