Relationship with the boss in different areas

Many women dream of being financially independent from men. To this end, they receive a good education, find a decent job with a high salary. And now, it would seem, everything suits me - interesting work, excellent relations with a friendly team. The only thing that can be annoying is the male boss. But here different options are possible.

What to do if your boss bothers you

This situation, unfortunately, is quite common in our time. Your boss may suddenly start showing a less than businesslike interest in you, especially if you are young and pretty. If you do not have any female interest in relation to him, then such increased attention on his part will strain and annoy you.

If you suddenly thought that the boss is sticking to you, then try to soberly assess the situation. Suddenly it really only seemed to you. The answers to the following questions will help you with this:

• Is your boss joking about you?
• Does he try to touch you, as if by accident?
• Does he look at you with a frank look?
• Does it force you to stay after work?
• Does he open his hands?

If you answered yes to at least one question, then your suspicions are justified. What to do in this case? How to get out of this situation?

To begin with, it is worth talking to your boss frankly. Explain that you do not accept intimate relationships in the service. However, you should speak in a strict, confident tone. Otherwise, your boss may perceive it as a game on your part and a hint of flirting. Do not allow yourself liberties with other men in the office, otherwise he will think that you are the only one with him so strict and will redouble your efforts. Your outfits don't have to be revealing - no deep necklines and tight skirts... Dress stylishly, but not provocatively.

Discuss the situation with your female colleagues. Find out if your boss has had any other “victims”. In the workplace, gossip spreads very quickly, and your boss will not want to be the object of increased attention. Most likely, after such conversations, his harassment will stop.

An affair with a boss - is it possible or not

This prospect is certainly not uncommon. Romance between a boss and a subordinate is very common. Another question is whether it is worth starting such a relationship.

If you decide to take such a step, then you must understand the consequences. And they are such that in the overwhelming majority these novels end up with a woman having to quit her job. The reasons may be different: the boss may get tired of this affair and he himself kicks out the woman, relations with the team finally deteriorate, or after parting the woman herself becomes the initiator of the dismissal.

In the event that the relationship still lasts a long time, such options are possible: in very rare cases, lovers marry, a woman begins to manipulate a man, or remains as a mistress for a long time, if the couple manages to hide their relationship.

Starting an affair with your boss, you must carefully weigh all possible options for the development of further events and soberly assess your strengths. Just no rose-colored glasses! Don't expect your boss to crawl on your lap with a wedding ring in his teeth after the first date.

Think about whether you will be able to live as a mistress, hiding your relationship from others. How can you resist universal condemnation? What will you do if it's only one or two dates, and then your boss will forget about you?

Conflict with the boss

When conflict with the boss, first try to determine if his claims are justified. Usually the answer to this question is yes if your boss scolds you for the quality of the work done. He has no complaints about you as a person or as a woman. In this case, try to do your best to correct your mistakes. Once again, clarify the range of issues that you must solve, ask for advice on how to do it better. It is never a shame to do this and it is never too late to improve your professional level.

If the boss's attacks are directed at your appearance, the manner of dressing, communicating with colleagues, etc., but at the same time do not relate to your professional duties, then this indicates that he simply does not like you, and he is corny to you. There is only one way out of this situation - do not allow yourself to be made a "scapegoat". You must firmly stop such conversations. Re-discuss your responsibilities with your boss and adhere to them clearly. Don't give him the opportunity to start criticizing you for neglect. This means that you must do your job flawlessly.