Jealousy: where it comes from and how to deal with it
Jealousy has many faces. It can help develop relationships, but it can also destroy them. In dictionaries, jealousy is characterized as distrust of a person, doubt in his loyalty and devotion. This feeling makes people commit rash acts, does not allow them to live a full life. Let's talk about that fine line of "correct" jealousy and figure out how to achieve it in order to enjoy the delights of a relationship.
Reasons for jealousy
There can be many reasons for jealousy.
They can be conditionally divided into 5 groups:
- Household jealousy. As statistics show, this type is found most often. It is enough for the other half to talk to someone of the opposite sex, as the feeling of jealousy begins to manifest itself in the form quarrels and scandals. If you learn to control emotions and not come up with too much, then everyday jealousy can be useful for relationships.
- Painful jealousy. She, more often than not, simply kills love. People begin to find fault even with what was not. For example, even if the beloved did not cheat, scandals with scenes of jealousy and reproaches for his infidelity can provoke him to rash acts. Not all people are ready to resist the constant reproaches that they did not commit. Painful jealousy often causes divorces.
- Pathological jealousy. Such feelings make you control your soul mate, constantly look for a catch in his actions, accuse him of infidelity. From a medical point of view, such manifestations of morbid jealousy can cause migraines, heart pain and even gastritis.
- Jealousy is like a persecution mania. This manic feeling is a test for a loved one. No matter how hard he tries to prove that he is faithful, he will not succeed. Such jealousy destroys relations, since the behavior of people suffering from persecution mania is often inappropriate.
- Manic jealousy. It is very difficult for people who are used to being jealous of anyone to find a match. They can start a scandal even because of an affair that was 5 years before they met. Jealousy becomes the meaning of life.
How not to be jealous of a man
Any relationship must be built on trust. Therefore, it is impossible for unhealthy jealousy to take over.
But how do you learn don't be jealous of a man? Everything is quite simple:
- Allow to be friends with whoever he wants. There is a lot of controversy about the friendship between a man and a woman. But sometimes it is a woman friend who can help to sort out a situation that a man cannot solve on his own.
- It is not necessary to control social networks. A manic desire to find at least something interesting about a husband on social networks takes not only a lot of time, but also nerves. Sometimes it's even useful to communicate with people in the virtual world.
- Talk more. If jealousy is present, you need to talk to your loved one. This will help resolve all problems.
- Maybe you should get sexier? Naturally, the opposite sex is attracted to beautiful women.
If a lady of the heart looks sexy, a man will certainly pay attention to her. - Cons to plus. It is worth appreciating that other women pay attention to their beloved. But you are next to him!
Jealousy: how to deal with it
To overcome jealousy, you should be honest with your partner. For example, at the first manifestations of this feeling, just sit down and talk in a calm atmosphere. Most often, after such conversations, it turns out that there is no reason for jealousy.
It is equally important to switch to something. This could be a job hobby etc. Busy people have no time to be unreasonably jealous.
If possible, it is better to spend more time with your loved one outside the home. For example, walking in parks, going to nightclubs together, and even shopping. It brings people closer together.
If the situation is catastrophic, it is recommended that you consult a family psychologist who can help solve the problems.
First of all, a person must independently understand that excessive jealousy can destroy life, so you need to start fighting it right now. Only in this case, all efforts will be successful.
