How to get rid of anger

Anger is one of the strongest negative emotions, which means stress. Severe stress interferes with life, spoils health. These are not simple words, constant stress greatly affects the occurrence of such ailments as stroke, heart attack, overweight, and stomach diseases. It is very important to learn how to deal with negative emotions. How? This article will tell.

How to stop getting angry

So here are the basic rules for successful anger management:

• Avoid conflicts, stop communication with people who are guaranteed will piss off... It is easier to prevent a situation, to close it at the very beginning, than to try to stop yourself in the midst of a conflict.
• Do not give emotions take over. As soon as you feel that you are starting to "boil", try the breathing technique. Breathe deeply, evenly, mentally reading to 10. It may not help the first time. But over time and if desired, this technique will be effective.
• Remember that stress takes away your health, and therefore years of life. Love yourself, start to wish for the best for yourself. You yourself must want to live in harmony.
• If possible, leave the place of conflict. Get distracted, take a walk, go to the gym and throw out negativity there. Even simple cleaning of the house will do.
• To let off steam, try hitting an inanimate object that you don't mind. Pear, pillow, rolled blanket.
• Try to give vent to the accumulated emotions in creativity. Convey your feelings on paper, in the form of a drawing. Create a sculpture, but at least from plasticine.
• The way to "wash away" the negative helps a lot. Take a contrast shower, it will help put your thoughts in order.
• It also helps a lot express your emotions dance. It doesn't matter that you are an awful dancer. Find a secluded place, turn on your favorite music and let yourself loose.
• Remember that there are people who specifically provoke you to anger. They get your energy from it. Don't feed energy parasites.

How to become kinder

Being kind is important not only in moral terms.

• Kind people are less prone to age-related changes. The fact is that with strong emotions, people, willy-nilly, make movements with their facial muscles. What causes the so-called expression wrinkles. Be kinder - don't strain your facial muscles.
• Good deeds return. The proven fact of the exchange of energy in the universe.
• It is more pleasant to communicate with bright people, they have more friends and fans.

So how do you become kinder?

The first step is to learn to love this world. As strange as it sounds. Understand that life is not made of negativity, it is not at all dirty and gray, as it seems during an attack of negativity. Find the good for yourself.

Learn to share your emotions. A simple phrase “It upsets me, offends, makes me angry” can make the interlocutor think about his behavior. And how often do you yourself think about what emotions your words and actions evoke in the soul of other people?

Start small. Feed street animals. It's easier with them, because they don't cause as much negativity as people do. Having got used to doing this good deed, move on to more serious ones. Remember, good deeds are necessary for humanity. Without disinterested help, people will disappear as a species much faster than it can happen naturally.

Remember the old Soviet cartoons. They are bright, positive and kind. So it is in life. Goodness is associated with light and bright colors. Color your life, give yourself new emotions.

Understand yourself, find the root cause of anger. For example, you are going somewhere to go on vacation, but the trip fell through. Of course, this aroused anger. But after a while you will find out that an accident has occurred. Transport was detained at the train station or airport. People spent long hours in agony in poor conditions. You avoided that. Yes, you didn’t go on vacation, but you escaped something really scary.

Understand that resentment is needed let off... Think, after a while, what makes you angry today will make sense to you? Will this really be a big hindrance in your life or is it better to let go of the situation?

Don't live in the past. It is for that and the past, that nothing can be changed. What is the point of being offended by something that has already passed, when there are so many wonderful opportunities to do even better than it could have been then?

Remember that no one owes you anything. Many people mistakenly believe that other people owe them something. The most common situation is parents and children. The former believe that the status of a parent provides them with complete obedience and servility on the part of the child. The second think that parents now have to fulfill all their whims. Just because they gave birth to their children. This is stupid. Achieve what you want just as easier with kindness. Do good deeds and it is a must will come back to you.