How to learn to manipulate people

Sometimes everyone really wants to have the gift of persuasion. Get a long-awaited promotion, push your partner to an important step in a relationship, or just learn to find a common language with anyone. This article will tell you what it takes to manipulate people.

Manipulation techniques

The most effective and simple ways to learn how to convince others:

1. Artistic skill. If you want to control people, you should learn to exercise control over your own feelings, have the ability to assure people that they are experiencing certain emotions. Only in this way can you be a person gifted with the power of persuasion. In order to acquire such abilities, it is recommended to obtain knowledge in any institutions of acting. But in any case, do not communicate your intentions to others - this will scare people away from you. That is, acting will teach you to understand the feelings of others and replace them with the emotions you need.
2. Public performance. Another good method is to learn to acquire from others what is necessary for you - to learn how to deal with the public, to carry out long-term conversations... This can help you understand how to formulate and communicate your own ideas in a way that is useful to you. In addition, learn to substantiate and defend your own views. This method is well suited for subsequent conversation, for example, with management or employees in the service. Feelings are not appropriate at work, and the first method in this case cannot help in any way.

How to manipulate people: psychology

To control the emotions of others, you need to have the following knowledge and skills:

• Charisma. If you want to learn persuasion, you should work on your own charisma. Learn to form a positive conversation atmosphere, learn to speak with body language. Your goal is to make the other person want to talk to you. To become a person with charisma, be the one who makes the other person feel special. During the conversation, look your partner directly in the eyes, pay attention to his emotions and hobbies. Demonstrate to the person that you value very much getting to know him, especially if this is not the case at all. Be confident in what you are doing. And then others will start to believe you too.
• Study people. Each individual has his own psychological and sensory characteristics, for this reason there is no holistic standard of operations that can reveal to you the minds of absolutely everyone. Before you try to "program" a person, research him, find out which of your influences can induce another person to do the things you need. In order to manipulate others, you should show personal feelings by forcing others to empathize with you. But if you come across a "tough nut" on your way, which is guided by facts and rational thinking, playing on emotions will not help you. In such a situation, the ability to communicate your opinion in a reasoned and accessible way will help.
• Learn from others. Most likely in your environment there are people who can find a common language with literally anyone. Pay attention to their behavior, analyze and try to adopt something for yourself.

How to manipulate a man

Having mastered the technique managing a man, you can get everything you want from him - buying another fashionable interior detail or a trip to visit. In this case, you do not need to be seven spans in the forehead, it is enough to use little female tricks. But you need to do it wisely.

So, the main female techniques for controlling your man:

1. Demonstration of weakness. You do not need to shoulder all the responsibilities of the house on your fragile shoulders, attract the help of a partner. But you shouldn't order or ask directly. It is better to use the tenderness “dear, you are my best - strong, brave, wise, I don’t know how I lived before you. Please help me butcher the meat, I am not strong enough. " Do not be afraid to be weak, because this is a woman nature... Just use the techniques in moderation, otherwise a man will sooner or later understand that you are just "sitting on his neck."
2. Remember to praise your man. For every action required. Men, like children, are very fond of the recognition of their merits. At the same time, you can neatly tell how you boasted to your girlfriend of his ability to fix the washing machine. And be sure to mention that her man in this case calls the master. This method is suitable if your spouse and friend's companion do not communicate closely.
3. Maintain constant sexual interest to yourself. As long as a man is interested in you as an object of his desires, he will be ready for a lot. The main thing is periodically warm up this interest. Write him a message with an intriguing meaning, like "honey, guess what I am going to meet you with from work today?" Or arrange erotic photo session in beautiful lingerie and send him one photo during the day. This will make him want to see you as soon as possible and is unlikely to stay late at work. It will be very difficult for him to refuse a beautiful and desirable woman in a small request for help.
4. Be gentle. Do not forget about all sorts of pleasant words - dear, dear, my dear. It sounds much more pleasant "my love, please take the child out of kindergarten today" than "today is your turn to pick up your son." A woman is by nature a soft, gentle creature. So follow the call of nature.
5. Don't be nervous if you don't get the result right away. Men are also not fools, they themselves love to play in those who do not know how to wash dishes and vacuum well. Do not get fooled, calmly bend your line "I am so tired, I cut my finger very sore, without your help I can’t handle the housework." Emphasize that he is all so big and strong, he knows how to solve your problems like no one else. And you are small and defenseless.
6. Don't show him that you can do just fine on your own. You can demonstrate the desire "you keep forgetting to fix the tap, I decided to try it myself." But at the same time, you should definitely fail, because only he can cope with this task. Just do not demand from him what he really cannot. To carry out a surgical operation at home, without special skills, is beyond the power of anyone.
7. Show him your feelings. “Darling, I was driven so much at work today, I’m just like a squeezed lemon, please help me prepare dinner.” And be sure to tell in colors how much they offended you.
8. Well, the main female trump card is a delicious lunch. Having a hearty meal, a man will become more accommodating and you can beg for money from him for a new handbag. Just do not bother with physical labor immediately after a meal, let him rest a little. It is better to leave this technique for moral requests.
9. Be interesting. Read books, be interested in the news in the world. He shouldn't think of you as an absolute intellectual dummy. Become an interesting conversationalist, because men love to talk too.