Crisis in children: when it comes and how to survive

According to modern psychologists, for a full and comprehensive development, a child simply needs to overcome crises, and not one, but several. The child's psyche develops during the alternation of periods of calm and crisis. Consider how difficult periods in the life of a child manifest themselves according to age levels.

Crises in children

Usually, crises in childhood are short-lived. They only last for a few months. Whereas stable periods can last for a year or two. But it should be borne in mind that a negative situation can seriously lengthen the crisis period. There have been cases when the crisis lasted up to a year or even more.

A crisis is characterized by the fact that such a moment changes the behavior of the child, it develops much faster. It does not last long, but it is very violent. At the beginning of the crisis, the child behaves disobediently, he is not influenced by educational methods that previously led to a result. The kid behaves inexplicably and reacts violently to different situations. Many children at such times show whims become whiny and irritable.

One year old child's crisis

The earliest crisis begins at about nine months of age. During this period, babies become uncontrollable. They show stubbornness, disobedience, become stubborn. Children with might and main demonstrate independence, behave differently. Often they refuse to perform the necessary procedures, for example, they do not want to eat. In response to parental remarks, excessive resentment, tears and aggression immediately follow.

There are enough reasons for this behavior. The child grows up and becomes more independent. He studies the world, he is interested in touching everything, observing, trying to taste. He can already move independently, which means he has a new space for his activities. And then there is no time for any prohibitions of mom or dad.

During this time, it is important to show reasonable understanding and try not to limit the child's wishes. Remember - this is how he learns the world... Of course, some kind of prohibitions must exist. State your rules clearly and clearly so that the child does not perceive them as a game. And in any case, do not cancel your inhibitions, succumbing to the capricious behavior of the crumbs.

Crisis 2 years in children

At the age of two, usually docile babies suddenly begin to oppose their parents. In response to all parental persuasions and requests, the kids answer “no”. Such a manifestation of perseverance is associated with the child's awareness of his own individuality. He begins to feel like a separate person from his mother. To finally realize this fact, the baby needs to resist parental control.

To get out of such a difficult situation, follow these rules:

• Do not persist in response to the baby.
• Wait a bit and repeat your request again. A few minutes are enough for the child to divert his attention to something else.
• Shift your baby's attention to the positive. For example, if you refuse to leave the playing area, arrange a competition to see who will be the first to reach the house.
• Consider the moment that it takes a little man a few minutes to get distracted from some business at your request. Don't rush him, just let the game finish.
• Let the child show his desire and will. But only in those moments when nothing threatens his safety. For example, the prohibition of sticking your fingers into the socket should always remain a prohibition. And the child's reluctance to eat cauliflower can be surrendered.

Crisis 3 years old in a child

At the age of three, babies begin a crisis of obstinacy. During this period, it is important to understand that the baby himself suffers from his behavior, but cannot do anything. He just needs to find out his place in life.

A baby at this age often has outbursts of anger, he begins to get nervous, cry, sometimes it comes to hysteria. It is important to show wisdom and understanding at this point. After all, of two people, you are the adult. Do not try to break the stubbornness of the child, but act with cunning. Distract his attention with something pleasant, or turn it into a joke.

At the age of three, the child perceives your attitude to him and to his actions in the same way. Therefore, he realizes the punishment for a broken cup as a sign of dislike for him. You should praise your baby more often, show him your love and attention. Avoid overly categorical words in your assessments of the child's actions. Remember that the baby must gain experience, and this cannot be done without making mistakes.

Crisis 5 years old in a child

At the age of five, children become secretive and do not make contact. They show independence in their actions: they go for a walk on their own, do not allow themselves to be led by the hand, they choose their own clothes. Often, at the most inopportune moment, the baby goes into hysterics. He stomps his feet and demands he doesn't know what. The child begins to experience fears, does not want to talk to strangers, or is afraid to leave his mother even for a minute.

At this time, the main thing is to show kindness and understanding. Let him be independent in some moments. Assign some "adult responsibilities", such as dusting the apartment or watering the flowers. To reduce bouts of aggression, talk to your child about good and bad, read him fairy tales where good wins. Direct the child's aggression in a positive direction by giving it to some sports section.

Crisis 7 years old child

At this age, the crisis is caused by the child's awareness of his social status. Only yesterday he was just a son or a daughter, and now he apprentice and a classmate. He needs to build relationships with peers in the classroom and with teachers. The last and completely new adults, who for him become an authority in addition to their parents.

At this time, the behavior of a daughter or son begins to bear signs of artificiality. Your child may start to act pretentious, change his voice or gait. At the age of seven, he begins to think about what is happening and protect his inner world.

As in other cases, it is important now to remain calm and to establish that balance between kindness and strictness so as not to spoil the relationship with the child. Do not forget that all these difficulties are temporary and everything bad in the baby's behavior is the result of his progress.