Romance at work: what's what

It is generally accepted that being romantically involved at work is bad. They are bound to fail. Yet almost half of people have ever had a relationship in the service. And although many of these novels ended in parting, there are couples who have maintained their relationship for many years and even got married.

Having an affair at work - the pros

We will not consider the situation when one of the pair married... This is a separate story. Let's talk about two free colleagues who suddenly felt a rush of mutual passion.

What are the advantages of such a relationship:

• You do not need to find out anything about your chosen one... After all, about colleagues, as about members of our own family, we know almost everything: marital status, whether there are children, habits, tastes, how serious he is in a relationship. At the same time, acquaintance with a man occurs gradually and you do not have a deceptive impression about him.
• In the office, both you and the rest of the staff are well dressed and look impeccable. So it's only natural that you can generate romantic interest in the opposite sex as well, not just as a valuable collaborator.
• You do not need to worry about the next meeting and is tormented by waiting for a call to meet with your chosen one. Each new working day will bring a new meeting.
• You have many topics of conversation and similar interests, many common acquaintances with whom you may want to communicate.

Having an affair at work - cons

Like all other events, romance in the workplace also has its negative aspects. You need to be prepared for them and, if possible, try to avoid or prevent them.

Troubles to prepare for:

• Get ready for the fact that you will definitely be discussed. Unfortunately, not many couples manage to keep their relationship secret. Therefore, gossip is an indispensable element of an office romance.
• Work and personal life often get in the way of each other. Such a cocktail does not in the best way affect the performance of official duties, the bosses are dissatisfied, and so are the colleagues. Some are just jealous, while others are embarrassed to watch all this.
• Respect from colleagues is starting to fade. After all, stereotypes are still alive in our society. Somehow it so happened that office romances are usually condemned. Therefore, your position in the team suffers.
• It is unlikely that the romance will develop into a more serious relationship. Unfortunately, statistics are such that most of these novels end parting... But you may be one of the lucky few whose relationship will grow into a strong marriage.

Consequences of an affair at work

As we have noted, it is very rare for such a relationship to end happily. So let's take a look at what happens as a result of a breakup.

Firstly, having an affair in an office is bound to negatively affect your career. After all, many serious firms have a negative attitude towards such relations of their employees. In some companies, these points are even negotiated by an employment contract.

Second, if your romance doesn't end well, it will be very difficult for you to maintain a normal relationship with your ex. Please note that you will have to spend most of the day with him in the same office. It is very difficult to observe how the person you once loved communicates with other people and does not even think to look in your direction.

Thirdly, get ready for the details of your breakup to be relished with pleasure by all your colleagues. Gossip, jokes and stinging innuendos - all this you have to go through and listen to more than once.

All these events and emotional experiences can lead to the fact that you simply can no longer work side by side in one team. Often, one of the former partners has to quit in order to maintain peace of mind. Only a few manage to maintain normal communication after parting. And the whispering of colleagues behind your back will only add frustration and anxiety.

A novel in the service carries both positive aspects and a lot of negative ones. Therefore, it is up to you to decide whether to follow this path or refrain from unnecessary emotional experiences. Perhaps, taking a risk, you will become happy and build a strong family, but do not forget about another scenario.