Love at a distance: pros, cons, how to love

Everyone wants to be with their loved ones all the time. Share breakfasts and dinners with him, sleep under one blanket. But not everyone works that way. Career, family, or other factors cause separation. Is it possible to keep love at a distance or the old proverb "out of sight, out of mind" is based on worldly wisdom?

Love at a distance - reality or myth

Few people believe in the possibility of the existence of love at a distance. However, guest marriages, when spouses live separately, are increasingly common. Partners note that their feelings do not depend on the frequency of meetings. If the spouse is the love of all life, then they are ready to protect their feelings, even at a distance.

Not surprisingly, according to research conducted by the journal Psychology Today, more than 56% of respondents believe that love at a distance is impossible, and such relationships are less strong and happier.

However, a group of psychologists from America conducted a study of this issue based on in-depth interviews with more than 1,100 people over the age of twenty. The respondents were in a relationship, some with distance from their partner. The psychologists' conclusion surprised: no fundamental differences in relationships were found. Experts studied different aspects of relationships: emotional involvement of partners, their closeness, the quality of interpersonal communication and the degree of sexual satisfaction. For partners living together, these rates were no higher than for couples living separately. At the same time, people who experience love at a distance turned out to be even more emotionally satisfied. This is due to the fact that such relationships are characterized by easy idealization. Everyday routine does not cool love, and rare meetings turn into real holidays.

A man's love in the distance

Men go through partings a little easier than women. They are able to quickly adjust to the situation, experience less attachment. A typical situation is when a spouse leaves for a business trip or finds a better paid job in a large city. At first he calls and misses, but the temptations of a new life make him look back with contempt at his past life and his beloved. In addition, the lack of sex, warmth and attention pushes men to cheat. In difficult moments, a woman is not around, for consolation and sympathy you have to turn to no one. Keeping a man's love at a distance is very difficult, but quite possible.

If the period of separation is clearly defined, partners sometimes meet, then it is easier to keep love. The spouses are getting ready and waiting for dates, there is a note of novelty and an increase in passion. During the period of separation, you manage to get bored, accumulate new emotions and impressions. If you use lonely evenings for self-education, your favorite hobbies, then you will have a good mood and new opportunities. Self-development during periods of separation has a positive effect on relationships, you become more interesting to each other.

Living nearby, you may not be completely objective in assessing your partner. They perceived him as a pragmatist, and he writes you long letters about love in verse. They considered him indecisive, but he breaks down to visit you, despite the difficulties. Sometimes parting destroys love, but sometimes it is parting that helps you realize the depth of true love.

How to live with a loved one at a distance

To keep warm feelings at a distance, you need to follow some simple tips:

• Communicate with each other as often as possible. Use all possible means of communication: telephone, internet, mail. In conversations, you need to share not only experiences, but also new impressions, acquaintances, and achievements. This will create a feeling of the close presence of a partner. And if he has new hobbies, then try to share them.

• Maintain trust and closeness. Instead of searching evidence of betrayal, talk to your partner about your feelings. Unreasonable jealousy can cause a breakup. Themselves also do not give reason to doubt your loyalty.
• Warm up your partner's sexual interest... Being far away, there is a high probability that love will turn into extremely friendly feelings. Use methods that are accessible and acceptable to both: sex on the phone, communication via Skype in a negligee. It is important not to overdo it, otherwise it will be difficult to wait for the meeting.
• Make plans together. To preserve the union, it is necessary to have common plans for the future, creating a family, raising children. Let separation be seen as a way of realizing your plans. Visit your partner whenever possible, rejoice if he managed to come to you.

Over time, you will get used to long-distance relationships, you will begin to look at the situation from the positive side. If your love is mutual, then no kilometers will destroy it.

Conspiracy for the love of a man in the distance

One of the surest ways to consolidate the love of your man is a love spell with knots of magical power. The procedure will require a high concentration of mental strength, focus on the main goal. On the day appointed for the love spell, you cannot eat and drink, only water is allowed. Mentally, you need to constantly be with your man, not to be distracted by other worries.

Prepare 3 candles, string from the end of the middle finger to the elbow. The ritual is performed at night with the curtains drawn tightly.

1. Candles are lit and placed in a triangle on the floor.
2. The lady sits in the center of a conventional triangle, facing any candle.
3. Then a knot is loosely tied on the thread. Looking at the fire, it is said: “I will tie a knot, (the man's name) I will tie it to me. He will be attached to me, he will only be obliged to be with me! Until the knot is untied, his passion will not subside! " After the spell, the knot is tightened.
4. The hex is repeated for each of the candles, getting 3 knots.
5. At the end of the ceremony, the candles are blown out. A woman should go to bed, put a thread with knots under her pillow.

You will soon see a change in the attitude of your man, but the thread must be protected, the strength of the knots must be checked.

Love at a distance - advice from psychologists

The specificity of such a relationship is that expectations are too high. You dream of meetings, plan everything to the smallest detail, but in practice deviations from what you have planned happen. In order not to spoil the joy of the meeting, do not think over every step, it is better to just enjoy the anticipation.

Get ready that after the meeting you will be covered with sadness, the pain of parting. And this will happen every time after a date, it does not affect the psyche in the best way. To deal with your emotions, convince yourself that this is normal. Think of them as part of your relationship.

Plan your life together. Most couples after 2-3 years of distant relationship stop communicating either move in. Find out your partner's preferences and compare them with your desires and capabilities. Talk about real deadlines. If your partner is not ready to live together, you should think about the seriousness of his intentions. But still, believe that separation will only make true love stronger.