What to do if everything is annoying

The feeling that everyone around is incredibly annoying is familiar to everyone. At least once in a lifetime, but absolutely every person understands that everything enrages him. And girls face such a mood about once a month. How to get out of this situation and see the positive in life again? Read this article.

Annoyed people - what to do

Scientists consider the theory of eternal irritation based on the theory of personality. That is, there is a concept that we are annoyed in people by exactly what we are trying to get rid of in ourselves. In other words, if you don't like your laugh, you will be annoyed by people allowing themselves to laugh out loud in public. Such people are perceived by you as pressure on a sore callus.

And, according to the law of meanness, such irritating people pursue you literally at every step. You are like a magnet for inadequacies. And this is actually the case. There is a psychological field theory. Its essence lies in the fact that like attracts like. That is, we are not consciously looking for in the people around us that which we do not like in ourselves. We mentally endow them with certain qualities. In addition to the theory of "mirroring", the concept of the field implies the interconnection of everything in the world. The phrase "accidents are not accidental" best translates the essence of this theory into a language that everyone understands. Thus, we ourselves subconsciously surround ourselves with people who show us their own vices.

How to deal with this state of affairs? Remember first, don't try to get away from the problem. It will not be possible to completely isolate oneself from society forever. Whatever one may say, but man is a social being. Everyone has a need for communication and the exchange of emotions. And, as is already clear from field theory, attempts to change the environment will not lead to anything good either. Sooner or later, you will surround yourself with negativity again. Therefore, the first step to get out of this situation is to admit your imperfections and make every effort to correct them. And yes, learn to be more tolerant. Nobody is perfect.

The first step on the path to correction is awareness. Many of our problems with our "I" are caused by the discrepancy of our own ideas. For example, in childhood, parents constantly insisted that a girl should stay at home and give birth to children. And you decided to bet on your career. Even if they did not decide, but are forced to be in such a situation. And from this you feel dissatisfaction with yourself.

Now figure it out, in your current situation, how is it more comfortable? Yes, having a man next to whom you can safely sit at home and give birth is good. And in the days of our parents, it was a matter of course. Life is completely different today, don't try to match the desires of other people. Decide what's best for you and live that way.

What to do if everything is annoying

Stop for a moment and think - is it really all? Or is there just one problem the thought of which makes you feel deeply depressed or even rage?

A simple example, at the moment you are experiencing material difficulties. This situation, of course, gnaws you day and night. It is difficult to be calm and happy, not knowing what to pay for an apartment and with what money to buy groceries tomorrow. All your thoughts are focused on this problem. And often the negative from these thoughts falls on the one who dares to pull the "sufferer" out of the world of his experiences.

In this situation, one thing will help - the world is not to blame for your situation. The behavior of the child does not affect your problems at work in any way; a broken car will not be able to affect your personal life. Understand and take this for granted.

All failures are related to yourself. You do not work enough, you have not brought up the necessary qualities in yourself. Realize your downsides - laziness, self-obsession, inability to prioritize. Do not feel sorry for yourself, do not try to somehow soften your imperfections. An attempt to drown out will lead to the fact that the problem remains. Will soften, veiled, but will exist.

What to do if your husband enrages

And again, in order to qualitatively "cure" the problem, it is necessary to find out why it arose. Most family crises are related to the fact that the man you married and the man lying on the couch some time after the wedding are like two different people. And in fact, this is not at all because your husband has changed with age. During courtship, men do their best to please the object of desire. And for this they use any means. Including changing your usual behavior to the style that pleases lady of the heart... And after the wedding, pretending to be a knight without fear and reproach is no longer relevant. So they relax the muscles overworked during courtship on the couch.

"And what now, to divorce him or what?" you ask. Of course no. Try to understand your spouse, see the world through his eyes. Having laid out his motives and actions in your head, it will become easier for you to put up with the state of affairs.

Oh yes, and find out for yourself, but the mugs standing on the shelf with their hands in different directions, and not strictly to the left, as you want, are really such a terrible sin? Or maybe with this can reconcile, for the sake of a strong shoulder, a dear smile and a loved one men?

Be more tolerant of people, learn to forgive - after all, no one is perfect.