How to build a relationship after a divorce

Divorce hurts any woman and knocks her out of her usual rut. As a result, a woman often develops complexes, self-esteem falls, and depression develops. In such a situation, it is very difficult to pull yourself together and decide to start a relationship again.

How to start a new relationship after divorce

It takes a long time before a divorced woman decides to trust a man again. But you must always remember that the past must be left behind, lessons must be learned from it. You should not analyze the past for years and dwell on past mistakes. You should not invent other endings of a broken relationship, endlessly tormenting yourself with thoughts of what would happen if ... In this case, you continue to live an illusory life, while real life passes you by.

You must learn to leave the past on the shelf and continue living from scratch. To do this, remember the following:

• Everything passes, all the wounds that are hurting you now are healed. A few years will pass and the memories of this separation will cease to hurt you. Therefore, it is not worth prolonging the suffering, on the contrary, try to reduce this time by an effort of will.
• Do not think that you are doomed to be alone, even if you have it parting- not the first. On the contrary, thank fate for becoming strong, cynical, wise, for your lessons. Any new relationship enriches you.
• Don't wait for a new relationship, start preparing for it. Take care of your appearance and your development, pay attention to children, come up with a new hobby, enjoy freedom.

Try not to think during this period of your life. In most cases, women at such moments are not capable of rational thinking. All their thoughts lie in the field of emotions, the future looks tragic and hopeless.

Try to not thinking about ex-husband... Better take time for yourself. Remember that your spouse is not thinking about you at all now, so why give him an emotional boost? Your story has already ended, so throw it away and forget it.

As practice shows, women after divorce take one of two positions. In the first case, a woman decides that “all men are goats” or gives up on herself because of low self-esteem. In another case, a woman seeks at all costs to prove to those around her and her ex-husband that she is in demand and goes all out. Both of these positions are wrong.

First, you need to accept yourself and love for who you really are. Remember that you are already a queen and you do not need to prove something to someone. Many women experience divorce. This is not evidence of your inferiority. You must love yourself, then men will love you.

Fear of a new relationship - what to do

If the past relations exhausted you and settled in your soul a lot of complexes, use the advice of psychologists on what to do to make the fear of a new relationship recede:

• First try to understand your soul and your actions. Analyze your behavior and your statements. Perhaps your words or actions have offended your spouse in some way.
• Analyze your fears, try to articulate exactly what you are afraid of. Once you find the source of your fear, practice self-control and fix the problem.
• Take a closer look at the new man, try to determine if he has those features that caused you fear, or is it just your fantasies.

• If the person has these traits that are unpleasant to you, talk to them honestly and openly and try to reach a compromise.
• You now know in what situation a conflict can erupt. Therefore, consider in advance how you will get out of a dangerous situation that could lead to a breakup.
• Perhaps you are just subconsciously waiting for the end of the new relationship, as in the previous case. To get out of this, look at everything from a different angle. Even if these relationships do not work out, there will be new ones, even better and happier.
• Understand yourself, perhaps you just do not want to lose your freedom.
• Remember that there is no perfect relationship, everything has its positive and negative sides.