Why and why not get married
All people have different attitudes towards marriage. It is generally accepted that all girls strive with all their might to legitimize their relations and young people also try very hard to avoid it. But still, one day two people decide to formalize their relationship officially. This is where you need to think about the upcoming marriage from all sides.
Pros of marriage
The most important positive change that comes in your life when you join marriage, this is the constant presence of a loved one and a loved one nearby. You get rid of possible loneliness and gain confidence in the future. You will have a loved one by your side who can provide assistance in a difficult situation and support you if necessary.
When joining marriage people protect their other half. Mutual care helps to endure all the hardships of life much easier. In addition, according to statistics, married people are more careful about their appearance.
Marriage makes people more responsible in the eyes of fellow workers. A promotion is more likely to be given to a married person. It is generally accepted that married people are much more responsible in their work and study.
In addition, marriage relieves a person of the need to look for a partner in sex... By being married, you will be able to have sex regularly and will also be confident that it is safe.
But marriage will benefit two people only on condition of mutual love, understanding and unconditional support.
Cons of marriage
But apart from the positive aspects of marriage, there are also disadvantages. Let's talk in more detail about what bad awaits us in a legal marriage:
- Say goodbye to your independence. Even if you get married at an already mature age and you and your partner know how to cope with household chores, you still have to adapt to each other, take into account the habits and interests of your half.
- You must now make your own decisions in difficult situations. It is possible that in this case you will have to decide not only for yourself, but also for your other half. In this case, it will be necessary to do this taking into account the interests of the spouse.
- Another disadvantage is the ability to get into the networks of the routine. After gaining a stamp in the passport, psychological relaxation sets in. Often the romantic mood disappears, and everyday life penetrates more and more firmly into your life. Here you should no longer hope for help from outside, but you will have to fight it yourself.
- After a while, you will become so familiar with your soul mate that you can predict any of her steps. All actions and conversations will seem monotonous and may soon get bored.
- Another negative point is the need to coordinate all expenses with your spouse and, in general, plan a joint budget. Of course, there are families where the budget is separate. But in this case, you need to admit that you do not have a family where two people take care of each other, but simply cohabitation.
- Almost complete lack of personal space and time. Any attempt to remain alone is perceived with distrust and suspicion, accusations of lack of feelings and suspicion of the most terrible sins begin.
Is it worth getting married
Among the bulk of girls who dream of marriage, more and more often there are those who seriously think about whether it is worth taking this step at all. This is a really responsible decision, and before accepting an offer, you need to weigh all the positive and negative aspects of your decision.
Only you can answer the question about the upcoming marriage. First, decide why doubts have arisen in your head at all. Then you need to decide for yourself whether you are ready to accept the changes that will inevitably occur in your life after marriage. And also you need to soberly assess the person with whom you are going to build your family. The list of requirements for a candidate can be very different, it all depends only on your criteria and preferences. Keep in mind that a person cannot only consist of positive traits. In this regard, think about whether you are ready to put up with possible shortcomings or they are critical to you.
