What to do if a child fights

Many parents are faced with a problem such as childish aggression. The child suddenly starts fighting with his parents or other children. This situation leads to a dead end and my mother does not know what to do with it. In the article, we will analyze the reasons for this behavior and give advice on how to deal with aggression.

Why does the child fight

You began to notice that your child is trying to solve the issue with his fists, but this situation does not suit you.

Let's look at the reasons for bad behavior:

• A large number of prohibitions. Often mothers try to protect their child from mistakes. For example, they are not allowed to open the lockers, as the baby can pinch his finger. On the one hand, it is advisable to worry about the mother. But on the other hand, the child must understand from his own experience what the consequences may be. This is not a call to let your child go into the big world without a mother. Try to explain to your child that this action can be dangerous and show by example what can happen.
• If the kid cannot speak then he can defend his point of view or attract attention with the help of fists. Such situations are not uncommon when a child is 2-3 years old, and speech is still poorly developed.
• Warehouse of character. Choleric children often show their negative emotions, it is simply impossible for them to restrain them. An outburst of negativity gives psychological relaxation.
• Parents' own example. Sometimes mom and dad can joke with each other. But the child, due to age, does not understand this and thinks that this is the norm of behavior.
• Permissiveness. Children need to sense boundaries to feel safe. In this situation, you need to make a clear line that this behavior is not acceptable.
• Testing your strength. The child is just beginning to realize that his muscles can be strong. Accordingly, the skill needs to be developed. And a toy, mom, dad, etc. falls under the arm.
• Cartoons or movies showing a fight. Young children want to always be like heroes.
• Systematic physical punishment by parents. The child develops a stereotype “Who is stronger is right”.

If you find at least one reason on this list, then you need to take measures to prevent the child's aggression. This must be done so that in the future there will be no problems with peers, in kindergarten and school.

How to stop a child from fighting

In fact, it is not difficult to wean a child from negative emotions.

Tips for correcting your child's behavior:

• Eliminate humiliation or abuse of the child.
• Don't use physical punishment.
• Show patience and respect for your baby's personality.
• Do not show your aggression, even if you are by a hair's breadth from the "explosion".
• Hug and kiss your child often.
• Say sweet words and how much you love him.
• Try to keep your child busy with active games so that he can throw out energy.
• If the peak of aggression comes, then let the kid take out the evil on a special toy, leave soft balls in a corner, tear or wrinkle the newspaper. The options can be different, the main thing is to ensure that the anger is not directed at a person or an animal.
• Exclude watching TV. Do not overload the child's fragile psyche with TV shows and films.
• Read good books, tell instructive stories.

Let's understand to your child that it will not work to solve the problem with fists. Explain under what circumstances force is used. Over time, the child will understand everything and learn to control himself.

Be more tolerant and you will achieve the desired result.