Tips on how to make up

Quarrels and conflicts sooner or later happen between loving people, and between close relatives, and between friends. Sometimes such emotional release is simply necessary in order to throw out all the negativity. But at the same time, a quarrel can be not just an everyday disagreement, but a serious problem that needs to be solved together, otherwise conflicts will be repeated over and over again. How to maintain good relations with loved ones? What is the best way to reconcile?

How to make peace with a man

The ability to forgive is a great gift, but, unfortunately, not everyone has it. How to make peace with a loved one and solve a problem without losing dignity if he is guilty of the conflict?

Very often, pride and pride does not allow the representatives of the stronger sex to admit a mistake in a relationship and be the first to go to reconciliation. Of course, in this situation you can act like a man, give up, losing him forever. But it is not for nothing that a woman is assigned such qualities as wisdom, besides, a quarrel is a great chance to demonstrate to a loved one the ability to love, forgive and work together on mistakes.

• Think, for sure, small quarrels and discontent on the part of the young man have already arisen before, but you frivolously ignored all his claims. This usually happens - problems accumulate like a snowball, at one point the cup of patience overflows and a scandal occurs. Were the man's claims about dirty dishes or overly cheeky behavior so unfounded?
• A woman often considers herself offended, offended and does not understand why one careless word or a casually thrown phrase causes such a storm of indignation. The answer is simple - too many problems have fallen on the guy's shoulders and he cannot carry this burden further.
• Throw away unnecessary emotions and realize the reason for what happened. It is better to reconcile when the passions subside. Wait for this moment and only then start a conversation, without criticism or complaints. If you see that the man has not yet calmed down, do not take risks, otherwise the conflict will flare up with renewed vigor.
• The young man may need time to think. If after 2-3 days he did not come up first with words of reconciliation, this does not mean at all that you are indifferent to him. Do not press or pester with questions.
• A risky way to get a guy's reaction is jealousy. If you are a brave lady, try to stay with your friends a couple of times or go to a restaurant without him. It is difficult to predict what answer will follow from a man, so it is up to you to decide whether to go for provocations.
• Psychologists recommend putting up with your loved one before nightfall so that the quarrel does not become protracted. In addition, no one has canceled the good old way of reconciliation in bed, where all resentments and disagreements will instantly be forgotten by themselves.
• Don't get family and friends involved in your disagreements. It often happens that a woman herself complains to her mother, and then worries about the mother-in-law's bias towards her son-in-law. Moreover, you should not manipulate children in conflict with your husband, this can be a blow to the fragile psyche.

If the woman herself is the main provocateur in the quarrel, then she should take a 2-3 day time-out. But not so much for realizing the reasons, as for pacifying one's own pride, because sometimes the most difficult thing is to say words of repentance. How exactly will you ask forgiveness in his man depends on the degree of guilt and his character. But most of the males will not resist a chic homemade dinner with a further logical conclusion to the evening.

Do not drag out the scandal, otherwise the young man will feel unnecessary, this will complicate the situation even more.

How to make up with a friend

We all have friends and girlfriends, the reason for disagreement with them is often completely opposite characters, temperaments, as well as outlook on life. In addition to minor grievances, sometimes serious conflicts also occur. How in this situation to move from a state of confrontation to a peaceful resolution of the problem?

First of all, do not do anything on emotions, in anger you can break the wood even more and reconciliation will become completely impossible. Of course, you are overwhelmed with resentment and want to tell a friend everything that is boiling. Pull yourself together, because even if a loved one formally forgives you, your insults will certainly affect further communication.

Take a break, calm down and think it over, analyze the situation. Who was right and who was wrong? Of course, it is easier to solve the problem, if the cause of the scandal was minor misunderstandings, and not betrayal, then it will take more time to "cool down". In any case, you need to wait 2-3 days and not go to reconciliation until you understand how to act. After that, try to immediately resume the relationship, otherwise the resentment of a friend or girlfriend will increase significantly.

How to make peace with a friend? There can be only one way out - this is a frank conversation, in a dialogue with a loved one, the essence of the conflict will be clarified. Discuss the problem with a friend, don't ignore their opinion. How does he see this situation? Put yourself in his place. Maybe you did the wrong thing? What could have caused the offense?

Remember that the thoughts and emotions of a friend can be significantly different from yours, which for some is a trifle, for others it is a disaster. If you really want to maintain the relationship, listen, avoid slippery topics in conversation that offend and annoy the person. And do not discuss your quarrel with your buddies and friends, this can make things worse. Well, if, despite the efforts, a friend or girlfriend does not want to resume communication, then you have become superfluous in their life, do not impose and walk away.

How to make peace with mom

Conflict generations is an eternal topic, it is difficult to find at least one person who has never had any disagreements with their parents. All people have the right to their own point of view, different from ours, and mom is no exception.

If the scandal could not be avoided at the initial stage, it is important to take timely measures and go to reconciliation. But what to do when mom refuses to do it? Here you need to understand in detail and answer yourself a few questions:

• On whose shoulders lies the blame for what happened?
• What's the age difference between you? Agree, when there is a difference of 35-40 years between parents and children, which is not uncommon now, their outlook on life can be radically different.
• Are you financially and psychologically dependent on each other?
• Do you live together or separately?
• What kind of temperament and character do you or your mother have?
• Who does she think she is? A simple housewife or an energetic business lady?
• How old are you? 15-20 or are you already a mature independent woman?
• How does the father behave in this situation? Is he neutral or does he support someone else's point of view?

The further forecast of reconciliation depends on all these factors, because no one knows how your mother can behave in a given situation.

To begin with, understand the simple thing that the way of thinking, style of behavior, culture, ability to solve problems - all of this originates from the family. No matter how you deny, but without realizing it, you copy what you saw in childhood.

Psychologists say that in the people around us, we are most annoyed by those qualities that we do not accept in ourselves, even if we hide them well. In other words, when you quarrel with your mom, you are in conflict with your own reflection. So can it be easier to admit this fact and work on your own shortcomings in order to close the question "who is to blame" once and for all?

Methods of reconciliation with mom:

• Understand that your mom acted in the only right way for herself. Yes, you feel resentment, pain and bitterness, but maybe she could not have been otherwise simple? Think of other situations where others thought you were wrong. Could you at that moment solve the problem differently, say different words? Probably not. So your mom decided to do as she did. Surely, she did not want to hurt you and already regrets what she did.
• Psychologists often advise putting yourself in the shoes of your parents and presenting a similar conflict, but with your children (if any). How would you react?
• Be stronger and be the first to take a step towards reconciliation. No extra words are needed, actions characterize a person much better.
• Admit your mistakes, but do not remind her of her mistakes, so as not to start all over again. Do not try foaming at the mouth to prove that you have been treated unfairly. Over time, everything will be settled, it will fall into place and you can delicately discuss everything again.
• You should not put up with SMS and phone, but for a conversation it is better to choose a quiet place for privacy.

How to make up after a violent quarrel

For any family quarrel it should be remembered that the psychology of men and women is different, so you need to act differently if you want to be reconciled.

If a woman is scandalous, feels offended and in no case wants to be alone in such a difficult moment, then a man after a conflict needs to be alone with himself for some time, let off steam. It would be nice to let him get some air or spend the evening with friends, after asking for forgiveness. It is likely that upon arrival he will not remember the quarrel.

You do not need to perceive the silence of a man as a way of manipulating you, he just gradually comes to his senses and ponders the situation.

If in the course of the scandal you uttered a lot of unnecessary phrases like “let's part” or “I don't love you anymore,” then admit as soon as possible that it was said in a rush and you don’t think so. The fact is that guys take such statements seriously, and if they are not refuted in time, then after a few days he himself may start talking about the possibility of a divorce.