How to bring up a decent personality in a child
Young parents always count on their child to grow up to be a successful and spiritually rich person. They are always glad to any success of their child, with special pride they tell their friends about it, because everyone in their hearts thinks that it is his child who is the most intelligent and talented. This is partly true, in any child you can reveal talents, but here's how to do it. In order to bring up in a child a worthy person, parents will have to work hard.
What does it mean to educate a personality
Personality is a healthy person, physically and spiritually developed in all respects. He must be sociable, successful - know and achieve whatever he wants. However, all these dreams of parents are often shattered by reality - the child does not always justify the hopes placed on him. The task of the elders is to push, to put the child on the right path.
How to bring up a personality in a child
- Your baby is not your property. He is no longer in the womb, although the connection, of course, will remain forever, his desires and interests are individual. You need to help the kid make decisions on his own, and not live by orders. This applies to his desires, actions, profession, the choice of a soul mate. It is necessary to teach the child to make independent decisions and the sooner this happens, the sooner he will learn to defend his interests, be responsible for his actions and deeds. Life success very strongly depends on this.
- Analyze the child's actions, try to listen to him and understand. Whim and anxiety are completely different things, the task of parents is to learn to separate the inability to express their thoughts from banal manipulation. For example, a child refuses to eat, walk on the street or play - no need to scold, try to find out if the baby is just sick. Or, for example, the child does not want to do any work. Forcing is not a method, try to build up the child's confidence in the success of the case. Of course, in order for a personality to grow out of a child, you cannot indulge everything and everything, but you should not close your eyes to obvious problems.
- Capricious child - who is to blame? Think, maybe you made it this way? It is impossible to fulfill all the ridiculous demands of a young "personality", try to act in a cool and balanced manner. Let him think, but maybe he doesn't need it at all. Try to explain the reason for the refusal. The kid should know that his desires are not a law for adults, all whims will not be fulfilled, and a whim is not a way to get what you want. In addition, it is necessary to convey to the baby that he is not the only one in the family and any pleasures should be shared equally - adults also have their desires and needs. The sooner he realizes this, the faster he adapts to the external environment, for example, in kindergarten. This same quality will help him in the future - already in adulthood.
- The kid should be ready to communicate with peers and older ones. He should not be selfish, teach him to share toys, make acquaintances, talk with unfamiliar children and adults.
- Do not ignore the child's opinion and desires. Listen to the reasoning and arguments of the little person, especially in those matters that are directly related to him. To instill in him respect for himself as a person, the child must realize that he deserves it with his words and actions.
- Do not dismiss your baby if he wants to help you. On the contrary, you yourself have to ask him for help from time to time (nothing will work without him), although the work will be purely nominal. When the kid is busy with something, do not interrupt him from this business, otherwise he may think that his work does not deserve respect, that is, no one needs it.
- Keep the word given to the child, because he believes in you - you are an example of imitation for him. If you are not confident in your abilities, it is better not to promise anything. This should become your credo, then it will seem to the child that there is simply no other way!
Communication with a child is the key to success. Study, develop the baby, pass on your knowledge to him, share your thoughts, reflections. You should be really interested in your baby's life and interests. Try to support the child in all good endeavors, help him in this. Share your problems with him, albeit small ones. The kid should understand that you are not indifferent.
