Love and passion: what's the difference
Love or passion? How to distinguish these two concepts and sort out your feelings for another person? You just need to listen to yourself and analyze the emotions that you are experiencing. Then you will definitely not be mistaken in your assessment.
What is love
According to psychologists, love has three components:
- Intimacy is about intimacy and mutual support, a sense of partnership. As the couple grows closer, the intimacy becomes stronger. True, in ordinary life it does not manifest itself in any way, but in a difficult crisis situation it is intimacy that is most pronounced.
- Sexual attraction is most pronounced at the very beginning of a relationship, when people just get to know each other. In a long marriage, sexual attraction fades into the background.
- Commitments only increase in importance over the years. Moreover, this is true both for long-term relationships and for short-term ones.
If all three components are present, love is ideal. All couples strive for it. Of course, you can achieve such an ideal relationship, but it is very difficult to maintain them for a long time. These feelings never last long. Of course, if one of the components disappears, the relationship will not end, it's just that ideal love is transformed into something else.
Signs of love
How to recognize love? Just observe yourself and you will understand everything. A loving person all the time wants to see the object of his feelings, wants to be as close to him as possible. He has an irresistible desire to be around all the time. Lovers strive to look into the eyes of a loved one. Even if a lover makes a speech in front of a huge audience, subconsciously he will look for the eyes of his beloved in order to look into them and understand what he or she is feeling about what has been said.
A man in love seeks to show his beloved signs of attention, to do pleasant things for him. You can recognize someone who is in love by how willing they are to serve you. If a person is in love, he will readily fulfill your request, while an indifferent person will find a thousand reasons to get away from even the easiest task.
Over time, as the couple grows closer and gets to know each other better, more serious signs of love can be noticed. One of the first is closeness. Loving people do not wear a mask, they can sympathize and rejoice with their beloved. Experiencing lovers and jealousy, without it, too, nowhere. It is important that she does not become manic. The most important feeling in love is self-sacrifice. Perhaps a loving person does not shower you with daily signs of attention, gifts and compliments, but if he is ready to immediately rush to help at your call, be sure that his love is real.
What is passion
A keen desire to possess a person, often in spite of social norms and rules, is usually called passion. At the same time, passion itself becomes the meaning of a person's life. It is characteristic that a person only wants to possess the object of his passion physically, and this is not about tenderness and care.
To some extent, passion is one of the components of the feeling of love. It is included in the concept of sexual attraction. But on its own, without intimacy and commitment, passion destroys both people.
Signs of passion
The feeling of passion is entirely based on physical attraction and desire for possession. At the same time, a person does not think about the real state of affairs. In his imagination, the object of worship is ideal person, no flaws. This explains the fact that the feeling of passion passes very quickly as soon as a person begins to realize that his partner is very far from the ideal drawn in the imagination.
Let's list the main signs of passion:
- A person is only interested in the appearance of a partner.
- Conversations on any topic do not attract, only sex interests.
- A person is not inclined to talk about his real feelings, all his thoughts are focused on his own fantasies.
- Immediately after sex, a person strives to leave, and not spend some time together.
- Your union is more like a relationship of lovers, rather than friends.
Passion and love: how to tell
First, decide how you or your partner will position yourself in your relationship. Love is characterized by the desire to give pleasure to a partner. If a person experiences only passion, he is concentrated only on his desires. Passion is based only on physical attraction and disappears very quickly. This is not about mutual understanding, kinship and mutual respect.
Passion is characterized by strong emotions, a person in this state cannot think about anything other than the object of his worship. Love is a more meaningful and calm feeling. Love is characterized by an interest in a person's personality, and not just in his appearance. Passion lives in one day. A person subject to passion does not think about long-term relationships and their development. He is ready to actively seek the object of his desire, in spite of all the circumstances.
A loving person can experience pleasure even from simple communication and talking on the phone. For passion, the most important thing is the satisfaction of sexual needs.
